My bf never pays for anything ever when we go out!!?

[lilyflower93]

Why bf never pays for anything, he says its because he doesn't earn much which might be true... bt even when he gets paid he still doesn't pay. All im asking is for him to pay his half sinc3 it should be 50/50. Everytime I try to bring it up he gives me excuses. One time I lend him money so he could go to concert with me and he told me he would pay me back and he never did. I know their are things we could do where we dont have to pay... but still once in awhile its nicw to go out & have fun.

Thanks

[redshirt202]

In a close relationship there isn't usually any "lending money." Businesspeople lend money to each other and keep it in mind exactly how much they are owed, but people in personal relationships are simply generous to each other because they want to be.

Also, if this were a guy paying for every date a girl goes on, nobody would bat an eye. Just sayin'.

But, if he's literally contributing nothing to the relationship (rather than being generous in his own, non-financial way), that's an issue, and you should bring it up to him. Also, since he did agree to pay you back for the concert but didn't, that's a problem too because he's going back on his word, so you should ask him to do what he promised.

[MrAtticusLebowski]

No way. That's a HUGE red flag. I get he doesn't have money but once you barrow with a promise to pay back and don't... time to jump ship. People's attitude with money is usually a slight indication of their personality. Does he have selfish tendencies in other parts of the relationship?

[Anonymous]

Stop paying for him all the time if you don't like it.
It's not right though, and you shouldn't really put up with it.
It's not just girls who use guys for money btw, guys do it to. And it sounds like he's just having fun on your money all the time.
I would still be asking for the money for the concert tickets, and if he asks for more money, say you can't till he pays you the rest of the money he owes you.

[jesseray]

He's a leech. Treat him like all other leeches: pull him off your body, toss him back into the murky waters from which he came, and move on with your life.

[mick12362]

Dump him he is mooch... he should at least pay 50%... my wife is Dutch we have been together16 yrs. Ever since first date... we have split everything 50%... even if I tried to pay for everything... she would never accept. You will have nothing but trouble if you stay

[Mesonfielde]

If he gets paid and he doesn't pay it back then he is untrustworthy. I wouldn't be together with someone who is untrustworthy.

[Matador555]

It's callef equality. Soon women will be paying for their boyfriends. It already happens in Europe in many parts

[Anonymous]

You're getting to be his sugar mommy.

[ieatDaCake]

Hahaha smart man.

[lilyflower93]

Yeaaaa a smart ass who has no dignity ;)

[ieatDaCake]

It's sad that you like a smartass with no dignity, shame on you ;)

[lilyflower93]

People make mistakes... wats important is tat i realized it before it got even worse.