Dating Preferences I Will Never Change

[Letitgoogoo]

A cheesy photo of a happy couple haha

Hello everybody. I am once again bored and thought I'd write a take about some of my preferences that I will probably never change and not having these things is probably a dealbreaker to me. I'm taking a break from dating and not really thinking about approaching/dating anyone anytime soon . Basically dating has been off the table for me but these are just some must haves that I can't change about what I find attractive.

Please do not get triggered over this , I do not mean to insult or offend anyone. These are my personal preferences .

1. Intelligence

No he doesn't have to be as smart as a TV character lol I just love sherlock and cumberbatch 😍

Okay I'm not saying a man has to be a genius for me to like him , however I tend to notice when a man is smart and hard working. It is an immediate turn on for me . And I would say it is a requirement , unless a guy is perfect in every other way then maybe it wouldn't be a dealbreaker.

2. Humbleness

I absolutely hate it when a guy is arrogant . I'm not saying a person shouldn't be confident , however there is a fine line between ' I know I'm good at what I do' and ' I'm better than everyone at this and don't respect other peoples opinions on this'. It is an immediate turn off when a guy is arrogant , I could probably fall out of love with someone just because they turned out to be cocky.

3. Not lazy

I won't lie , I get lazy often. And I understand that everyone has their moments and they can't be productive all the time. However when it's time to get serious , I never slack off. And I would expect a guy to be the same way. I wouldn't want a guy who isn't serious and just wants to play around and waste his time.

4. A good person

If you treat other people like dirt then I will dislike you very quickly. If someone is just standing up for themselves then that's fine , but a person who is a straight up bully is not someone I would want to be with at all.

5. Decisiveness

I just have a thing for that , I haaaate when people can't make a desicion or aren't good at making tough desicions and just accept whatever happens to them. I want a man who knows how to make a good desicion and thinks about the kind of desicions he makes.

6. An animal lover

No he doesn't have to be a complete animal lover , but I would prefer it if he was. I just can't see myself dating someone who absolutely hates the presence of pets and doesn't want to be around them at all. That to me would be a problem. But I wouldn't mind if he didn't like them but didn't hate them.

7. A risk taker

I can't stand people who like to play it safe , of course in some cases that is the right thing to do . But in general I want someone who isn't afraid to take a calculated risk and work hard to make sure it goes as well as it possibly can. It is how I am and I would want the man to be the same way.

8. Maturity

Of course I don't mean he can't have a funny or childish side , who doesn't like a guy with a good sense of humor right?

What I'm saying is that if he cares about all the wrong things in life and doesn't seem to learn from his mistakes at all , that is just a turn off for me. I have seen guys who gave up all their friends and wasted their time and effort just to spend time with some girl that they knew didn't even want them . That , to me , is stupid and immature.

And I've seen 'troublemakers' types of guys and those guys just do not appeal to me.at.all.

9. Cleanliness

He doesn't have to be extremely polished or well dressed, however smelling good and putting on well ironed and clean looking clothes is enough. I myself don't dress super fancy so I wouldn't care if a guy didn't either. Just causal and non greasy is enough .

10. Respectful

If you can't respect other peoples opinions and perspectives without attacking them or getting angry over them then that to me is a huge turn off. It is important to me that a man knows he doesn't have to be right all the time , and that he can just say ' you know what , we can agree to disagree and I respect your opinion ' . It is not that difficult to be respectful and well mannered to other people.

Hope you enjoyed this take. And feel free to list your dealbreakers too if you have any.

[LegateLanius]

5. About the only hang up I have is if I go out with a future darling that she expects me to pick the place we go all the time. I like to spice it up so I would like her to choose as well.

[Wowgirl10q]

Awesome take miss lady

[DizzyDesii]

#5 is the biggest prob in my relationship. He can't keep his word

[Branwenn]

You and I have very similar taste! This is great!