I was dating my best friend and my now, ex-boyfriend for the past 4 years. Things started off like a dream, but it wasn't long before he became argumentative and even emotionally violent. Although I knew that this was wrong, I loved him so much and was willing to put up with his ways. I would go to work, and dread coming home, but I was hoping that I would get my man back, the way he was when we first met.
One day I was walking home and I ran into a man that lived nearby. He was completely the opposite of what I go for. My ex was 6'2, blue eyes, blonde hair and nicely built... this man though was 5'5, dark hair and eyes, quite scrawny, but yet something caught my eye nonetheless.
The man proceeded to make a joke and was super friendly. As I gazed into his eyes, I felt like he could sense my pain. I don't know what it was, but I couldn't stop thinking about him. I would walk home from work for the next 3 months and we would chat. He was always so positive and radiated this loving energy that I couldn't deny.
One day, he asked me to coffee, and I told him that I have a boyfriend. He told me that he would be more than happy to be just friends, and I agreed. Over the next 2 months, his friendship is what kept me going, until that dreadful day... I came home and my now ex, had been drinking. He was livid about his debt and lack of job prospective, and was destroying everything in sight, I was so scared, and at that point I knew what I had to do. The next day I moved out. I was heartbroken, and it took time, but a few months later I agreed to dinner with the neighbor. He was incredible. In fact, now that we are engaged after 2 years I couldn't be happier. My friends had made comments on his shortness, or his scrawniness- but I don't care. I fell in love with his heart and his mind. And that made him so attractive to me...
Ladies and gentlemen out there, please recognize that looks are deceiving.
In order to really open yourself up to the possibility of love, you have to take a risk. Take a risk even if it's someone that you wouldn't consider before, because they may pleasantly surprise you.