When I say this, I may be overreacting to a situation not entirely relevant to what I’m about to discuss on a topic that I am sensitive towards. I don’t think I’m attractive enough to date the kind of man I’d like to be with from a physical perspective. The only attention from guys I’ve received were not my type from an emotional and physical standpoint. I say this as a woman who has had acquaintances that seem to have men flock to them. Most people classified them as average in the face and moderately thin. Yet, they didn’t have to try to seek attention.
I work with children at Psychology based achievement center and an eleven year old boy pointed out that it “looked as if I don’t work out often because of my lack of muscle” (aka, I’m fat). I’ve only been in one short term relationship as a woman in her early twenties. I was a chubby child and moderately chunky teenager.
I slimmed down in my Freshman year of college. I gained the weight back as a Junior and lost the weight as a Senior. I am currently in my last semester of college at a weight between 176-180 lbs depending on what I eat the day prior. The only relationship I’ve been in was at my smallest weight, which is where I’m presently at.
While that sounds overweight (hence it is), I am 5’7 and a women’s dress size of 10-12 depending on the cut. I don’t think I’ll ever be good enough. All the men I’ve witnessed from afar of good looks never showed interest in me and seemed to prefer slimmer women.
I have thick thighs and a smaller upper body (pear shaped). They say men prefer curvy women but that hasn’t been the case for me. My ex was not my type but I still gave him a chance because of his personality and similar shared interests.
I’m told I’m pretty, this does not solely include family members and female friends. The online community. Coworkers. Strangers. Friends of friends. Friends that have shared opinions from other guys, yet those other guys never told me directly. I’ve chosen to stay single not only due to my lack of options based on my below average physical appearance, I also prefer solitude to an extent.
I have come to terms with the realization that my kind of guy doesn’t want anything to do with me. If a young boy can be honest about how he perceives me, this is how a majority of men must see me too. Tell me GAG community, do you think I’m right? Am I possibly below average in physical appearance hence the lack of attention I receive? Are my standards too high?