Each nice, sweet decent guy I've dated, I had to make all the first moves.
Both my long term boyfriends, I approached. They were very receptive and it went really well.
Then somewhere down the line after breaking up with my last boyfriend I guess I forgot. I stopped making moves, it had been so long since I was single after all.
And I keep wondering why I'm attracting cheaters, players and liars now. Like did something about me change? These guys come off all nice in the beginning and then it turns out they are dating 4 other people or have a wife or some other terrible thing.
But now I get it, the only guys who approach me, no matter how sweet they seem at first are all "bad" guys. It's like only the bad ones have the balls to approach me. And I'd forgot that I found the good ones that I did by going for them (non-aggressively) and not waiting around hoping they'll make a move.
I thought I was being "girly" by letting guys take the reigns but that's never been how I catch the good ones! It's been two years of all the worst guys, being single and I'm taking the reigns back to find an honest nice guy who treats me like a human being.
I let a really good one go by just hoping he'd ask me out. We flirted all the time. He's shy and he always had a big smile to share with me and we always had the best conversations, laughs and eye contact, I was such a dumby for not asking him out!! I know from his friend that he liked me, now that it's too late and he moved.
It's like all the douchebags swoop in and compliment and fake their way into a girl's life because they have an ego big enough to do it and all the normal decent guys who are actually nice don't because their egos aren't so inflated that they need to blatantly go around seducing whatever woman. They don't need it but they'd like it and they'd do it properly!
I'm excited now that I've figured this out. Go get yourself a good one ladies!