Additional Dating Deal Breakers

[Shiningtempest]

Here is the sequel to 7 Dating Deal Breakers. If you're interested or have an open mind, I invite you to read myTake.

1. Woman with No Shared Hobby

To me, shared hobbies matter more than whether she has her finances in order & has her shit together. If she doesn’t enjoy watching anime clips on YouTube, I don’t see that woman as girlfriend material.

Example of Shared Hobby

2. Woman Who’s Tardy

I will never date a tardy woman because it shows she doesn’t value my time. A woman who shows up late also indicates incompatible value. Therefore, I can only date a woman who will show up on time & values punctuality.

Tardy = Incompatible with My Value

3. Woman Who Suddenly or Changes Plans at the Last Minute

I don’t see a woman who suddenly or changes plans at the last minute as girlfriend material because I consider it rude & irresponsible. Hence, I am willing to severely limit my dating options to find a woman who doesn’t suddenly or changes plans at the last minute.

Last Minute Change = Source of My Anger

4. Woman Who Loves Going Out

I don’t see a woman who enjoys going out to listen to live bands & watching sports games at a stadium as girlfriend material. I don’t see that woman as girlfriend material because it doesn’t mesh well with my lifestyle. Hence, I am willing to dismiss potential matches to find a woman who mesh well with my lifestyle.

My Preferred Lifestyle

5. Woman who Doesn’t Listen to Pop-Punk or Alternative Rock

I can’t date a woman who doesn’t listen to pop-punk or alternative rock because it indicates there’s nothing in common with her. Therefore, I can only date a woman who listens to poop-punk or alternative rock.

First Pop-Punk Rock Music I Listended

6. Woman who Loves to Travel

I can never date a woman who loves to travel because it’s incompatible with my goal of finding happiness in everyday life. Thus, I can only date a woman who doesn’t like traveling.

7. Woman with Tattoo(s) & Piercing(s)

I don’t care if she’s mature. I don’t see a woman who has tattoo(s) & piercing(s) as girlfriend material because I consider it distasteful. Therefore, I can only date a woman who doesn’t have tattoos.

Woman with Tattoos = Mismatch of Cultural Value

[Summeroflove]

I agree with a lot of these. I can’t stand entitled people and I could never date one.

Especially women who want me on time but show up late. They’re not showing any effort in me. So they’re just not worth my time.

No shared interests. As a person nothing wrong with her. But I agree…. Nothing really to bond over. Maybe I could try if it she was amazing. But mostly I need someone whose a best friend to me.

I know some people get angry. Someone is allowed to have whatever standards they want. Now sometimes I just shake my head and laugh…. Because it’s no wonder they’re single. But hey. They’re doing the people they reject a favor. They really are

[Avicenna]

Everybody has dealbreakers. I can agree with some of these.

[AviatorTom]

I'm just curious. How many women have you been able to date who don't fail at least one of these deal-breakers?

Looks to me like you're seriously limiting yourself to finding a woman that might be very good for you. For example, if she doesn't like Pop-Punk or Alternative Rock music, you still do... why can't she have her favorite music? You know, in any good relationship, there are times you are together... and times you are apart. Similarly, there are times you agree... and times you don't.

[Shiningtempest]

@AviatorTom I can only date a woman who's a mirror version of me.

[AviatorTom]

@Shiningtempest You can do whatever you want, but you might be missing out on some very nice experiences... differences can be fun, interesting and exciting.

[Shiningtempest]

@AviatorTom I am willing to miss out on very nice experiences to find a woman who's a mirror version of me.

[TooHot2Care]

Bro, you are literally …. Ugh….. look, when you get tired of living on discord? Find nofap and go from there….

[Shiningtempest]

@TooHot2Care Don't worry, I won't get rid of living on discord for a foreseeable future.

[mikan_galena]

Important Note to Establish!

These dealbreakers are things that make a person non-girlfriend material *to OP*! And that’s perfectly fine as long as we get that they are their subjective deal breakers, not universal :)

All of these things are traits that OP isn’t into and that is A-okay!

(Also, I really appreciate the language that OP used! No jabs at worth as a person, etc. Opinions were communicated very kindly! — sincerely, a lady with many large (but non-visible, not that it matters) tattoos and numerous piercings)

[ArrowheadSW]

One thing with me is rudeness to people in public or rudeness to people who work in stores or restaurants. There is a lady who I sometimes hang out with and she is educated and interesting to talk to, but she talks down to people and I don't like that. I'll sometimes hang out with her but I'm not interested in dating.

The other thing is if they don't allow you to resolve minor disagreements. One lady who I used to know brought up something from 6 months prior as if it happened yesterday. She would never accept my explanation. Another lady who I used to know brought up something from TEN YEARS prior that was a minor misunderstanding. Weird.

[strateguy632]

big mistakes here, if common goal, good for long term relationship without hobbies, each can do hobbies separate and fun stuff together.

punctual? often not controllable. be flexible.

sudden change plans? depends change to what maybe better place and spontaneous

[Shiningtempest]

@strateguy632 I'd rather be a bachelor than date a woman who isn't punctual & who suddenly change plans.

[strateguy632]

i understand but sometimes not her fault.

[Treeguy84]

No shared hobbies.. id say as long as their open to trying it before just saying NO.. its also a two way street..

Constantly being 30-60 min late without logical reason.. it's a no for me.. shows a total lack of respect for my time..

Constantly changing plans.. nope that's disrespectful after a few times unless their is a good reason for it..

Always going out.. if it's together then yeah if not.. it's a hard no

It don't matter what music they like I like most all music

Always traveling.. again if it's together then sure.. if not than it's a no.. I'm trying to build a life with someone

Tattoos and piercings.. as a man who is sleeved out and my back and chest tatted up and my eyebrow pierced.. Um HELL to the yeah its sexy to me

[Shiningtempest]

@Treeguy84 Unfortunately, I can only date a woman who's a mirror version of me.

[Rei13]

The music one made me laugh. I never saw that as a dealbreaker, most of the guys I’ve dated had different music tastes than I did but it introduced me to music I wouldn’t have listened to otherwise. That said I do disagree with a lot of yours but we all look for different things and have our own don’ts 🙂

[TooHot2Care]

I’m with Rei here….. like , why can’t he be bothered to take an interest in her music while also sharing his…? The Fuck…?

[Shiningtempest]

@TooHot2Care Unfortunately, I can only date a woman who's 99% similar to me.

[Shiningtempest]

@Rei13 I can't date a woman who had different music tastes because I only want to date a woman who enjoys listening to pop-punk or alternative rock music.

[Rei13]

You trolling lol

[Shiningtempest]

@Rei13 I'm not trolling. I only want to date a woman who's 99.9% similar to me.

[RuthWBauer]

I understand how you feel about other dating deal breakers. Situations like this do have some negative effects on the dating experience. However, I think there are positive attitudes and strategies we can adopt to deal with these situations. First, we can try to maintain open and honest communication to ensure that the expectations and wishes of both parties are aligned. Second, we can choose to build relationships based on mutual respect and trust, which is better at avoiding interference from other dating deal breakers. Most importantly, we can support and understand each other and work together to create a positive and enjoyable dating experience. I would love to work through these challenges with you and have a great date together. Let's stay positive and trust that we can overcome any obstacles that may arise and build a beautiful relationship.

[Haha456]

you don't like to travel?

thats a pretty good sign that you're a really boring person.

[Shiningtempest]

@haha456 Disliking travel doesn't mean I'm a boring person.

[Haha456]

@Shiningtempest

he's likely one of those who rather stay home to read a book than to go out to meet new people or see new places.

[Shiningtempest]

@haha456 I'd rather stay home to watch anime clips on Youtube than to go out to meet new people or see new places.

[Haha456]

Yea.. sorry but thats a boring person

[Shiningtempest]

@haha456 Just because a person likes to stay home doesn't mean he or she isn't boring.

[Haha456]

because socializing allows someone to practice their social skills which makes them more likely to be charismatic. going on new adventures also gives people more topics to talk about. I have been a hermit when I was younger but now im going all sorts of places. I can easily say life is better seeing new things and meeting new people.

[Shiningtempest]

@haha456 I'd rather be true to myself than seeing new things & meeting new people.

[TooHot2Care]

He’s a gamer….. with more than one monitor…..

The Fuck did you think? He was gonna be SpongeBob?

Nah, this dudes a Squidward.

[TooHot2Care]

@Shiningtempest bro, that’s EXACTLY what it means…..

[TooHot2Care]

Are you true to yourself…? Are you REALLY…?

Or have you just been gaming for so long because it’s easy to pick up and have fun and don’t know any other way…?

Like, how did you even start gaming and how did it even have such a strong hold on your life…?

It’s literally just escapism, dude…..

[Haha456]

@TooHot2Care

people who spend their entire lives in front of the tv or computer are usually afraid of the public due to low self confidence / esteem, fear. Humans are evolutionarily designed to socialize. 95% of us.

[TooHot2Care]

Yeah, he doesn’t even realize what’s happening to him and how everything he’s writing is probably fear based.

[Haha456]

@TooHot2Care

some people live in fear their entire lives

[TooHot2Care]

Fuck that.

[Shiningtempest]

@haha456 I have little to no desire for socializing with new people because it's distracting to my hobby.

[Shiningtempest]

@TooHot2Care Whether you care or not, it is my preference.

[Pudsmucker]

One of the things I've learned over the 44 years of marriage that I have is opposite attracts opposition. We totally love each other even though we have different hobbies different ideas different musics. We do have things in common. We have similar faith in God we worship together we go out together and we travel together if our health permits. Yes we also tolerate each other's idiosyncrasies, our kinks.

[Shiningtempest]

@Pudsmucker I don't believe opposite attracts opposite. I only believe similarity attract each other. As such, I can never date a woman who has different hobbies, different idea, & different musics.

[shades777]

Some of these are good indicators if she's into you off the ripp like the tardy one or changing plans last minute. In that case I'd set up two dates with two different women with the exact same plans and the one who doesn't change the plan is the winner winner chicken dinner 😂

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I like a woman who's always late, because that means I dont have to be on time either lol

[Shiningtempest]

@WanderingLoveWizard Saying "I don't have to be on time either lol" has to be the most irresponsible phrase I heard in my entire life.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Thanks! That means a lot coming from you 😊

[WanderingLoveWizard]

One of the biggest morons here who's too dumb to know a joke when he sees one

[Shiningtempest]

@WanderingLoveWizard I'm a serious person so I'm incompatible with person who loves to tell jokes.

[Shamalien]

Too picky man. Who cares what music she likes tbh. There is always some overlap. And wtf u like pop punk and alt rock but won’t go to a show? LAAAME

[Shiningtempest]

@Shamalien I won't got a live show because I prefer CD quality over live concert.

[RangerBlue22]

Agree with some. But I really hope you are in a position where you can get away with being this judgmental. Maybe you are. But most guys don’t have the same pill as their female counterparts.

[In_Trance]

7/7 Disagree.

But as long as you're happy with what you're doing

[TooHot2Care]

You had me until 4-7.

4-7 seem kinda dumb and pointless…..

[Shiningtempest]

@TooHot2Care II see it as a valid preference.

[TooHot2Care]

Of course you do, dear…

[Twalli]

You said piercings, so no pierced ears? I get pierced navel, tongue, or such, but most girls have pierced ears.

[Shiningtempest]

@Twalli When I said piercings, it includes pierced navel, tongue, or such.

[Twalli]

What about ears?

[Shiningtempest]

@Twalli I can't date a woman with pierced ears.

[Twalli]

Why not? Doesn't that eliminate most of them?

[Shiningtempest]

@Twalli I don't like piercings in general.

[JamesRandiDebates]

I agree with most of those. 5 out of 7 at least

[art84]

My brother's ex girlfriend liked country but my brother introduced her to rock music and she quickly preferred that.

[LiamJHayden]

Works for me. Literally. The more deal breakers other guys have, the better my odds.

[EpicSnail]

It's fine, I will date them for you