Pros and Cons of Dating An Older Woman

[Anonymous]

I read a take not to long ago about the Pros and Cons of dating older men. Today I will share some pros and cons that come with dating older ladies. As a young man that means women who are 40 years or older

CONS

1) Emotional baggage: She has been in a bunch of failed relationships, an has a bunch of emotional issues.

2) Children: She might have kids.

3) She is passed her physical prime: She won't be as beautiful and youthful as she once was.

4) People will look at you strange when you are showing PDA with a woman who is twice our age.

PROS

1) The sex: She is experienced and will be awesome in bed; she can teach you a lot.

2) Less insecurity than younger girls: Just dont bring up her age!

3) Less commitment: She might be using you only for pleasure and company, but who cares!

4) Sugar momma: She is financially secure, has a career and you won't have to worry about paying for everything; hell she might even buy you gifts!

Dating an older lady has its pros and cons, but they have knowledge and many virtues that are desirable. So go out and get yourself a cougar!

[deddi]

Well let's say on the CONS
1) I've dated girls my age who had much more problems than older womem
2) kids sucks, but they grow, and actually when they are grown it's kinda cool having them around.
If you are not an ass with them
3) if you are dating a hot woman, who cares if she's 20 or 40? she's hot. Would you prefer dating a 20 yo that sucks, but she's young?
4) I don't give a shit of what people think of me. I am the one who go out with her, not them (if that's an issue that really means I'm a stupid kid)

PROS
1) well, she has experience and that's good for sure
2) sure, no more games. I hate games
3) if she loves you she desn't use you. Get a Porsche and go out, pick up some 20 yo girl, she'll give you a head just for the car. She has just used you.
4) that's horrible. You want to date someone to have somebody to buy you stuff? well, you are just a slutty w h o r e.

[BelleGirl21]

I love your opinion! Thank you!

[myTake Owner]

damn i should have let you write it!
lol

[SakuraChii]

On #3, there are plently of beautiful older women and your forgetting that some have a gene where they look younger than their age

[myTake Owner]

i completely agree!
but i didn't mean she was unattractive but rather past her prime

[Marinepilot]

That maybe, but I don't want older women. And I won't compromise on this view.

[I_M_LEGEND]

pros.

stronger communicator, understands you and situations betters hence knows what to do in all situations including with your pants down, less cruel, they just have better nipples to play with more often, she's a better lover physically and emotionally, more humble/modest since she's faced father time, more financially stable so she can help you out as well, less drama if her insecurity is taken care of.

cons

kids, not the best age if you want kids in your future, stubborn, unable to accept new things, sometimes possessive and bossy, makes you age faster mentally, emotional baggage if she was a serial dater, desperate but tries to play it off

[myTake Owner]

Yeah there were more pros and cons, i just thought i would mention a few =)
All your points are valid

[I_M_LEGEND]

yep dated one older. i like younger personally. much younger like 5 years at least.

[Creole_Flavor]

3 and 4 in the cons only applies to a woman that do not look like she could be her age. 2 can only be a con if a guy will mind her having kids. As for 3 in the pros most older women want a commitment so this only applies to a cougar looking for sex with a younger guy and 4, not every older woman is looking to take care of a younger man but she would be willing to foot the bill most times. I would like to add that emotional baggage is something that comes with experience not age. I know older men and women that have not had enough relationships or been through anything bad to consider having baggage. Not meaning to decipher your take I just feel that it is too biased and that under different circumstances some cons may be pros and vice verse and there has to be more to it then you have listed.

[myTake Owner]

your points are very valid, and agree a lot with them =)

[Octavion]

#1 pro should be maturity (i. e. no mind games, no purposely playing hard to get, no purposely ignoring the person to get them to wonder why they're being ignored). Immature guys do this too.

[myTake Owner]

very true!
often age creates experience and maturity

[peachblossomluck]

Personally I like younger guys because they tend to be less insecure, more optimistic, more energetic and happier, nicer to be with all around. I don't have a ton of emotional baggage or a lot of miles on me but I like to think I'd make them as happy as they make me if not hopefully more:)

[myTake Owner]

Yeah, i generalized a bit there, but i am happy to hear that women date younger guys
its nice to here from a a cougar =)

And yeah there are many pros and cons to dating younger guys too!

[peachblossomluck]

There are more socially acceptable options for finding love every day and no one has a right to judge anyone if the couple is happy with the relationship.

[myTake Owner]

Exactly, but people do judge pretty harshly...
It wasn't common, and still isn't as common to see younger guys with older ladies

it was always the other way around, but now things are changing =)

[peachblossomluck]

If you find yourself loving an older woman, rejoice because we tend to know what we want in life and aren't about the drama.

[myTake Owner]

Awesome!
i like this lady who is 35... she cancelled on me though!!! we had plans for today

[peachblossomluck]

You're rather attractive, both looks and personality. She'll get back to you soon:)

[myTake Owner]

OH WOW! i am flattered :)
I don't know she is really beautiful, i think she is looking for a man, even though she may like me she is looking for someone older =(
i get the feeling she is ready to settle down

[peachblossomluck]

If you are mature for your age, it may well work out:) Don't ever doubt yourself.

[myTake Owner]

Thanks for the support!!!
yeah i really like this lady!
i hope it works =)

[Queen_naki5]

I'm a firm believer that people should just date/marry in their own age bracket. Like I wouldn't date anyone past 31 and under 20. That's just me.

[Queen_naki5]

It just sucks how people talk so down about older women. Makes me not wanna get old, but I have no choice.

[myTake Owner]

yeah, getting old isn't the nicest thing
but its a part of life and its beautiful in its own way

[shyguy2004jf]

www.demoties.com/.../102.jpg

Merely depends on the woman and her background.

[myTake Owner]

well said!
i like the meme

[Starfishlover]

Con about women dating younger guys: they're desperate

[myTake Owner]

not necessarily

[peachblossomluck]

A younger guy is a hot catch.

[BelleGirl21]

I'd date a younger guy in a heartbeat and it doesn't mean I wouldn't have plenty of options with older men.

[Thrifty]

Instead of desiring an older woman, why don't I just take control of my destiny and be successful, myself, so that both young and older girls are lining up for my D?

[myTake Owner]

Well said!
but i am not saying GO GET OLDER LADIES! do you
i was just listing some pros and cons
all women have their virtues

[Thrifty]

I just look at Heidi Klum. She got ditched with children from a race car driver. Seal snatches her up and has a few kids, but then in the end she went after a brute and brawny male who was her body guard.

I want a brand new pair of sneakers rather than a pre-owned or vintage pair with no warranty.

[myTake Owner]

to each their own =)

[Thrifty]

I have a non discrimination policy:

I like younger chicks and I like older chicks because I like all chicks.

[Thrifty]

I am staying on this woman's couch for the week that she rents on AirBnB and its this middle aged Latino woman that is the opposite of the crazy cat lady but instead she has 4 dogs that jump and wake me up.

She has a boyfriend who is this jacked meathead that is probably like 25 and this morning she had Mexican music in there and they were moaning and groaning for a few hours.

They couldn't wait until when they had no guests but I was kind of repulsed.

[myTake Owner]

HAHA!
i think i know who that is no lie! lol!
sugar momma on deck! she probably buys that dude protein

[Thrifty]

He was railing her out hardcore because they were really loud.

I feel really grossed out. This why I said I am going to be in control of my own destiny and that I am going to be successful and prosperous because I would rather not have a sugar mother.

[myTake Owner]

Lmao!!!
yeah bro, do you! you dont need some lady supporting you haha

[Thrifty]

One step further: I am open to supporting beautiful ladies.

Family: My girlfriend/wife/daughters/mother/aunts

Professionally: Business associates, secretaries, co-workers, personal stylists, hair dresser, teachers, personal cooks, and more...

But I am going to be at the top and I am going to bless others because I was first blessed by The Lord.

[idkwtftoputhere]

Thank you very much for this mytake
All my concerns of dating older women have been addressed.

[MargaritaPeach]

Ha, ha! I love #3...'she might be using you, but who cares'.

[calliptra]

relationship is just about emotions boy. if u consider these pros-cons shits too much, then you can't be happy even with your soul mate

[JackKerouac77]

And after Ashton married Demi Moore, he got to be with Mila Kunis!

THE WORLD IS FAIR AFTER ALL

[Anonymous]

Are you the dude who asked this www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1309209-she-s-almost-twice-my-age-is-it-ok-to-date-her ?

[myTake Owner]

YES, YES I AM LOL!!!
we got some anonymous detectives here on GAG

[Opinion Owner]

Hahaha I knew it was you!

[myTake Owner]

bringing me too the light!
who are you... that is my question...

[drkrose99]

I just read that question about you and the cougar. So how Is it going? Did u do it yet? I take it that you're still confused about her

[Rissyanne]

Maybe I will do a take on the pros and cons of dating a younger guy.

[myTake Owner]

Yeah! definitely!
thats why i made this! to show a different perspective

[DaddyRollingStone]

Don't date older women, they will try to trap you with a kid.

[myTake Owner]

lol! nah i doubt that

[DaddyRollingStone]

Just be careful of women over 30 dude

[BelleGirl21]

Like they keep their kids a secret and then spring it on you once you're committed, whatever.

[DaddyRollingStone]

No, they will try to get pregnant so you won't leave and you can settle down.

Single moms are a different story

[Marinepilot]

I wouldn't date an older woman. For many reasons. They're looks are gone, too much baggage and they are, well old.
They have way too much baggage and I don't want them. Men who do date then can't do any better and have Mommy issues.

[coolchick4]

What? That's bull.

[muspelhem_5]

Ashton Kutcher 'can't do any better'?

[front2back]

Uhm... I think I'll just stick to women my own age.

[sillygirl13]

All of these are stereotypical pros and cons

[myTake Owner]

well of course
it was supposed to be highly generalized
there are probably better, deeper reasons one would choose to date someone who is older
but these reasons will apply to most cougars/older ladies

[GreatnessPersonified]

I can honestly say you don't know what the FUCK you're talking about.

[Marinepilot]

I know way more about it then you ever will little boy !

[GreatnessPersonified]

Calling someone "a little boy" is childish; you may be an older person, but we are both adults.
okay?

[GreatnessPersonified]

You have also out yourself, I naturally thought the OP was in their 20s with this kind of reasoning.
Am I wrong?

[Anonymous]

Being older does not necessarily mean being financially secure; there are old losers.

[myTake Owner]

yes this is true
this take is highly generalized!