This advice is particularly for straight men who are looking to be either platonic or romantic partners with straight women. With that being said, do feel free to read my advice even if you do not identify as straight or a man.
If you consider yourself an average guy or even a slightly above average guy (not just physically, but mentally and financially) - yeah, especially YOU, you want to start off slow, steady, and simple.
My father is over 40 years old and he knows more about relationship experiences than most people here on GirlsAskGuys, and he's far less biased than those superficial "dating/lifestyle coaches" that are active on other websites. He teaches me daily lessons as an alpha male that I am spreading on here. Everything I say here is the truth and not biased sugarcoated bull.
His experience has found that there is just one word out of all that will powerfully boost your algorithm and your dating experience. That one very strong word is "Hi".
Yes, you read that right. Hi. No exclamation point needed. Nothing else followed by it.
You need to start messaging girls with "Hi" only. Once they respond, then follow along with anything else you need to say, and stick to the topics that either you or the girl is interested in. But don't ever (in the dating apps) call her names like sexy, beautiful, gorgeous, fine, cutie, and especially NOT hot (if you're past high school age and saying this word, NO girl will take you serious).
There are exceptions. If the girl messages first (as required on Bumble to start a conversation), then feel free to use the more casual "Hey!" or even "What's up?".
Remember, less is more. Especially if you're attracted solely to looks (as most of us heterosexual men are).
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