A little intro
This is now my fourth MyTake I have started to write and quit half way through as I thought it wasn't good enough, I've decided to see this one through (Else you wouldn't be reading it). I recommend reading this if:
A) You like some one who you know has cheated in the past
B) You are in a relationship where they have cheated and you didn't end it
What is a Cheater?
Obviously a cheater is some one who while in a relationship has gotten with or done some thing with some one else. The basic definition. But a cheater is more than a simple mistake. This is some one who has chosen that the person In their life who they said is their "one" the one the hold commitments to, the one to share life with.
Traits this shows in a person:
I feel like this one comes obviously, when you engage in a relationship you have mutual commitment where you trust the other person to stay loyal. Breaking some ones trust does damage to some one, damage that is hard to come over.
This person is a coward, if they feel like a little bit of "fun" is worth more than their relationship, its bad relationship that they aren't into. But they are too cowardly to end it, to sort it, to fix it. This also shows traits of some one who can't face up to there responsibilities and if you can't do it in a relationship how can this person lead a good life?
Lack of Consideration
The emotional damage and torment a cheater the person does upon the other in a relationship when cheating is immense. The pain you put them through is the type of pain a normal temperate person wouldn't put their enemies through. How can you possibly want this person in your life?
Some extra nuggets
Myself and a Friend have both recently been in really indecent harsh relationships where the other has been manipulative and border line abusive. And while at the pub looking back, we thought about all the opportunities where we were in the worse ditch in the relationship and had opportunities to cheat. My friend was literally in a different country and asked to bed by a girl who was far nicer, looks and personality wise than his current girlfriend. But he didn't act on it why? Because he had commitments.
This and other stories have lead me to the conclusion that it has nothing to do with the other in the relationship it has everything to do with the cheater. If they are the above traits there is nothing you can do to stop them from cheating. Which is why i would refuse to date one.
To take home
AIot of you reading probably think this is all basic knowledge but if you have been cheated on it is not your fault, it has nothing to do with you.. Some people in this world either have a lot of growing up to do or are a douche bag of a person. Stick away from these people... Feeling can get in the way and you make excuses for them, explanations about why they were "drunk" or some what. But there's no excuse, for example when you are drunk you will stick to the same mindset of when your sober if that is that you don't really care then you won't really care when your drunk but feel more free to do what you want
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