Let me start off by saying that attraction isn't a choice. If you meet a girl and you interact with a woman long enough for her to get an impression of you, and she doesn't find you attractive, then there is nothing you can do to change that. At the same time, if a woman is attracted to you, you can say or do almost anything and she will still be attracted to you. But there is a difference between being attracted to someone, and making them want you. So here's the question - How do you make someone want something? There are a few different ways to make someone want something. You can prove that other people want it also. You can make it scarce. You can tell them they can't have it. You can give it value. You can make it beneficial. You can make it a challenge or make them work for it. Now this applies to anything in life such as an object, and it can also apply to a person. So these are the basic principles that you need to employ for yourself. If you can figure out how to use these techniques on a girl about yourself, then you make her want you more.
Be confident - You need to be independent before you can be dependent. And I'm not talking about a total dependency, but when you're in a relationship there is some dependency on the other person. But you need to be confident in yourself. If you lean on someone emotionally it is a sign of insecurity. It will make the girl uncomfortable and she will react by denying you. They sense your weakness and they respond negatively. If you see yourself as below the other person, then there is a good chance that you will be used. You will try and make up for your inferiority by doing and giving more, and it will create an unhealthy balance in the relationship, and you will get taken advantage of. Remind yourself that you don't get a phone number or a date with the girl, that you don't need it and it doesn't bother you. If you get it, it will be under your terms. Don't put all of your eggs in one basket with a certain girl. If things don't work out, there will be other girls. Don't create a "failure is death" mentality when talking to a girl. If things don't work out, so what. You move on, and try again. Be confident in yourself. If you are self conscious or not confident about some things about yourself, then work on them and change them. There are certainly specific things that lead to how confident we are, but in the end, confidence is a psychological issue. You might need to work on small issues and fix them, but you also need to be mentally strong.
Take care of yourself - The biggest contributing factor to our confidence is how we view ourself physically. There are things about our appearance that we can't change, and there are things that we can change. We need to accept the things about our body that we can't change, and we need to work on the stuff we can change. Some of the things that we can change about our appearance is our face, hair and body. We need to take care of our face and teeth. We need to make sure we're properly groomed and our hair is nice and neat. We also need to make sure our body is in shape. You don't have to be an Arnold, but you do need to take care of your body. Get a cheap membership to a gym or a local Y, and go 4 times a week. A girl wants a guy that takes care of his body. If you need more information about how to get in shape, or build muscle, contact me, and I can give you a great workout plan whether you're trying to lose weight, or build muscle, or both.
Dress nice - You can tell a lot about a person by the way they dress. We all make judgments on people by the way they dress. When you see a girl that dresses skanky or showing a lot of cleavage, or a girl that dresses nice or doesn't dress nice you automatically make judgments about her. The same is about you. One of the first things a girl notices is how you're dressed. If you're dressed in a Metallica shirt, chances are, she's gonna have an opinion before you even say a word. When you're out, dress in a nice shirt, pants, and shoes. Dress is very important for a girl. Think about it. Most girls spend a lot of time getting ready and coordinating their outfit. So chances are, it's pretty important to them.
Have some mystery - There is something about mystery that a girl loves. I'm not talking about a creepy, psycho mystery. But a girl wants to know why you say or do something. If you act differently then all the other guys she interacts with, it will make her wonder why. Don't be afraid to disagree with her in a respectful way. If you're predictable and boring, chances are, you will automatically be tossed into the same category as all the other guys.
Be exciting and adventurous - Girls aren't looking for a boring guy. You always hear girls say that they want a good guy, "Mr Right." I've heard numerous girls say this. But when it comes down to it, to be honest, that isn't really what attracts them. They might be looking for some kind of stability, but they're not looking for someone with a routine. Girls are attracted to guys that are exciting and unpredictable. There is something that drives girls crazy about a wild guy on a motorcycle. Now don't get me wrong, I don't want you to think that you have to join a biker gang or jump from a burning building to impress her. But if you tell a girl that the most exciting moment of your life was when you watched Shark Week on National Geographic, chances are, she's going to get bored. Tell her how you want to go scuba diving in the Caribbean, or how you want to go skydiving. Or maybe that you want to want to learn how to salsa or swing dance or whatever. If you're not a totally exciting guy, that's ok. Maybe you need to stretch yourself. I'm just saying that there is something about being exciting and adventurous that really does something for a girl.
Be honest - As a person, honesty is probably the most important character quality you can have. You won't be perfect, and you will make mistakes, and people might not always agree with you, but if you're honest and they can trust you, then they will respect you. Get in the habit of being honest with EVERYTHING from very small to large things. If you will lie about small things, you will lie about big things. Girls want a guy they can trust. Once trust is broken, then it's very difficult to restore. Trust is one of those things that is 100% or nothing. You can't trust someone 90%. That's why it's crucial to be completely honest. If you want to snag a good girl, it is crucial to be honest. A good girl won't fall for a guy that isn't honest.
Be thoughtful and unselfish - Being thoughtful and unselfish is a key to being prince charming. You need to open doors for girls, and for that matter, all people. If you go out to eat, make sure you tip well. Put others first, and you will succeed in life. Life is too short to live for yourself. But if you constantly do stuff for other people, and help people out, girls notice things like this. Girls want an unselfish and thoughtful guy. If you live for yourself and put yourself first in everything, then you're not ready for a relationship. Because a relationship is all about living for the other person and putting them first.
Be confident - You need to be independent before you can be dependent. And I'm not talking about a total dependency, but when you're in a relationship there is some dependency on the other person. But you need to be confident in yourself. If you lean on someone emotionally it is a sign of insecurity. It will make the girl uncomfortable and she will react by denying you. They sense your weakness and they respond negatively. If you see yourself as below the other person, then there is a good chance that you will be used. You will try and make up for your inferiority by doing and giving more, and it will create an unhealthy balance in the relationship, and you will get taken advantage of. Remind yourself that you don't get a phone number or a date with the girl, that you don't need it and it doesn't bother you. If you get it, it will be under your terms. Don't put all of your eggs in one basket with a certain girl. If things don't work out, there will be other girls. Don't create a "failure is death" mentality when talking to a girl. If things don't work out, so what. You move on, and try again. Be confident in yourself. If you are self conscious or not confident about some things about yourself, then work on them and change them. There are certainly specific things that lead to how confident we are, but in the end, confidence is a psychological issue. You might need to work on small issues and fix them, but you also need to be mentally strong.
Take care of yourself - The biggest contributing factor to our confidence is how we view ourself physically. There are things about our appearance that we can't change, and there are things that we can change. We need to accept the things about our body that we can't change, and we need to work on the stuff we can change. Some of the things that we can change about our appearance is our face, hair and body. We need to take care of our face and teeth. We need to make sure we're properly groomed and our hair is nice and neat. We also need to make sure our body is in shape. You don't have to be an Arnold, but you do need to take care of your body. Get a cheap membership to a gym or a local Y, and go 4 times a week. A girl wants a guy that takes care of his body. If you need more information about how to get in shape, or build muscle, contact me, and I can give you a great workout plan whether you're trying to lose weight, or build muscle, or both.
Dress nice - You can tell a lot about a person by the way they dress. We all make judgments on people by the way they dress. When you see a girl that dresses skanky or showing a lot of cleavage, or a girl that dresses nice or doesn't dress nice you automatically make judgments about her. The same is about you. One of the first things a girl notices is how you're dressed. If you're dressed in a Metallica shirt, chances are, she's gonna have an opinion before you even say a word. When you're out, dress in a nice shirt, pants, and shoes. Dress is very important for a girl. Think about it. Most girls spend a lot of time getting ready and coordinating their outfit. So chances are, it's pretty important to them.
Have some mystery - There is something about mystery that a girl loves. I'm not talking about a creepy, psycho mystery. But a girl wants to know why you say or do something. If you act differently then all the other guys she interacts with, it will make her wonder why. Don't be afraid to disagree with her in a respectful way. If you're predictable and boring, chances are, you will automatically be tossed into the same category as all the other guys.
Be exciting and adventurous - Girls aren't looking for a boring guy. You always hear girls say that they want a good guy, "Mr Right." I've heard numerous girls say this. But when it comes down to it, to be honest, that isn't really what attracts them. They might be looking for some kind of stability, but they're not looking for someone with a routine. Girls are attracted to guys that are exciting and unpredictable. There is something that drives girls crazy about a wild guy on a motorcycle. Now don't get me wrong, I don't want you to think that you have to join a biker gang or jump from a burning building to impress her. But if you tell a girl that the most exciting moment of your life was when you watched Shark Week on National Geographic, chances are, she's going to get bored. Tell her how you want to go scuba diving in the Caribbean, or how you want to go skydiving. Or maybe that you want to want to learn how to salsa or swing dance or whatever. If you're not a totally exciting guy, that's ok. Maybe you need to stretch yourself. I'm just saying that there is something about being exciting and adventurous that really does something for a girl.
Be honest - As a person, honesty is probably the most important character quality you can have. You won't be perfect, and you will make mistakes, and people might not always agree with you, but if you're honest and they can trust you, then they will respect you. Get in the habit of being honest with EVERYTHING from very small to large things. If you will lie about small things, you will lie about big things. Girls want a guy they can trust. Once trust is broken, then it's very difficult to restore. Trust is one of those things that is 100% or nothing. You can't trust someone 90%. That's why it's crucial to be completely honest. If you want to snag a good girl, it is crucial to be honest. A good girl won't fall for a guy that isn't honest.
Be thoughtful and unselfish - Being thoughtful and unselfish is a key to being prince charming. You need to open doors for girls, and for that matter, all people. If you go out to eat, make sure you tip well. Put others first, and you will succeed in life. Life is too short to live for yourself. But if you constantly do stuff for other people, and help people out, girls notice things like this. Girls want an unselfish and thoughtful guy. If you live for yourself and put yourself first in everything, then you're not ready for a relationship. Because a relationship is all about living for the other person and putting them first.
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