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I think this is a really good thing to have as a guide to stick to what you know you are deserving of. And as long as it doesn't contain superficial or unrealistic things but sticks to a strong sense of self and reflects who you are and what you believe in its a positive and maybe a fun way of looking for a mate. Keep in mind you have to have an open mind to be flexible and be able to adapt your ideas I to growing the meaning of each tho g on the list.
Good girl, add high self esteem and makes as much money as you do to the list. A woman who is as accomplished and self assured as you will meet problems of you're man isn't confident and successful.
Good luck with that toots. Hope you like cats. :)
You're strong willed and hard-headed? That's a giant red flag. No guy is gonna put up with that bullshit. So come down off your high horse and think about what YOU will bring to a relationship that would be considered high value. Cuz women are all about their list of requirements but never give a second thought about what THEY have to offer. And it's not your golden vagina.
There is no problem with "the list" if YOU live up to "the list" to the same extent as you expect of others. The problem that I have is that the vast majority of women who use "the list" do not measure up AT ALL to the standards they demand of men. Instead, they think that they're such innate treasures that they don't have to bring anything to the table but the prospect of getting to their pussy.
There's nothing wrong with having preferences. What makes guys roll our eyes are these girls who 'require' guys to live up to standards the girl herself doesn't even approach. So you have girls who want an Olympic-level athlete with a PhD in electrical engineering who looks like Brad Pitt, yet the girl is average-looking with a muffin top and struggling through her 3rd year of college. Not realistic at all.
I think everyone is entitled to have their own preferred "type" of person they would like to be romantically involved with. To me this is almost a basic human right. I think we still live in a mostly free society, and I hope that this freedom can be protected and encouraged. Honestly, you have this right, and your list can be 1000 items long, but realistically you may never find that person if you become too specific.
Your list is typical for any woman. Every woman wants those things or at least the core principals those bring. It really comes down to how much of these a guy has along with the material result of them as to who she'd chose.
I think the issue with lists is what on them. I mean the list you have made is basically an unrealistic standard to hold any man to, Your type from your list is good looking, athletic, Intelligent, strong willed with good job prospects as far as i read it. So where is there room for any sort of down side since where all flawed in some way, the personality?
Your requirements are not to far out there. Rather reasonable in fact. Men and women have their own requirements for serious relationships, I know many women get butthurt at the list guys have. It's usually because they fall short.
Everyone has a list of the things they want but it is a matter of a couple adjusting to each other's wants and needs to find a compromise. It is superficial if one side far outweighs the other to the point of extreme.
I just want a cool chick who I can connect with mentally and emotionally. Once you have that everything else falls into place.
Those aren't superficial points, they're points of compatibility.
My list is similar. It deals with lifestyle, not strictly with what's on the surface. I don't want another couch potato with no ambition to do anything in life.
Yeah, this list goes down with the flush when you meet someone special.
If you want a lot, you have to give a lot. Even then, if you get with someone just based on an evaluation of criteria, you're going to ultimately be disappointed, because love can't be arranged and organized like a business plan.
Nothing whatsoever wrong with having standards, nothing at all.
You also get to decide what your dealbreakers are, and shouldn't allow anybody to shame you for this. It's your life, your choice.
Most of your list has to do with personality and character. I don't think it's very shallow at all.
Crap I'm uneducated because I didn't go college. :(
Never finish a book before in my life.
Probably weak as shit too, so fitness ain't there.
I have tinder girls at least lol. They don't care.
I think the list becomes the ideal partner sometimes. Like people make up an imaginary person and look for them... I don't think you find love that way but that's just me...
It's a good list, you basically want someone good physically and emotionally that reads books.
That's a perfectly normal check-list, I'd say that's the bare minimum if you have any self-esteem.