Seven Dating Deal Breakers

[Shiningtempest]

Here are 7 types of women I will never date under any circumstance. If you are open-minded or like myTake, I invite you to read it.

1. Woman Who Butchers My Name

I don’t care if she’s smart & beautiful. If she butchers my name, I will never see her as girlfriend material. I won’t see a woman who butcher my name as girlfriend material because I see it as an example of being disrespectful to other people. Hence, I can only ask her out for a date if she gets my name right.

How I React to People Butchering My Name

2. Woman Who Believes in God

I don’t date a woman who follows religion because it clashes with my atheist philosophy. Therefore, I don't see a woman who believes in god as girlfriend material.

My Main Philosophy

3. Woman who Does Sex Work or Have OnlyFans Account

I will never see a woman who does sex work or have OnlyFans account as girlfriend material because I see it as a sign she’s going to commit adultery. Thus, I will only date a woman who doesn’t do sex work or have OnlyFans.

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4. Woman who Has Multiple Sex Partner

I can’t date a woman who has multiple sex partners because I consider it as a sign she will never be a faithful person. Hence, I can only date a woman who’s a virgin.

How I See Person with Multiple Sex Partners

5. Woman who Has Multiple Ex-Boyfriends

I will never date a woman who has multiple ex-boyfriend since I see it as a sign she has a toxic personality or has a horrible luck in dating. Thus, I can only ask a woman who has no ex-boyfriend for a date.

How I See Woman with Multiple Ex-Boyfriends

6. Woman who’s Liberal, Moderate, or Politically Independent

I will never date a woman who’s a liberal, moderate (e.g. center left), or politically independent since it doesn’t mesh with my Libertarian or conservative belief. Therefore, I only see Libertarian or conservative woman as girlfriend material.

Libertarian = My Main Political Philosophy

7. Woman who Tells Harmless Lie

I can never date a woman who tells a harmless lie because I see it as a sign she's a pathological & or a chronic liar. Hence, I can only date a woman who never tells a harmless lie.

How I See People Who Tells "White Lie"

[AdithyaR]

Just one question about number 4,5.
Are you a virgin with no past romantic partners?

[Shiningtempest]

@AdithyaR I'm a virgin with no past romantic partners. :)

[AdithyaR]

Alright then it's fine. As long as you're maintaining the same standard, it's totally fine to keep that

[Twalli]

That's what I was about to say. You're a hypocrite to want only virgins when you aren't one. If this relationship that I currently have fails (increasingly unlikely), I don't care if my next romantic partner is a virgin. I won't be, so that's no longer an important thing to me in a partner, although I didn't care too much when I decided to date my girlfriend. I didn't know she was a virgin, although I didn't think she was after a 10-year relationship (she actually was a virgin).

[DaveJord]

So, hey this who post wreaks of ignorance. And being a virgin explains it.

[AdithyaR]

@DaveJord you mean me?😂

[Twalli]

I think @DaveJord means @Shiningtempest.

[AdithyaR]

Oh right, yeah that makes more sense 😅😅

[DaveJord]

@AdithyaR yeah not you. @Shiningtempest is 27 and sounds like a real winner... not that I disagree with some of his points... but 27-year-old virgin telling people what his deal breakers are.

I mean dude, you haven't even every gotten laid yet. Get a little taste of that honey and come back to me 5 years from now,

[AviatorTom]

If you really enforce these 7 things, you have ruled out 99.6% of the women in the world. Good luck finding a woman to date, let alone one circa long-term relationship.

Do you realize that compromise and acceptance is a prime indicator of maturity.

Or maybe you're just trolling for points...

[Shiningtempest]

@AviatorTom I am not trolling. It's my genuine deal breakers.

[OlderAndWiser]

How is this set of criteria working out for you? Have you ever had a date?

[Gingerbread_GB]

I think you are quite an idealist. A conservative atheist is already very rare. Even if you find the one atheist conservative girl, you have to understand that family value is very important for conservatives. Her parents may not approve of your atheist values.

I think it's also unfair to think women who have had prior relationships as unfaithful or toxic as you call it. You are basically denying that people could make mistakes. If you think a woman who made a mistake is not worth your attention, then you are not ready for a serious relationship. Relationship is all about make mistakes and overcome them together as a couple.

Not going to go through the rest point by point, If you'd rather be alone for the rest of yourself instead of compromising on any of these deal breakers, then you can be as idealistic as you want. I wish you the bests of luck. But if you sincerely wish to find a girlfriend at some point in your life, you should start thinking about how to be with someone that's not perfect.

[Shiningtempest]

@Gingerbread_GB On the contrary, 7 deal breakers I listed above matters to me a lot.

[blissinanarchy1]

1. If she butchers your name, correct her. If she keeps doing it, it’s disrespect.

2. You don’t want a Christian woman, but this is your best bet to find a virgin. Even then, highly unlikely.

3. I completely agree here tbh.

4. Again, finding a virgin is damn near impossible. And not only is finding a virgin going to be extremely hard, finding a virgin that meets all of your criteria and has a compatible history? Not going to happen. I understand not wanting a woman who been ran through, but having sex in the past don’t mean she’s gonna cheat.

5. I don’t know what to say about this. Not only do you only want virgins, but not multiple exes as well. Can be multiple reasons why they broke up. Might be his fault. A better idea is how she talks about them. If she accuses all of them as being toxic and abusive, and it was all their fault, then something’s up, and she’s not taking accountability.

6. Again, conservatism isn’t going to be a huge thing, but when you add it alllll together, you got no chance meeting a girl that matches all of these.

7. This is literally every woman.

[Shiningtempest]

@blissinanarchy1 I am willing to rule out 95% to 99% of women in the world to find a lover that doesn't display 7 dating deal breakers.

[Twalli]

So age isn't a deal breaker, you'll date an old woman who gave up on finding guys and hasn't had sex if she meets your other criteria? Age is a deal breaker for me. If you were born before 1981 or after the World Trade Center attacks, I won't date you. I would prefer you actually remember where you were, but most of the people entering college when I left, didn't.

[Shiningtempest]

@Twalli Age is also a deal breaker as well.

[Adam1978]

First might depends on your name, you might need to give them some slack learning it. You can't expect people to know how to pronounce every name right the first time. Otherwise you are rejecting people for no good reason, failing to learn is a reason, butchering a name isn't we all end up doing it with foreign names.

When it comes to politics you need to be aware of the full spectrum not the local political lines. Or you are the closed minded person. Not necessarily the partner. So check the values, not the political agenda.

[Shiningtempest]

@Adam1978 Rejecting people for butchering my name is valid. Libertarian philosophy is the only one that aligns with my view.

[MilkRoseTea]

1) What do you mean by butcher? Do you mean mispronounce your name?

2) I'm Christian

3) OF is not work it's prostitution. It's gross and only men and women with no standards and no self-respect do that.

4) I'm a virgin

5) Never been in a relationship. Guys have ask me out. I always reject them. Where I'm from there are so many progressive/liberal/democratic guys.

6) I'm conservative.

7) Lying is against the 10 commandments. I don't like to lie. Everyone has told a white lie before. It's wrong and I've repented. I always try to be honest.

Tbh I didn't expect an atheist to have most of these views. Atheist are usually progressive/liberal/democratic.

[Shiningtempest]

@MilkRoseTea When I talk about butchering my name, it includes mispronouncing my name, misspelling my name, & so on.

[MysteriousDarkness]

If you have a name that most people have a hard time pronouncing is your problem. If your name isn't hard to pronounce and they purposely mispronounce it then I understand.

You believe if a woman has an ex it makes her toxic. What if her ex died because of cancer, heart attack, stroke, was at home and a big piece of hail went through a window and hit him in the head, slip and fall etc?

What if the white lie was to cover up a surprise for you be it a vacation, concert tickets, or something else you might like?

[Shiningtempest]

@MysteriousDarkness I will never date a woman who has an ex because it goes against my belief. Any one who resorts to telling a white lie instead of telling the truth is what a chronic or pathological liar does.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@Shiningtempest
Good luck finding a woman that doesn't believe in God, doesn't have an ex, is a virgin and never told a lie even a white lie to cover up a surprise for someone.

[Boomchakalaca]

I disagree on numbers 1,5,7. Is ur name hard to pronounce?


5, the amount of exes can be an indicator they do not get along with most people, but what if it was the type of guy thed date that was abusive? It dosent always mean they r in the wrong.

7, some small lies r good like white lies that men tell their girlfriend when they look fat in a outfit.


U have standards and thats nice to know bc some men r desperate.

[Shiningtempest]

@Boomchakalaca I have no tolerance to people butchering my name and people telling white lies. I also don't date a woman who has multiple exes because it is indisputable proof she won't get along with most people. Thus, I am willing to severely limit my dating options.

[OptimisticGirl]

“Indisputable proof” is incorrect. I’m sure a few exes is not the same as “most people”.

How many exes do you have?

[Shiningtempest]

@OptimisticGirl On the contrary, "indisputable proof" is correct. So far, I have no exes.

[Alessa13]

These are great. Are you okay being single your whole life too? You might find her, anything is possible but are you ready to accept the possiblity that you probably will be single your entire life?

Everyone has the right to set their own criteria, but I am wondering how this is working out for you so far? Do you get a lot of dates or at least first time dates?

[Shiningtempest]

@alessa13 I will only go on a first date when I meet a woman who doesn't display 7 deal breakers I listed above.

[Alessa13]

How many dates you had so far in life?

[Shiningtempest]

@alessa13 So far 0 because I don't want to go on a date with a woman who displays 7 deal breakers I listed above.

[Alessa13]

I was just curious, thanks.

[Jdjfjcjj]

Only going to comment on 5 as I find this the silliest. If you date a woman who had only one ex and let's say it lasted 1 yr. You 27, so let's say she 27, what exactly do you think she was doing during all those years she was single?

Having multiple ex's isn't bad IFF you don't hear them say that they were all at fault, all narcissists, and she trying to claim she's an angel.

[Shiningtempest]

@Jdjfjcjj I don't care if she's smart & beautiful. If she has an ex-boyfriend, I will never see her as a girlfriend material. Thus, I am willing to narrow my dating option.

[Jdjfjcjj]

You didn't answer my question.. if she was single for nearly a decade, you think she wasn't choking on sausage?

[Jdjfjcjj]

Review your 4th point basically.

[Shiningtempest]

@Jdjfjcjj If she was single for nearly a decade, I suspect her unpleasant personality drove people away.

[Msputiton]

1 isn't disrespectful, unless they make fun of it.

But like my name is not common and people try to pronounce it right, and if they fail, i will correct them, and they usually apologize and try to pronounce it right.

If they act like they could careless, than i know they being disrespectful

[strateguy632]

First was FIRST? no big deal pronunciation! chillax. also 2 with 4 conflict if no god then adultary not a sin. oh and 5, multiple ex? as if you have only one ex? every girl over 12 has more than one ex.

[Shiningtempest]

@strateguy632 I'd rathe be a bachelor than date a woman who has at least 1 ex boyfriend.

[Tstrbrainer]

Well it is tricky. A woman who doesn't believe in God and chooses to be a virgin till marriage.
Careful, if you meet such a woman, you might have to consider the possibility of her being asexual, if you are looking for an active sex life after marriage

[DudeDiligence]

If she "butchers" your name you will never see her as girlfriend material? Seriously? There must be a story behind that. Care to share?

[Shiningtempest]

@DudeDiligence I see a woman who butchers my name as an indication she doesn't see me as a person.

[Boomchakalaca]

U read into things too much shining.

[DudeDiligence]

Yeah, that's a you problem.

[Shiningtempest]

@Boomchakalaca Reading into Shining isn't a problem. I will never date a woman who butchers my name, because she's disrespectful.

[HighValue]

Women that believe in God are more likely to meet your other criteria. By excluding them, you are VERY unlikely to find anyone that matches the rest.

[serious_miss419]

Any relationship in life wether it be platonic or not, must have compromise, accountability, communication, understanding, and actions.
Sounds to me you’re still on your moms tit

[Shiningtempest]

@serious_miss419 I don't make new friends because I have friends from my school years who understand my dislikes. I don't see myself entering into a dating game because there's no woman who doesn't display 7 dealbreakers I mentioned above.

[Yucy_Gluttony]

Game over for me 😅 but for point 1, will you tell me your name first? All it takes is hearing it once and it should be fine, ya?

[kespethdude]

In othr words, you want to go out with a fellow NAZI Wasp, Trumptard. Blocked and banned.

[Vegasrunner]

@Shiningtempest Your list isn't terrible although 4 and 5 don't seem realistic.

[Shiningtempest]

@Vegasrunner I don't care if she's a sensible woman. If she has at least 1 ex-boyfriend & has multiple sex partners, I won't see that woman as a girlfriend material.

[Vegasrunner]

@Shiningtempest I'm not sure who mentioned anything about sensible my point you're probably going to have to find an ugly woman that's exactly 18 because it's not realistic that a women in her 20's never had a boyfriend or sex.

[In_Trance]

I suspect you're going to be sitting alone in your childhood bedroom for exteneded periods of time. But whatever works for you

[Shiningtempest]

@In_Trance I am willing to sit alone for extended periods of time to avoid meeting people who display 7 deal breakers.