Firstly by writing this, I'm not saying virgins are superior or non virgin are lesser and I'm not generalising all female virgins, it's just what I've experienced myself and I want to take the stigma away of us all being prudes or superior and I want other girls like me to feel impowered not ashamed of their virginity.
Why am I still a virgin at 20?
Basically i never planned on being at virgin in my 20s but I just saw a lot of other girls when I was in my teens acting like it was a race and throwing themselves at any boy who showed them any attention and they thought because they were sexually active that some how meant they were grown up and muture whilst being used for sex by boys who had no respect for them and it usually ended in tears so I stayed well away from boys till I was around 18 when I became more interested, I was a late on the that train and people just thought I was a lesbian because of it. But I've just basically never found the right guy and whenever I thought I did it never worked out.
1. We're not that innocent.
I literally hate when people find out I'm a virgin and say stuff like "aww your so pure and innocent" no I'm not I know how sex works and just because I have not had it definitely doesn't mean I'm innocent. I constantly make rude, flirtly jokes with my guy friends and I probably know more then some sexually active girls do. just because you're not a virgin doesn't mean you know everything about sex all of a sudden.
2. Were not prudes, just highly selective.
A big misconception is that female virgins must be prudes. Well we're not we just don't want to give a virginity away to someone who doesn't deserve it. a lot of it has to do with self respect not saying non virgin don't have that. We just want to know when the time is right it's with a good guy, who respects us and treats us right not just a one night stand who only cares about what he's getting out of it.
3. Non virgins who like to shame us.
Yes am I'm a virgin who can't drive but why does that concern anyone else ? I've experienced lots of non virgins try and make fun, embarrass and shame me for being a virgin funny enough most theses people are also the ones who have a tendency to sleep around. It's just pure jealously because they regret the choices they made when they lost theirs. It seems kinda stupid as to why my virginity would concern others and its none of their business.
4. Creepy guy's who have fetishes about virgins.
I'm sure there's probably some creepy guys reading this trying to find something to get there jollies off from reading this. Well yes I kinda did write this purposely for you guys but not in the why your probably hoping. Im awear of the culture around virgins and I literally laugh at them. I can't believe there's some guys stupid enough to believe if they kill themselves in the name of their religion but they'll be met in heaven with hundreds of virgins.
Sorry to disappoint you but we're not some holy mystical being were just normal everyday people and if we'd sleep with someone so immature and ignorant about women. Men like that are one's we purposely try to avoid.
5. We can't get laid
Some people just assumed because I'm a virgin I can't get laid and guys are just not attracted to be which is definitely not ture. I get many offers on a daily basis. I'm a virgin by choice. I'm not just going to sleep with anyone I'm better than that and have respect for myself. If a guy wants to sleep with me I'm sorry but he's going to be in a commited relationship with me as well.
6. We're no fun
The stereotype of virgins are usually but we're all stuck up prudes, who don't know how to have fun and are boring . Funny enough I'm the complete opposite to that. I go out partying and traveling the world all time, meeting lots of new people and having lots of crazy adventures, I have a life outside of being a virgin. Being a virgin doesn't define who I am as a person.
7. There's nothing wrong with us?
To all the other girl who might be reading this and thinking there must be something wrong with them because their still a virgin and all their friends are not. Firstly there's nothing wrong with you and you need to get off your arse and stop crying about it or that's probably why. If you constantly act miserable about it and bring it into every relationship of crouse that guys going to be scared off because he'll feel pressured.
Secondly your virginity is not a race and you shouldn't make such a big deal out of it, it will happen when it happens and once your done your probably think "is that it" and feel silly about making so much fuss over it.
Your beautiful the way you are and you just need to wait for a guy who's smart enough to see what he's got right in front of him, don't go rushing trying to change yourself and the person you are because you think someone will love you for it because that's not what love is and you should always wait to its someone who truly loves you as much as you love them and yourself never forget to love yourself frist or no one else will.