Name: RE: "Why don't men want strong independent career women? Why are men so 'intimidated' by a woman who makes her own money and doesn't need a man?"
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Description: This is asked so many times on GAG. One far-left, progressive, liberal, feminist female GAG user just asked this today, in-fact. " Why do people...

Subarugirl

Yoda Age: 27

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I would think a strong man secure in himself would rather want a woman that chose him because she wants him, not because she dependent on him out of necessity.

Then again, a relationship like that would put them on equal footing as partners and not a power imbalance based on financial dependency.

MCheetah

1 y
Why do you assume if men don't want aggressive, selfish career women, then that must mean they want to "control" a woman who only needs him out of financial necessity?

Why are you implying the only value in a relationship comes from money and finances? (Or else, it's "unequal.") Are you implying for hundreds/thousands of years, women provided very little to a relationship merely because they didn't bring home as much resources/assets as the man?

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Subarugirl

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Why is it selfish for a woman to want a career but not a man? How else are we supposed to support ourselves? Are you suggesting that women marry men for their money?
Being financially dependent on someone inherently creates a power imbalance. If you are depending on someone to financially support, you then you are financially dependent on them and that is a dangerous place to be.

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MCheetah

1 y
Anyone who places money and vanity over a family and love, is selfish. Not just women. It's just that men already know this, but some women, for some reason, think they should be "entitled to have it all;" money, success, and a happy loving family, when reality doesn't work like that. Most successful men don't even get that.

I'm suggesting women don't put money before all else, regardless of who earns it. So many women think they should be able to have successful careers and that it's "patriarchy/misogny" if they aren't automatically given them, in addition to thinking men should want them, despite being selfish, vain, and money-hungry. No, men don't have to want such women, or be called "misogynist/immature/insecure," etc, if they don't want selfish career-focused women, like I said.

Men only get away with it, cause that money (supposedly) goes directly to the family, while the mother stays at home, but workaholics usually don't make for good fathers, either. It's even worse when women want to do that and not be an actual mother, either.

You focus WAY too much on money instead of your spouse and child. If you're actually a mother, like you claim, then that is VERY bad.

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Subarugirl

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I agree with you that placing money and vanity over family is selfish. But wanting to support your family is not selfish. I'm not talking about placing money over family I am talking about supporting and providing for you family and it takes money as well as many other resources to do that and do it well.

I'll use myself as an example. I built a career and a good professional name for myself and continued to do so after becoming a wife and mother. It is possible to be successful, have a career and a happy loving family. It's not an easy balance to find, it takes a hell of a lot of work, conscious effort, and dedication but it is possible.

I focus on supporting my family in any way that I can and while money is a part of it, it is not the sole focus.

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TenderFantasy

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Woah, agreed and I'm not even a mother. That's good that you were able to make those things work for you, it must have been hard! There's only so much time to dedicate to things you need to do and or want to do!

If upvotes/emojis to rate were allowed on the comments, I give you a positive one ; - )

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MCheetah

1 y
@Subarugirl
I said in the post that there's a difference between a woman/wife/mother having a job, and her expecting to be a boss/super-successful, while also being a mother, and more so, expecting a man to be even more successful than her. If both parents are doing it for their child, that's one thing. But I'm not talking about that. I'm very clearly talking about women who have careers SOLELY for the money and luxury, and expect men to support their luxury even more so with their own money towards her. Most of these women do not want kids, especially since kids eat away at their career growth.

If a female worker wants to have a job after having kids, fine. She'll just have to work that much harder to be a mother and not have their kid raised by nannies and mentally screwed-up due to it. But I'm talking about women who would rather put their career (and themselves) before all others, including any future kids and husbands. And yet, these deluded women not only still expect men to still want them, despite that, but to use their own money to support her lifestyle, too. And they lack the self-awareness to realize why few men, if any, desire them.

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Subarugirl

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I would say that anyone who prioritizes their career or their own self-interests over their children is bad, regardless of gender.
Men do the same thing, and there are tons of them that just expect their wives to prioritize them while he neglects her, the home and his children. Then lack the self-awareness to understand why women dont want to date them...
I am a mother and a wife and super successful in my career and my husband is even more successful than I am. You can have more than one priority in your life and still have a successful career and happy loving family.

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Chthou95 Follow
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Feminism has taught women that being strong and independent is what's attractive but in reality men dont give s shit about that. It's more annoying than anything else. Men and women look for different things in a partner but women are trying to be men and it's unattractive

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LiamJHayden Follow
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As is so often true, you have been able to clearly verbalize what so many think. Hey, GAG, why isn't this guy an Influencer?

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- MCheetah
  
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  I have too many people who hate me on here to be an Influencer. I don't want to be one, anyway.
  
- LiamJHayden
  
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  Got it. Anyway in my mind you still deserve, more than many I have seen.
  
FinalFantasyBro Follow
Yoda Age: 25

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Unpopular opinion but I actually really love independent women who can make their own money they sexier compared to the girls who expect me to be their second father.

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- FinalFantasyBro
  
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  But yes the type of girls who sprew bullshit like needing no men are stupid as hell
  
worldscolide Follow
Master Age: 40

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The women who claim to be "strong independent women" are almost always anything but, they are usually insufferable bitches. I don't need that kind of shit in my life.

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Subarugirl Follow
Yoda Age: 27

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548 opinions shared on Dating topic.

I would think a strong man secure in himself would rather want a woman that chose him because she wants him, not because she dependent on him out of necessity.
Then again, a relationship like that would put them on equal footing as partners and not a power imbalance based on financial dependency.

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- MCheetah
  
  1 y
  Why do you assume if men don't want aggressive, selfish career women, then that must mean they want to "control" a woman who only needs him out of financial necessity?
  
  Why are you implying the only value in a relationship comes from money and finances? (Or else, it's "unequal.") Are you implying for hundreds/thousands of years, women provided very little to a relationship merely because they didn't bring home as much resources/assets as the man?
  
- Subarugirl
  
  1 y
  Why is it selfish for a woman to want a career but not a man? How else are we supposed to support ourselves? Are you suggesting that women marry men for their money?
  Being financially dependent on someone inherently creates a power imbalance. If you are depending on someone to financially support, you then you are financially dependent on them and that is a dangerous place to be.
  
- MCheetah
  
  1 y
  Anyone who places money and vanity over a family and love, is selfish. Not just women. It's just that men already know this, but some women, for some reason, think they should be "entitled to have it all;" money, success, and a happy loving family, when reality doesn't work like that. Most successful men don't even get that.
  
  I'm suggesting women don't put money before all else, regardless of who earns it. So many women think they should be able to have successful careers and that it's "patriarchy/misogny" if they aren't automatically given them, in addition to thinking men should want them, despite being selfish, vain, and money-hungry. No, men don't have to want such women, or be called "misogynist/immature/insecure," etc, if they don't want selfish career-focused women, like I said.
  
  Men only get away with it, cause that money (supposedly) goes directly to the family, while the mother stays at home, but workaholics usually don't make for good fathers, either. It's even worse when women want to do that and not be an actual mother, either.
  
  You focus WAY too much on money instead of your spouse and child. If you're actually a mother, like you claim, then that is VERY bad.
  
- Subarugirl
  
  1 y
  I agree with you that placing money and vanity over family is selfish. But wanting to support your family is not selfish. I'm not talking about placing money over family I am talking about supporting and providing for you family and it takes money as well as many other resources to do that and do it well.
  
  I'll use myself as an example. I built a career and a good professional name for myself and continued to do so after becoming a wife and mother. It is possible to be successful, have a career and a happy loving family. It's not an easy balance to find, it takes a hell of a lot of work, conscious effort, and dedication but it is possible.
  
  I focus on supporting my family in any way that I can and while money is a part of it, it is not the sole focus.
  
- TenderFantasy
  
  1 y
  Woah, agreed and I'm not even a mother. That's good that you were able to make those things work for you, it must have been hard! There's only so much time to dedicate to things you need to do and or want to do!
  
  If upvotes/emojis to rate were allowed on the comments, I give you a positive one ; - )
  
- MCheetah
  
  1 y
  @Subarugirl
  I said in the post that there's a difference between a woman/wife/mother having a job, and her expecting to be a boss/super-successful, while also being a mother, and more so, expecting a man to be even more successful than her. If both parents are doing it for their child, that's one thing. But I'm not talking about that. I'm very clearly talking about women who have careers SOLELY for the money and luxury, and expect men to support their luxury even more so with their own money towards her. Most of these women do not want kids, especially since kids eat away at their career growth.
  
  If a female worker wants to have a job after having kids, fine. She'll just have to work that much harder to be a mother and not have their kid raised by nannies and mentally screwed-up due to it. But I'm talking about women who would rather put their career (and themselves) before all others, including any future kids and husbands. And yet, these deluded women not only still expect men to still want them, despite that, but to use their own money to support her lifestyle, too. And they lack the self-awareness to realize why few men, if any, desire them.
  
- Subarugirl
  
  1 y
  I would say that anyone who prioritizes their career or their own self-interests over their children is bad, regardless of gender.
  Men do the same thing, and there are tons of them that just expect their wives to prioritize them while he neglects her, the home and his children. Then lack the self-awareness to understand why women dont want to date them...
  I am a mother and a wife and super successful in my career and my husband is even more successful than I am. You can have more than one priority in your life and still have a successful career and happy loving family.
  
Sisters_Of_Time Follow
Xper 4 Age: 25

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But is it okay to let you know that we at least have it together?

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Fromdusktilldawn Follow
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because nowadays society is against men and is totally feminist. Women who want nothing but power

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Canadiangeek Follow
Xper 1 Age: 48

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I think the question is based on decades of stereotypes that keeps being repeated without any modern context. Like everything else in life some people mind and others don't. These questions are kinda pointless

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strateguy632 Follow
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not intimidated i am agreed with you

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JesseJayNeak Follow
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Because that’s a wring fallacy

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- JesseJayNeak
  
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  *wrong

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