Everything you said you don't agree with is exactly the what I'm saying. I don't think a girl owes anything for a drink... That's what my last statement was
I suppose some girls are oblivious, but i feel like so many love being pursued that they forget to evaluate if they even like the guy until way into it all.
its a shitty thing to do, but everyone is shitty i guess
Accepting a drink and talking with someone is usually how you find out if you're interested or not. If after chatting with them you find that you don't want to further get to know them, why should you be penalized for that?
Accepting a drink is like going on a mini date. If you’re open to getting to know them and see if there’s potential you take the drink and if it doesn’t work it doesn’t work. All you owe them is a genuine chance.
If you know from the start you’re not interested, then it’s wrong to accept.
This shit is a minefield. If you be nice to a guy, you're labelled as leading him on but if your actively avoiding "sending out signals" you're a bitch/horrible piece of shit that all those Incels use as an argument to kill all women.
No, simply being nice doesn't = interested. If you're flirting with him, talking to him for a long time, accepting drinks, accepting future plans and telling them you'll let them know when they are available, but have no intentions of seeing the guy again and aren't interested in him, looks like leading them on
Most women lead guys on Now days. They use men for sexual pleasure. And then dump that guy like a bad habit and then marry some nice rich guy after riding the cock carousel and eating the cock buffet.
Women are cunning.
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I don't understand why it's so difficult for people to just be honest and communicate. Seriously, it's not hard.
Dudes aren't batshit crazy at all - women are the ones that don't know what they want and are impossibly fickle. Hell, even other women admit that one ;) Nah, it's all about what you do AFTER that smile... not the fact that you smiled in the first place. You smile, he sees interest (which, let's be honest, there was a sort of interest- you didn't exactly turn away, right? ) and engages... at that point, it's up to you to get across that the interest you intended was nothing more than a friendly response, or (if it was) something more.
There is a difference between being a person with a nice smile, and smiling at someone. And I beg to differ, women in fact have way more bat shit in their caves than men. We are very simple creatures!
@MrMAC777 uh huh... Very simple creatures that make up imaginary rules in their heads about the level of appropriate a smile can be... Keep telling yourself that...
Of course not. That's why I said it's what you do after the smile that matters. Most of the time it's a harmless thing and no follow up is needed/wanted, but occasionally those signals do get crossed - like when two people just happen to look at each other at the same time and one sees what they think is a flash of recognition, but upon closer examination, it turns out the other party was looking at the person behind them or whatnot. It's not a big deal, and certainly nothing "crazy" involved.
@MrNameless well a girl could be smiling at something her friends said, then accidentally makes eye contact with someone. She would not be smiling at you in that case. So you are right, inexperienced kids would miss that one.
Men and women are guilty of doing this. I never lead a guy on because its happened to me and I don't treat anyone like that. If I don't like them, I tell them its not working out.
Yup, nothing wrong with free shit. The problem is that a lot of men are just ot-nay oo-tay ight-bray. Sorry, but when I bought a woman I didn't know at all a drink, I knew that all I was buying was some conversation and company for so long as the drink lasted.
really feel that a woman is only actually leading a guy on if she's doing it on purpose. (same goes for guys). Like if they tell you they want you and you make a move or ask them out and they immediately start backtracking
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I don't agree with your thought process.
signals are always goofy and everyone likes free drink
and if someone is talking to you for some time, it doesn't give you permission to have sex.
buying a drink for her doesn't mean buying her
also she should have thrown some money to compensate for that drink
Everything you said you don't agree with is exactly the what I'm saying.
I don't think a girl owes anything for a drink... That's what my last statement was
lol but in the middle you had very different tone,
so i skimmed the remaining part xD
yeah my bad 😅😅😅
I'm just talking about ways to aviod send the wrong signals lol
signals are very ambiguous, i dnt think its easy to differentiate between wrong and right signals
did this happened with you yesterday?
cuz u said you were going to club?
I went with Dom... So I did not talk to a random guy for 3 hours. Lol, no this is not my experience.
lol
ohhhk
my bad
You’re not allowed to say ‘you’re asing for it’ so you say ‘you’re being a vixen.’
But it you stay with a guy for 3 hours and let him buy you any number of drinks he has a right to be upset when you say no...
Haha I was thinking more along the lines of b*tch... I just usually avoid that word... I'm allowed to say whatever I want wht
I suppose some girls are oblivious, but i feel like so many love being pursued that they forget to evaluate if they even like the guy until way into it all.
its a shitty thing to do, but everyone is shitty i guess
Accepting a drink and talking with someone is usually how you find out if you're interested or not. If after chatting with them you find that you don't want to further get to know them, why should you be penalized for that?
You shouldn't! But if you're spending 3 hours "finding out"... that could be a bit questionable, yes?
@NoBullsh1t after 3hrs, yeah maybe lol.
that's true.
Accepting a drink is like going on a mini date. If you’re open to getting to know them and see if there’s potential you take the drink and if it doesn’t work it doesn’t work. All you owe them is a genuine chance.
If you know from the start you’re not interested, then it’s wrong to accept.
This shit is a minefield. If you be nice to a guy, you're labelled as leading him on but if your actively avoiding "sending out signals" you're a bitch/horrible piece of shit that all those Incels use as an argument to kill all women.
No, simply being nice doesn't = interested. If you're flirting with him, talking to him for a long time, accepting drinks, accepting future plans and telling them you'll let them know when they are available, but have no intentions of seeing the guy again and aren't interested in him, looks like leading them on
@MrNameless I’ve only smiled at men before. They messaged me saying that they’re interested and get angry when I say I’m not. I’m done with this.
Most women lead guys on Now days.
They use men for sexual pleasure.
And then dump that guy like a bad habit and then marry some nice rich guy after riding the cock carousel and eating the cock buffet.
Women are cunning.
I don't understand why it's so difficult for people to just be honest and communicate. Seriously, it's not hard.
exactly.
Well this would just be too fucking easy...
@MrMAC777
Lolol
Gag would certainly go out of business.
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@VIVANT haha true dat!
You smile... You are leading them on.
You don't smile... Everyone tells you to smile more...
Fucking dudes are batshit crazy
Dudes aren't batshit crazy at all - women are the ones that don't know what they want and are impossibly fickle. Hell, even other women admit that one ;)
Nah, it's all about what you do AFTER that smile... not the fact that you smiled in the first place. You smile, he sees interest (which, let's be honest, there was a sort of interest- you didn't exactly turn away, right? ) and engages... at that point, it's up to you to get across that the interest you intended was nothing more than a friendly response, or (if it was) something more.
@NoBullsh1t no one sane puts that much thought into whether or not they should smile... Crazy.
There is a difference between being a person with a nice smile, and smiling at someone. And I beg to differ, women in fact have way more bat shit in their caves than men. We are very simple creatures!
@MrMAC777 uh huh... Very simple creatures that make up imaginary rules in their heads about the level of appropriate a smile can be... Keep telling yourself that...
Of course not. That's why I said it's what you do after the smile that matters. Most of the time it's a harmless thing and no follow up is needed/wanted, but occasionally those signals do get crossed - like when two people just happen to look at each other at the same time and one sees what they think is a flash of recognition, but upon closer examination, it turns out the other party was looking at the person behind them or whatnot.
It's not a big deal, and certainly nothing "crazy" involved.
You must spend a lot of time in your bedroom girl. There are different types of smiles, and I personally know when a girl is smiling AT me.
Pretty sure most guys know that smile = interested. Only the really unexperienced ones may think that
@MrNameless well a girl could be smiling at something her friends said, then accidentally makes eye contact with someone. She would not be smiling at you in that case. So you are right, inexperienced kids would miss that one.
Men and women are guilty of doing this. I never lead a guy on because its happened to me and I don't treat anyone like that. If I don't like them, I tell them its not working out.
Couldn't agree more. Way too many girls manipulate other guys unconsciously, and wouldn't admit it even if they thought about it.
Women are awful at being upfront. Everything is so nuanced with them. Just say "not interested" in a polite but obvious way.
Even worse is when she isn't interested but leads you on because she's a mooch.
Great Mytake. a lot of women out there don't even realize that they're leading the guy on but the points you made on here were very clear.
She could always refuse the drink, but everyone loves free shit.
Yup, nothing wrong with free shit. The problem is that a lot of men are just ot-nay oo-tay ight-bray. Sorry, but when I bought a woman I didn't know at all a drink, I knew that all I was buying was some conversation and company for so long as the drink lasted.
really feel that a woman is only actually leading a guy on if she's doing it on purpose. (same goes for guys). Like if they tell you they want you and you make a move or ask them out and they immediately start backtracking
Buying drinks is silly. Here you go: I'll fund you to consume some poison. Oh you don't want any? You must not like me. ?
I like how there are more male responses than females.
that happens on an off so there's no real proof it's true
Omg this is so relatable thanks for sharing it
Interesting, good take