Why I personally Find Dating in Real Life Much Easier than Online (Page 2)

[ALewis30]

Online dating sucks! There's nothing but hackers, scammers, liars and fake people. I prefer to meet woman in real life. But of them are very timid, shy and\or stuck up

[JeremyT]

Not all dating site are equal. I did register to a site and figure out that all the girls where fake and not local. Lie is part of the game, men lie about their height and women about their weight. I like dating site because it's faster. You have some information before the first meetings. As long as she is honest in the description.

[leestella1999]

Crazy online friends I meet online because of my money and boobs.

[humanearth]

I never did computer dating. So i have nothing to compare it to.

[sean1234]

Online dating? No such thing. They are all fake. Fake women and in most cases, fake dating web-sites.

[Screenwriter]

Maybe the catfish thing is more prominent today. But I did some shorterm online meeting in 2014 and met up with three men after talking on the phone to have a walk and talk or coffee. They weren't fake and neither was I.

[sean1234]

@Screenwriter 4 years is a long time these days. I'm not saying there aren't a few ladies who are real and even if there are they get bugged a lot by to many men. One girl said she got emailed 1000 times in only a few days. I myself have gotten messages about 3 times on the same POF site in 1 or 2 years.

[Screenwriter]

There are ways to determine if they're fake. If they won't talk to you on the phone or video chat or meet, you've just about gotten your answer. Meeting IRL dispells most myths. Time is also the great equalizer. Anyone can lie online. Hard to keep up that level of untruth while dating over time. This is WHY people date. You find out all eventually.

[sean1234]

@Screenwriter the girl that said she got emailed over 1000 times said that from here on POF.

[sean1234]

blah, I mean here on Girls ask guys, lol

[longfellow420]

I dated someone I met online for a year. One day she vanished. I drove an hour away to "her" house to find out her husband just got out of prison after a year and a half lol he wasn't happy 💁‍♂️

[kojikurac]

Real life dating was always better than online.

[DWD94]

I disagree. Online dating is easier and much more efficient.

[Screenwriter]

I'm down with the efficiency angle. You read through profiles anonymously and see what attracts you or distracts you from a person. Then you contact them or not. See what they have to say to you verbally. Chat with them a while, then decide to meet for coffee. See how that goes. Then decide to go out on a date and see how that ends up. The online part is simply a filter. Like you either picking up or ignoring a phone message. It's screening.

[DWD94]

@Screenwriter See thats basically what I mean. Plus, with online dating you know at the very least the person you're messaging is interested in dating. When you're approaching someone you dont know in real life, you have no idea if they are in a relationship, single or if they're even interested in dating.

[Screenwriter]

OK I gotta disagree with you about a person who responds to you online is interested in "dating." I think they're interested in chatting. You cannot know if an online person is in a relationship, single or if they're interested in ACTUAL dating. I define "dating" as going out and doing things together. If someone wants to spend time with you, they're interested in being physically present with you. You also talk and learn about each other. You find out how a person carries themselves, what their manners are like, what kind of meals they enjoy, what their hobbies are and if you like to participate in the same kinds of exercise. You find out if you have "chemistry." If you enjoy each others' company. You cannot determine this if you aren't physically with each other. This is where online relationships are sorely lacking. And why they can drag on far longer than RL dating where you find out in person quirks that drive you crazy and end the interaction.

[BigJake]

I never found it that hard to date online. Yeah, finding quality people online is tough, but that's true in person, too.

[Shellyworld]

I met interesting people online but they live too far away. That is the only negative thing I can say.

[HornetsFan2099]

real life = real expectations ▫️▫️ you know that they are a real person and not just a photo

[Anonymous]

I agree with @Browneye57. Online dating is for weirdos..
We're all weird in a sense but people who use these sites seem really creepy

[MoneyBeets]

online dating is for fat lazy people with no social life.

[es20490446e]

It's just simpler to judge if you like someone if you can see them for real.

[Anonymous]

What's the difference between a racial preference and a fetish?

[myTake Owner]

you know how much it sucks when some creepy old geezer says "i love asians! did you know my ex wife was Filipino, and we had 5 kids together? I just love Asians soooo much!" you probably would think what's the big deal cuz your a dude.

[Opinion Owner]

Name anything you like about guys and convince me it's not a fetish...

[myTake Owner]

racial preference most of the time the guy will still respect you as a HUMAN BEING. A fetish (most of the time is the case) expects that person to behave a certain way because of their race and are objects of fantasies. I have yet to meet a guy that "only dates asians" treat their partners as more than a submissive trophy.

[Robertcw]

I’ve never met an actual guy who thinks any of that. Lots of guys just find Asian girls really pretty.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, my money would be on that the *girls interpretation* was that they're being fetishized. And that was essentially my point. If you don't like it then it's a fetish and if you do then it's just a preference.

[myTake Owner]

At op, how would you like a dude trying to teach you "your culture" when you can give zero fucks about it? I'd bet you would be bored af

[myTake Owner]

@Robertcw guessing you like the petiteness of Asians

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, but that's not necessarily a fetish, that's just being an asshole.
I hear that stuff all the time: Grr, white people, this is your culture. So oppressive. Colonizers. And so on. It's (hopefully) got nothing to do with sexuality, but people still try to lecture me about my culture. That's just them being assholes.

Besides even if it was a fetish that isn't necessarily a problem. Plenty of people are into BDSM fetish stuff or simple things like feet. If a guy likes the shape of your feet that doesn't negate his actually appreciation for your person-hood, he just likes something about you that you don't care about. I feel like the same thing applies with being Asian, it's still just about appearance on the surface of a person. I think you're conflating a fetish with being an asshole.

[myTake Owner]

maybe... their are more assholes then actually normal guys

[Opinion Owner]

The common factor there is you. Sounds more like a pet peeve.

[Whocouldibe]

Oh my gosh the Asian fetish! Lol relatable

[Anonymous]

Online dating in real life is good, unless you don't come in contact with any single guys in a small town.

[Opinion Owner]

That should be just, Dating* in real life...

[Robert757]

That's the same situation I'm in here with girls. Much rather meet in person, but when you don't see anyone around ever, online dating it is.

[Green_jelly91]

Hey I've been on some dating sites and never found anybody

[ChefCurry]

Online dating is for wackos

[HereIbe]

I happen to like axe-crazy.

[monkeynutts]

I have an Asian foot fetish.