I feel empty and depressed. It's like when I go places and I see cute girls they never notice me. It's like am a ghosts to them. They always look at my brother. My family and friends tell me I'm not ugly. If I'm not ugly then why don't girls look at me or notice me. I try to lift weights and get in better shape so girls can notice me. But it didn't help. I'm 16 never kissed a girl, never held hands with a girl. Sometimes I feel like giving up and wishing I was never born. I see my brother and my friends getting cute girls but I can't get anyone. You know I wanna have a cute girl. I just feel like killing myself. I just give up with life.
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Well firstly it really is true when people say looks aren't everything. If you notice that your brother gets more attention, watch closely at how he acts and behaves, how he interacts with women. It's a lot to do with putting yourself out there. A lot of good looking guys and girls aren't in relationships because they think that just looking good with get people to approach you and a lot of less attractive people are in relationships because they are able to draw people towards them with MORE than just looks. Remember you date a whole person not just a cardboard cutout.
It's great you're working so hard on your appearance, but try to be a little more confident and if you see a girl you like try smiling at her. If you get a good reaction maybe say hi, ask her how she is and what she's up to. Think of yourself as a peacock :) You have all that great plumage (in your case muscles and looks) but if you walk around with no confidence in it and keeping it all hidden, that cute girl that you're going to date one day won't be able to see it.
Don't feel depressed and unhappy about it, loads of people aren't in relationships not because they're not attractive or because they have nothing to offer - because they don't put themselves out there. Whether that be because of fear of rejection, lack of confidence, insecurity etc. They're all things that, when dealt with, GREATLY increase your chance of finding a date. Don't base your self worth on what women think.. certainly not when you don't give them a chance to really 'see' you :)1