A lot of GaG'ers, especially the gentlemen, ask about dating advice. As a 48 year old man separated from his wife for just over three years with no chance of getting back together, I reflected on some of the dating tips I heard over the years. My favorite one, and I'm a big fan of this, is "The Rule of 3".
The Rule of 3 is pretty simple: everything happens after three. So, here's the basic run down:
I'll use me as an example. There's this very attractive, young redhead who works at the local pharmacy that caught my eye about a month ago. So, putting myself into the role of a third person narrator, here is how I would advise myself.
1. Catch a woman's eye that you like, and do something subtle, yet natural, too draw her attention to you, like smiling and winking at her. Do this three separate times, with no less than three days in between.
2. After completing Step 1 three times, approach and flirt with her. Repeat two more times, again, with no less than three days separation.
3. After completing Step 2 three times, start up a casual conversation with her.
4. After three repetitions of Step 3, ask her number.
5. Wait three days before calling her.
6. After the third phone call, ask her out on a date.
7. After taking her home, wait three seconds to kiss her.
8. No "Base Advancement" until after every third date.
It's time tested and it works. It builds up anticipation, keeps you from appearing desperate or over eager, and forces both parties on getting to know each other on an intellectual, emotional, and, for lack of a better term, spiritual level.
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Only if you still have the incentive, desire, will, or even heart. Otherwise you'll realize maybe it really doesn't matter at all anymore. Of course for those that really want a family and kids or marriage some day, I can can understand that it's reasonable to keep trying, otherwise what else is there? What's really the point to pursue anybody, when anybody you have you are gonna lose anyway?
You still haven't learned ANYTHING after your divorce?
STAY AWAY FROM WOMEN. They will ruin your life!
I'm sorry, but is an addiction I have and do not want cured. I cannot think of a more beautiful creation in all the world than that of women, short or tall; skinny or Rubenesque; blonde, brunette, redhead, or raven haired.
And I did NOT say I ear divorced, merely separated with no chance of reconciliation. There is a difference.
I'd rather think with my brain than with my dick.
the three day has never been cool.
yes he needs to stay way from women. i mean FAR FAR FAR AWAY. As long as women logic exists you can't make logic out of women's actions or words. therefore your logical thinking, strategy and game plane is more hearsay than it is situational.
plus your strategy looks like it was taken from an outdated dating advice post.
@clever_seeker Thank you for your input, but, as I've said, I am not about to give up, and trust me, I've given thought to it, said I would, but I still haven't, and never will. (I'm a Capricorn and, like the goat, I can be very stubborn and steadfast.) Besides, I am not a quitter; if one way doesn't work, I'll try another, and if that doesn't work, I'll keep trying different methods until I find one that works for me.
As for this being "outdated" advice, well, what can I say? Sometimes the old ways are the best ways, and I'm nothing if not stepped in old school beliefs. I believe men should behave as gentlemen on a date. I am a fan of classic cars, classic rock, and Harley-Davidsons. And I believe women should be treated like ladies. So, yeah, call me old-fashioned, call me over-the-hill, just don't call me late for dinner. 😉
I'm also a Detroit Lions fan, which is the very definition of an eternal optimist. LOL (And, having grown up in the Greater Detroit Area, gives me the right to rip on Detroit and the Lions, but it's all out of love. 💙💙💙💙
The young women today are VERY different from the ones in your time. They are utter trash and not worth dating or having any kind of relationship with them.
I agree and disagree with that statement. Yes, young women today are different from, say, sixty years ago, but that doesn't mean that they're ALL bad, or that they don't development special treatment. I still believe most women want a man who is not only cool, confident, and secure, but is willing to treat her like a lady and pay special attention to her and her wants, needs, and desires.
When I date a women, I'm dating her and ONLY her. I don't keep a "little black book" of names I to whenever I feel "the need". I'm am all in, or not at all. There is no in between with me, and that goes for everything from cooking to cleaning to riding a Harley. Heck, I'm even considering converting my Camaro Z28 from an automatic to manual transmission, but I digress.
Women will always fascinate, frustrate, and intrigue me unlike anything else imaginable.
Well, i kinda feel bad for you for being so addicted to women.
Don't be. Besides, there are worse things to be addicted to.
fuck that I can't be bothered
Congratulations! You just provided evidence to support my hypothesis that the problem worth society today is that everyone wants instant gratification. Well done, sir! Very well done! media.giphy.com/media/65fiHpjKxyBgc/giphy.gif
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