There can be many reasons to cheat. Monogamy is very difficult, and life is fundamentally suffering. But even in the contexts of true betrayal or abuse, it's probably still better to just leave on those grounds than to cheat. And after that it's ok to get with whomever.
But those you mentioned are issues that do break down relationships, and unfortunately lot of women find that they can get by without changing, or at least acknowledging to those they've wronged that they ought to. So those womens actions do leave a usually long lasting impresson on us.
You sound like a good person. Just remember not everyone is the same. I do think some of older things are starting to wear off. Went on trip with my son and girlfriend he didn't try to carry her heavy bag expected her to do it. Eventually I did.
? I've never cheated in my and i absolutely won't date masculine women, not my preference.
I'm only saying so far, just like you just did. Many girls have in my personal experience been very fast to judge me because of their experience with men completely unrelated to me in every way.
Its not a matter of cans and donts, its only preference of what is attractive in a mans eyes when he beholds a girl.
Personally i dont find cursingnor swearing to be defeminizing, i suppose it depends more on the tone how. But generally that wouldn't change my opinion on wether or not i like a girl or not.
If a girl is masucline in behaviour, clothing and general style i will find that highly unattractive though
What would you do if you had a boyfriend who refused to have sex with you for months on end without any explanation that you feel is good enough and feels more like trying to rid the question into the air.
You can have preferences as soon as you dont try to change a masculine. If you like a feminine girl, you should date feminine girls. But what i dont understand is why a guy dont introduce her to his parents although he know she is masculine.
All that parentsl stuff is kinda out of my perspective, i have a different take, if i like a girl enough il introduce her anyway. Because i dont care what my parents think.
Also to develop my thoughts on cheating, i would never do that, id break it off long before there was a chance for that to happen.
Yea 2 days ago, but i dont see her being wrong on the points i agree with. Most of which i do, even if for parents i just dont care. As for masculinity and femininity. If a girl is madculine i won't consider her as a dating possibility, which is why that to me isn't a problem to deal with.
And as you mentioned that you dont date masculine women but she really except women to change instead of suggesting them to find a guy who like masculine guy
And as you mentioned that you dont date masculine women and that is ok but she really excepts women to change instead of suggesting them to find a guy who likes masculine woman**
WOW I can't believe how many mean and nasty cold hearted cunts are on this site my god it's mindblowing christ no wonder guys are so miserable with "women" when they act like beasts of nature
I guess you didn't see my comment but anyway, I just wanted to thank you for basically defending me for those girls who were attacking me. I've received many hate because of this myTake, someone even called me "slut", but well, thanks again for everything. Have a great day ahead! ☺️
Someone who understands and knows reality. But the "Cheating" part was not appropriate (little bit wrong), you could have explained it in different way.
Hope every women is like you!!
And notice the difference in likes on this mytake. Proves everything.
Reminds me of the good-old days. Today we have these feminazis destroying all that is worth for living: love, sex (not the same as love), emotional attachment.
Asking women to be more grateful with guys is like asking a bear to shit in a toilet. But I disagree with you about men needing sex to stay alive. I haven't had sex in almost 14 years and I'm still alive lol.
Well my point is, that to less sex is unhealthy for both body and mind. At lot important hormones are not in your blood stream. For further intel, please consult a sex therapist.
Your spot on. I'm starting to wonder if your actually a guy posing as a woman on here. Well, having guys being the biggest majority of your friends does help to see things from a guy's point of view.
I agree with all of these but I have to disagree on cheating. NEVER blame someone for being cheated on.
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one thing I don't see ever changing unfortuneately and it will always remain an injustice, is the gender role that guys are expected to make the first move and initiate a relationship, something me and tons of other guys have always hated.
You mean empty inbox on dating platforms? I had that, too. And guess what, I had to initiate, otherwise my now-girlfriend would be around with someone else or just waiting there (no blame on her). But I can understand them, They got flooded by messages (mine at least) and she even got a message from a believed porn guy, he offered her money for sex.
Yes, it is normal. Needy jerks and money-providing porn guys flood women inboxes with junk messages. They need a really long block list. I don't blame my girlfriend for this. Like I said, it leads me to her so I'm okay with it.
In an asexual relationship maybe, but not in one where both have a high sex-drive. There sex is really needed, almost on a daily basis to improve the bond. The strong bond then improve quality in sex and so it continues. Sure, no excuse for cheating. Cheating is explainable, not justifiable.
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Wow. You've said it girl. The feelings of every guy. You said it. I congratulate you for that. Well done!
Good Take. I wouldn't excuse cheating by any sex though. And it can happen in happy relationships also.
But otherwise, much appreciated Take and a much needed discussion. Thanks
Yeah it was just an example, men have feelings too. A man could cheat also because his partner is abusive, or because she's not a good listener
There can be many reasons to cheat. Monogamy is very difficult, and life is fundamentally suffering. But even in the contexts of true betrayal or abuse, it's probably still better to just leave on those grounds than to cheat. And after that it's ok to get with whomever.
But those you mentioned are issues that do break down relationships, and unfortunately lot of women find that they can get by without changing, or at least acknowledging to those they've wronged that they ought to. So those womens actions do leave a usually long lasting impresson on us.
or at least without acknowledging*
I'm speaking very generally by the way
Oh yes, monogamy is also one of the main reasons why people cheat.
I agree with what you've said
Well, yes but not monogamy itself, but the individual's lack of commitment
There is no reason to cheat
@kim45456 No it isn't.
You sound like a good person. Just remember not everyone is the same. I do think some of older things are starting to wear off. Went on trip with my son and girlfriend he didn't try to carry her heavy bag expected her to do it. Eventually I did.
Aw thanks. And yeah, I know many people aren't like Spoon or like Knife
Hope your relationship goes well all the time ✨
Thank god for you. If only more girls had this in mind.
Stop being a hoe and dont cheat and if you dont like masculine women, then dont date them
? I've never cheated in my and i absolutely won't date masculine women, not my preference.
I'm only saying so far, just like you just did. Many girls have in my personal experience been very fast to judge me because of their experience with men completely unrelated to me in every way.
But she is blaming women for not being feminine. Women can also curse etc
She also blaming girls for men cheating on them. So if you agree with her all points, you agree with the point about cheating
Its not a matter of cans and donts, its only preference of what is attractive in a mans eyes when he beholds a girl.
Personally i dont find cursingnor swearing to be defeminizing, i suppose it depends more on the tone how. But generally that wouldn't change my opinion on wether or not i like a girl or not.
If a girl is masucline in behaviour, clothing and general style i will find that highly unattractive though
What would you do if you had a boyfriend who refused to have sex with you for months on end without any explanation that you feel is good enough and feels more like trying to rid the question into the air.
You can have preferences as soon as you dont try to change a masculine. If you like a feminine girl, you should date feminine girls. But what i dont understand is why a guy dont introduce her to his parents although he know she is masculine.
All that parentsl stuff is kinda out of my perspective, i have a different take, if i like a girl enough il introduce her anyway. Because i dont care what my parents think.
Also to develop my thoughts on cheating, i would never do that, id break it off long before there was a chance for that to happen.
You have way different opinion than the girl who posts the take. Do you even read what she has written?
Yea 2 days ago, but i dont see her being wrong on the points i agree with. Most of which i do, even if for parents i just dont care.
As for masculinity and femininity. If a girl is madculine i won't consider her as a dating possibility, which is why that to me isn't a problem to deal with.
You also agree with the point about cheating?
And as you mentioned that you dont date masculine women but she really except women to change instead of suggesting them to find a guy who like masculine guy
And as you mentioned that you dont date masculine women and that is ok but she really excepts women to change instead of suggesting them to find a guy who likes masculine woman**
I tgink she just said for masculine women to not be expectant of guys coming to them, could be wrong. Will need to sleep and reread the text honestly.
Lots of girls like picking the wrong guy even when it says it right on his face. I don't know why they still do.
That's also true, haha
More girls, especially feminists and some on here, should read this!
WOW I can't believe how many mean and nasty cold hearted cunts are on this site my god it's mindblowing christ no wonder guys are so miserable with "women" when they act like beasts of nature
Women don't know how to act like real women anymore it seems
let alone lady like
Hey, mind if I send you a private message? @Rob19777
I guess you didn't see my comment but anyway, I just wanted to thank you for basically defending me for those girls who were attacking me. I've received many hate because of this myTake, someone even called me "slut", but well, thanks again for everything. Have a great day ahead! ☺️
I have to agree. @Rob19777 You did the right thing there, sticking up for the girl (notwithstanding the coarse language). Props to you, man.
Someone who understands and knows reality. But the "Cheating" part was not appropriate (little bit wrong), you could have explained it in different way.
Hope every women is like you!!
And notice the difference in likes on this mytake. Proves everything.
Reminds me of the good-old days. Today we have these feminazis destroying all that is worth for living: love, sex (not the same as love), emotional attachment.
And very true myTake!
Asking women to be more grateful with guys is like asking a bear to shit in a toilet. But I disagree with you about men needing sex to stay alive. I haven't had sex in almost 14 years and I'm still alive lol.
It was an example x294930, hahaha
Sure you are still alive, my parents, too. Their last time of having sex was when they made my brother. He is now 38.
@roland77 So what's your point?
Well my point is, that to less sex is unhealthy for both body and mind. At lot important hormones are not in your blood stream. For further intel, please consult a sex therapist.
Sad that this used to be common sense, but nowadays this would be considered "contrarian".
She has been receiving hateful messages, ... from "females" (I guess feminazis).
Hahaha, I did. Someone even called me slut @roland77
@aspiegirl_ Okay, she is really annoying, thinking that you encourage cheating while you don't.
I agree. Women take it for granted that men aren't that important.
Do you agreew with 4. and the point about cheating?
She listed the number 3 twice, so is the 2nd 3 really number 4?
I am talking about how she justify cheating and blaming girls for not being feminine
Your spot on. I'm starting to wonder if your actually a guy posing as a woman on here. Well, having guys being the biggest majority of your friends does help to see things from a guy's point of view.
I'm a girl 😐
Sorry after reading this I just feel like slitting my wrists...
Why that?
@roland77 It sounds do disrespectful to women. . Living that sort of life is no life...
I agree with all of these but I have to disagree on cheating. NEVER blame someone for being cheated on.
one thing I don't see ever changing unfortuneately and it will always remain an injustice, is the gender role that guys are expected to make the first move and initiate a relationship, something me and tons of other guys have always hated.
You mean empty inbox on dating platforms? I had that, too. And guess what, I had to initiate, otherwise my now-girlfriend would be around with someone else or just waiting there (no blame on her). But I can understand them, They got flooded by messages (mine at least) and she even got a message from a believed porn guy, he offered her money for sex.
@roland77 ya, my guess is, every woman you dated, you had to hit on her first
Yep, that it was happening here. It leads me to a beautiful woman from Africa. :-)
@roland77 why am I not shocked
Yes, it is normal. Needy jerks and money-providing porn guys flood women inboxes with junk messages. They need a really long block list. I don't blame my girlfriend for this. Like I said, it leads me to her so I'm okay with it.
Good take
Thanks! 💛
You're welcome
TLDR - but I can tell it's brilliant. Thanks for posting!
I don't agree with point number 3. Sex is not a necessity and is no excuse for cheating. But I agree with the rest from personal experience.
In an asexual relationship maybe, but not in one where both have a high sex-drive. There sex is really needed, almost on a daily basis to improve the bond. The strong bond then improve quality in sex and so it continues. Sure, no excuse for cheating. Cheating is explainable, not justifiable.
Bruh one can just wank off their urges it's not impossible to do
holy smokes this gave me such a heart boner, a heart-on if you will
Hahaha, I guess that's why you are "Don Cachondo", no manches
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