How do you date a super extremely shy guy? i really like him and want to put in the effort to make it work. i need advice please.?

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I've been dating this SUPER shy guy for almost two months now. We've been on 4 alone dates + multiple hang outs with other people/friends. Obviously, it's been going very slow. I met him in class, and he asked me out for drinks. First date was great, but he told me he was shy and acted very reserved. Ever since then, I've been making all the moves. I text him first like 85% of the time. I invite him on dates (90% is me). I text to say hi/how are you/send cute text. He's been slowly opening up but sometimes he pulls back into reserved mode (I guess because we don't see each other as often as I'd like because people told me to take it very slow). I know he really likes me for sure. He still gets a little nervous around me, is super sweet, thoughtful, paid for me on 3 of 4 dates, remembers all the little details. He's so adorable and sends me cute smiley and blushing emoticons in his texts. What I need help with is the following:
-People said I should take it slow (he hasn't had a gf before and is afraid of relationships according to his friend). But how slow is too slow? Like a clear definition please. Is it too much if I ask to see him 2x a week? How often can I text without coming on too strong due to frequent texting? "Slow" is too ambiguous, I need a real timeline.
-We haven't had any physical contact yet. Should I wait for him to make a move? He did ask me out first so he can make some moves… I'm afraid of "emasculating him" if I make a move first. Also, when can I expect a kiss?
-How can I move things along? How can I gently push for more time together? How long will it take for him to get comfortable with me? Everyone is different, but I'd like to hear experiences people have had.

I really like him and he is worth the effort. Please help! :) thanks
How do you date a super extremely shy guy? i really like him and want to put in the effort to make it work. i need advice please.?
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