What I learned from attracting women over messaging or a first date (Page 3)

[Paul09]

Some of this does make sense. But also helps if you very good looking, or have charisma.

[Asianguy123]

women are horny too. but they are more cautious because the can get pregnant unwanted.

[Apope16]

you'd be surprised at how many women are not cautious because they WANT an unwanted pregnancy.

[Yuuibtony]

I watch to much lesbian porn to care of how many slots u have sex with.

[Apope16]

Well yeah. Hence the joke in sentence 2. I knew youd say that.

[Zozzita]

Being Cocky is a major turn off for me.

[Apope16]

Thats what they ALL SAY. Just last week a girl bitched at me for being cocky over text. I never apologized. Just gave this emoji...🤷🏾‍♂️.

Then on our first date I was a total nice guy. Then she took me to her place. We cuddled. I was cocky again.

Its not about being cocky. Its about being cocky and sweet. A guy should never apologize for being cocky.

[Zozzita]

If that’s what you believe, then continue to do you. But not ever woman is the same. You should know that.

[Apope16]

Hmm.. no its true of every woman pretty much. Let me give you an example.

If a girl is teasing a guy and says, "Is that your pick up line to all the girls?"

Friendzone guy would say, "Oh no no. I am so sorry. I am a nice guy."

Ladies man would say, "Only the first thousand dates. After that I switch it up."

See the difference? It's about being playfully cocky. GIrls like a guy who is witty and has humor.

[Addicted2u]

@Apope16 in that example I had a guy who replied with the first answer. He was actually a bad guy trying to be good. An intelligent woman can pick up in this shit.

[Ozanne]

I think 'cocky' is the wrong choice of word by the Asker. I think he means more 'confidence', because cockiness is a huge turn off, but it's in the same shade as confidence. People who are cocky can have confidence, but not all confident men are cocky.

[brennanhuff]

@Ozanne you still shouldn’t be trying to do that. It needs to not be an attempt to do anything or else it’s pre meditated or will be more likely to come off as fake or not work. I’m a “little” cocky sometimes but not too much. And it works because I naturally have a playful, teasing, witty funny personality where it works because of this charm or some reason I come off as a lovable funny pain in the ass if I get playfully cocky at times

[Kiss_Me]

I totally agree. Being confident to the point of being cocky is borderline arrogance. However, being cocky that is tempered or combined with humor is a deadly combination that never fails to get a positive presence with women. The key, like all things, is timing and presentation.
Also, I've found it best NOT to rely on what a woman says they want but to trust what they respond to.

[brennanhuff]

@Kiss_Me but it shouldn’t be a conscious thing like “I do a b and c” or have to act this way or that. That’s Fake and where some women might not see that , others will. For me and why this works for me is I don’t Try to be cocky or this or that. When I get in a conversation I let it happen naturally. If the girl actually has an atom of personality, something she’ll say will more likely bring out something that I’m witty or teasing or playful or slightly cocky about. But if nothing does than I just keep on and still have a good convo. If you look to do something you put pressure on yourself which can hurt things. The biggest thing I learned is not giving a damn. The less you care about others response the more relaxed you’ll be. The more relaxed you are, the less you’ll overthink stuff and exude confidence. These things I don’t think to do, they happen naturally because of my personality. If you’re trying to do it, then it’s not natural and you natural personality. Plus you have to be a naturally very funny witty charming guy to be likeable or lovable which the slight cocky works otherwise it will get annoying

[Troychapman10]

Ugh this is all me... but I hate it... rather be loved for me than whats about me

[Anonymous]

Thank you for the most interesting information and a different perspective on this subject.

[babysteph]

This MyTake made me laugh! Thanks, I needed it.

[luvstoned4him]

All good but the men miss it with tip number 4

[OddBeMe]

I find better advice in grocery store tabloids.

[Anonymous]

You lost me at "you match with a girl"

[Anonymous]

Only 30? Thats a slow year...

[Apope16]

30 over id say 5 years. You have to consider a lot of them were relationships. The goal wasn't sex. It was connection.

[Anonymous]

You don’t get girls