Confidence. Confidence is something many people struggle with, whether not knowing how to do it or not knowing it at all, many people have the wrong ideas about what the key to confidence actually is. A lot people think that the key to confidence is that “everything will go according to plan or that you have to be loud and proud” but that’s not what confidence actually is.
To understand the key to confidence you must understand what confidence actually is and what it’s about. The dictionary says that “confidence is a feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities.” “ In simpler terms it’s saying be secure in who you are and what you do”. So the idea “everything will go according to plan” doesn’t actually meet the definition of confidence because you’re not actually secure in yourself. Being secure helps show that you aren’t afraid to be who you are and what you’re like, it shows you are secure. But now what is the key to confidence?
The key to confidence is: to have the mindset that “no matter what happens it will be okay” so of course if you get pushed off a cliff, this rule doesn’t apply but the meaning behind this mindset is that you are secure enough in yourself that you can handle most things socially. It gives you a freedom that helps show that you aren’t afraid to be you’re true self.
Here’s an examples. Let’s say the worst thing that could’ve possibly happened, happened, you got pantsed, instead of pulling you’re pants up, running off and looking embarrassed, make a joke about say something like “dude, I’m not wearing my good undies today! At least let me wear my Superman undies if you’re going to pants me”. Making a joke does two things, one it shows you’re secure enough not to get embarrassed, and two it makes them laugh. Many people don’t realize that nothing is inherently embarrassing or awkward, it’s you’re reaction that makes it awkward. Remember people care more about what you did rather than how you did it, in simpler words it’s “they care more about the reaction rather than the topic”
If you are able to master this it will make you more smooth and attractive to other people because it shows that you are more secure in yourself, being secure will give you that freedom of asking that girl you are nervous to ask out or dating the person you REALLY like because you are secure in yourself and who you are.