Fear of Rejection
Take a deep breath, inhale, exhale, now go! Approach that girl or guy you have been eyeing for the last week. Not that easy right? The fear of rejection is a huge problem, and has made forming relationships extremely difficult.
Often I see questions regarding someone crushing and wondering how to approach this person. I often give advice but nothing is more important than experience.
Experiencing Rejection (i.e. Failure)
So you took that deep breath approached the beautiful person, complimented them, and asked for their number - good job! But often times people get rejected. And it comes down to two things: body language and tone, but these things become more natural through experience.
Body Language & Tone
If your tone sounds like it's changing between millions of octaves and you are about to cry, chances are your nervousness got the best of you. As a result, the person you're speaking to is now staring at you as if you're weak and/or lacking confidence.
Body language is also very telling. For example, if you're talking to a prospective date, but your arms are crossed, your hands are in your pockets, or you're slouched down, this gives the impression that you're closed off. The irony here is that this type of body language is usually done to make yourself feel more comfortable and secure, but it actually has a reverse effect.
Mistakes Happen: Learn from Them
Now, even if your Body Language and tone were perfect, you may still get rejected. It happens. But, instead of becoming discouraged, it is important to learn from these failures. The key here is to replay the situation and analyze every encounter so that you can learn from your mistakes.
Additionally, rejection can also be devastating for your confidence. But try to keep confident and keep moving forward. Eventually you will get over the fear of rejection.
It Gets Easier...
Once this fear is over with, you will have an easier time approaching him or her. You will no longer have that fear clouding your thoughts and disturbing your confidence. I have been turned down 10 times more than I have been accepted, but it has made me more and more experienced at approaching women.
The Best Method: Trial & Error
Think of failure as just another lesson, and instead of fearing rejection - embrace it. Remember: dating is simply a game of trial and error. Don't treat every relationship or encounter as if it has to work, because it doesn't.
Don't be afraid to say hello to the handsome waiter or the attractive lady that lives on the floor below you. The greatest reward comes with the greatest risk!