How to Get Laid In High School?

[Anonymous]

I've already accepted I won't have a girlfriend, or at least not a meaningful relationship with anyone I'd actually care about beyond looks (believe me, I've tried and failed, hard). So, I just want to know how I can get laid with a hot girl, not even hot, just average. I've finally realized, after the one girl I really did care about rejected me, most girls are boring to talk to and conversation is basically pointless, and, if the only meaningful thing you can get out of girls is sex, how do I get that?

[The-Dude-Next-Door]

Dude join a sport in HS. And learn how to be a smartass from all the sport practices and games and working out with all your buddies. And do stupid stuff that makes great stories from HS, and it makes you a funny guy. Then when you go to college and live in the dorm rooms, meet some girls there. And make the girls laugh in college, because you learned how to be funny in HS with all your sport pals.

And you'll be in good shape from working out, and you'll start a life time habit of staying fit though out college. Then you will join a co-ed intramural sport in college, and you will have to mingle with girls in college. Then you can get laid when you go back to your dorm room.

The moral of the story is you need to find a sport and play it!

[Asker]

The overall moral of every story is "you will be miserable until college, try not to end your life".

[The-Dude-Next-Door]

College was better than HS, but HS wasn't that depressing. That's because I was obviously involved in some extra curricular activity. Extra curricular activities will get you through.

[thetundrawolf]

Just because you care about a girl does not mean she is right for you. We all grow up thiking this girl or that girl will make us happy... But the reality is that's rarely actually true.

You are young. I am thirty- five an alone.

The biggest tragedy is if you stop maturing and stay in this self indulgent rut you are in. Never growing. Never becoming a better person.

When you are my age and the fun is over, you will realize what a mistake you have made, and you will NOT be ready for a girl who will complete you.

[Asker]

I don't plan on commitment, sure, one day I'll knock a girl up, but that's so my family line doesn't end with me. The thing is that girl would've made me happy, but that didn't work out, so now this girl can make me feel good.

[thetundrawolf]

You're wrong. That girl may have made you miserable. You are giving up on love before you even have a chance to realize what it is. You keep that cold world view and see where it gets you. You will die utterly alone, broken, empty, and cold. Is it really worth it?

[Anonymous]

You sound like a fucking dick! Sex isn't the only meaningful thing you can get out of a girl and if you think it is then you don't deserve a girl this girl probably rejected you because you were being an asshole! I can tell you right now that you could easily go to a party and have meaningless sex with any drunk girl with low self esteem and low standards but as far as losing your virginity goes you should wait and just go slow with a girl that you really care about, that will make the sex 100 times better plus it will actually mean something and be memorable

[Asker]

Well, the one girl that I really cared about couldn't give a shit about me. It was when I tried getting over her that I realized how boring and overall stupid conversation with most girls really is, then I realized that of all my friends, the douchebag that constantly screw girls that I genuinely hate is the happiest in life, that's when I started getting this philosophy. Besides, I don't know about girls, but for guys, sex is generally about feeling good more or less, I don't need someone I genuinely care about, that's no longer an option.

[Lycralady]

I think your biggest problem is your conversational skills. Or more accurately put your listening skills. If all girls do is bore you then why in the world would want one of us in bed. It may behoove you to learn what girls like or want or anything. It sounds to me if you keep going the way you are you will be very frustrated for years to come.

[Anonymous]

Yikes.. How could you have expected a girl to give you something meaningful if all you're looking for is sex? I think you need to take a step back and reread your question. it's a little hypocritical. Plus let me tell you. . sex really isn't that great. its much better when you have someone there that you care about and who cares about you.

[Asker]

Yeah, well, I reached this conclusion that sex is all that matters when I saw how pointless and empty conversation with most girls was, not to mention everyone, even my own father, told me I should like girls for looks rather than personality (though I don't like ugly girls) in high school. Not to mention, far as I can tell "someone there that you care about and who cares about you" usually means friendzone for the guy, and friend/emotional tampon for the girl.

[Opinion Owner]

Just wait until you're out of high school. High school is dumb anyway, and the people there are dumb too. I was popular in high school, and trust me, it got me no where! Once you're out in the real world, people will start caring about the right things. Popularity hardly even exits in the real world

[Asker]

No, I'm sick of having to wait for high school to end to do everything! It's always, "oh, everything's better in college, blah blah blah" well, know what, my life sucks, I'm sick of waiting for college to actually be happy, I can't do it anymore!

[ChildishGambino]

Join the football team.. or lacrosse. . white girls go cray over that shit lol maybe because all the guys on lacrosse team are like models! Lls I don't know get that swaggger of yours to a ten and show them that they haven't lived till they had somee of you. Lmaoo bwaha

[Asker]

Girls are so shallow...

[ChildishGambino]

Actually i was being sarcastic... so damn... i wonder what that makes you :p

[Anonymous]

You sound like such a dick! oh my god! girls are worth so much more than just sex. PLUS you're under 18 there will be plenty of girls in your future... that is if you ever fucking realized that woman are fucking human beings and not just things put on this earth to fuck around with. Wait till you're older, till you can actually enjoy the experience with the person you love, not just to get it over with.

[Asker]

I don't want to love anybody, I don't want to fucking love anybody ever a-fucking-gain. Most girls, I just can't stand talking to, it's so boring and just stupid, and most guys really do do it just for sex anyway, I figured, time to stop being better than them and time to start actually being a man.

[Opinion Owner]

Being a man, does not mean you use women!

[Asker]

Besides, don't girls like dicks anyway? Aren't you into a fun, worthless, relationship with a guy you know only wants sex? Believe me, most of the girls I know are like that.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes I like fun. But I would never do something with someone i wasn't in a meaningful relationship with. How old are you?

[Asker]

16 besides, even if I tried to have a "meaningful relationship" pretending I actually cared would be too tiring after a while.

[Opinion Owner]

You have plenty of time to change your mind... what is your big hurry anyway?

[Asker]

To get over the girl that broke my heart, I'm sick of this "you'll be happy in college" crap, believe it or not, two years of misery sucks.

[Opinion Owner]

You get over her. its not the end of the world

[Asker]

2 months and I still want to die.

[Opinion Owner]

it took me 6 months get over my first love, it gets easier

[Asker]

Well, if I'm suicidal for one more month, I'll probably be dead in 2.

[Opinion Owner]

That is no way to think

[RichardBoehner]

the girls that claim they're worth more than just sex are the insecure ones that actually AREN'T good for anything else but they shoot themselves in the foot by not doing the one thing they're good at and complaining in every other instance. and then of course, no one likes them and they develop this ridiculous worldview that everyone who even speaks to them is only after sex, when really if they were just a decent human being they might have some other productive aspect of themselves to benefit the world

[Opinion Owner]

I think I'm worth more then just sex, and yes i'm insecure but not all girls feel the way described. Also if you are trying to say that I'm good for nothing but to have sex because of my insecurities then you sir have some serious problems. Women a human beings not sex toys, no matter how insecure they are.

[RichardBoehner]

just because you think it doesn't make it true. and no i'm saying if you complain all the time don't expect people to love you for your personality because your personality is obviously shit.

[Opinion Owner]

Complain about what exactly? and I am loved by someone. and He loves my personality

[Asker]

Love is a lie anyway, at least to me, love may exist for you, for me, it's just a sad lie.

[Opinion Owner]

You're 16 you shouldn't care what love is! Love is something you find when you get older, when you're ready for it

[Anonymous]

Try to broaden your social circle. Believe me, there are probably huge sluts in your HS that you don't even know about. Start by hanging with some guys that you know are getting some but aren't in a serious relationship. Ask them about ex-gfs and flings. Then, if you find one, just be confident, be patient and sooner or later you're going to get your dick wet.

[Opinion Owner]

The dude next door is right. Girls will butter up to any guy who can make her laugh or tell her stories about crazy things they've done. Be more social. Meet new people outside of school, try to get as many crazy experiences as possible

[Asker]

That's hard, and there aren't any girls at my school.

[Opinion Owner]

Getting laid isn't easy, bro. Nobody's gonna hand you a naked Olivia Wilde on a silver platter.

[Asker]

Then how do you do it?

[Anonymous]

Wait did you just say the only meaningful thing you can get out of us is sex? What the actual fuck? Are you saying that we're only useful by fucking us and making you men feel good? Dude there's millions of girls out there. You're not even 18 yet and you're worrying about sex. Yeah, I know a lot of kids get laid now a days but I recommend you wait till like college. Talk to more people and get new friends.

[Negrodamus]

don't be in too much of a hurry. You can't get it back you know. Tbh, you may be too young to "finally realize" much of anything. Just chill and work on improving yourself

[Asker]

Um, I honestly don't think my virginity is all that special.

[Dionysos]

With that attitude?

Pretty much just by paying for it in cash.

Remember though. You're not paying her to sleep with you. You're paying for her to walk away afterwards.
:D

[CommieDearest]

Don't. You'll be happy you didn't get involved in that mess until later.

[Asker]

Doubt it

[RichardBoehner]

uhh... nope. nope you're wrong

[CommieDearest]

@RichardBoehner wicked good argument dude. You should be on the Supreme Court.

[RichardBoehner]

i don't have to say why what you said is stupid. anyone with half a brain could figure it out.

[CommieDearest]

@RichardBoehner just refer to my last comment it still applies.

[RichardBoehner]

nope. nope its still stupid advice.

[CommieDearest]

@RichardBoehner lol u mad little boy?

[Red_Dragon]

I wouldn't know. I was a virgin in HS and hated HS. My guess would be to be popular. That's the easiest way.

[kheserthorpe]

Go to parties, flirt your ass off, escalate.

No, there really isn't more to it, especially given you're in a single sex high school

[Anonymous]

Become someone... more specific popular.

Captain of the football team, basketball team, etc

Make friends with everyone.

Get invited to parties.

You'll get laid.

[Opinion Owner]

Sure it sounds shallow but up you asked a question and I gave you an honest answer.

High school is like the movies and tv shows when you're in high school.

[Asker]

Dammit, I don't even like sports, oh well, time to quit acting.

[Opinion Owner]

Well there's other things those just seem to be the most popular.

At my school our President was popular and got all the girls you could go for that.

Or something with music do you play instruments girls always fall for a guy that can play the guitar and sing or plays something else in a band and I don't mean school bans but an actual band.

Some girls like the deep mysterious guy that is poetic and cute.

So, e girls even like nerds but they usually only have the nerd look and aren't true to being an actual nerd.

Acting can be hot and win the girls over as long as you're good and go after the lead rolls.

Oh skaters are pretty hot too.

You actually have a lot of options just pick one and become known be someone.

I'm known for volleyball, student council, drama, and actually befriending everyone having no enemies is a definite plus.

[Asker]

Thats why I say even talking to girls is pointless. I basically can't even be myself, I have to be some unrealistic fantasy.

[Opinion Owner]

If you like acting stick with it just become known pick the good rolls. Make friends influence people in your school to come support you and your club.

Don't just stand on the side sighing wishing someone will notice you make yourself visible.

And yeah you'll probably get laid you just need to get in good with the right people.

[Asker]

Yeah, I really hate high school.

[Opinion Owner]

But it's not unrealistic... well it can be but that's your choice.

If you don't like those things then don't do it but if you do them stock to it like you said acting.

How do you define yourself exactly do you have friends? Are you known by many or stand in the shadow? Are you happy with yourself or not so much?

If you are fine continue with it just try to invest your time into your true self and what you enjoy, if you aren't then you should do so, etching about it and not feel bad for yourself.

You don't have to stray away from who you are but let it be known it be known.

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry... I would tell you it's only 4yrs but it's not.

Like Bowling Soup says High School Never Ends... On the bright side they made their life better =D

[Opinion Owner]

Watch this: https://youtu.be/jrxI_euTX4A

[Anonymous]

O my sweet Jesus. You're being so stupid right now! You're life sucks cause why? You can't lay a girl? Damn. And you're calling us shallow? You said "I don't like ugly girls" plenty of times... The fuck? That's shallow, dude. Just don't fucking try, okay? Just be gay. This is why I'm Bi. Because girls know what girls want. I'd rather be lesbian, but I just don't believe I'm into only girls. Don't be so fucking stupid. *face palms*

[bubbletrouble]

I would tell you to become a comical asshole or a beefy jock since young women respond to that (sexually).

[Asker]

Shallow.

[bubbletrouble]

Yeah, well I don't think they can help it

[front2back]

If you go in with that attitude, you aren't gettin' anything.

Just being honest with you.

[Anonymous]

Wait till your ready, you'll know when your ready...
I'm not ready either...

[Anonymous]

Work on your ability to connect to others and not just lust for them. And stay fit.

[Anonymous]

Talk to your teachers. Teachers seem to be banging everyone these days.

[Anonymous]

Go to a party get drunk chat her up, hope you cheer up, it's a shame you need sex to be happy

[Asker]

Yeah, how do I get to a party?

[Univerise]

lol just find a hoe at a club or something

[Asker]

You need to be 21 to go to a club.

[Univerise]

your a young buck man lol just youporn that shit until you can hit up the clubs. Lift some weights get swole and then clean up wherever the party is at.

[NovemberJoseph]

@Univerise
You know what's up 👌

[Reggaemonster]

You don't. Wait it out dude. College

[Asker]

No, I'm sick of having to wait til college, I'm sick of having to hear how my life is bound to be shit before college, college this, college that, if I won't be happy before college, I'll probably kill myself before I get there.

[Reggaemonster]

Okay well even if you don't wait until college, wait until you really like someone enough to do the dirty with them. Otherwise you might regret it.

[RichardBoehner]

bad advice. once again women know nothing about sex.

[Reggaemonster]

You're right, I don't. All I know is that I am glad I waited. But if you think you're ready than go for it, best of luck

[Anonymous]

Are you willing to hook up with ugly girls?

[Asker]

I don't find myself ugly, so no.

[Opinion Owner]

Uh then how hot does she have to be for you?

[Asker]

At least average maybe a bit above average, I don't want a girl I think I look better than.

[Opinion Owner]

For dating or just sex or both?

[Asker]

I'd say dating, but that would mean actually talking to people, so, I guess just sex.

[KBob93]

Are you a virgin?

[Asker]

Yes.

[KBob93]

You don't want to save it? You'll regret it.

[Asker]

Well, I can't get pregnant, and I don't think my virginity is special.

[abcdgg]

there s always escorts.. or go to parties or clubs

[Asker]

I'm not an adult, I can't get escorts or go to clubs. Besides, that's pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Be more attractive.

[Asker]

Oh, I could get attractive girls, my problem is I hate talking to them because I always feel like a dumbass doing it.

[Opinion Owner]

Because you're being a dumbass? Trying to get laid in high school is stupid. Meaningless sex is stupid. You're just hurt about that other girl. Well how many people go to your high school? At mine there's 2,000. So if out of that many people you found one girl you really like but can't find another, don't sweat it. You're only looking at a tiny number of people. Girls have way more to offer than sex. You just have to find the right one.

[Asker]

Most of the girls I've met in my entire lifetime had absolutely nothing to offer in the way of personality or fun, so, what exactly do they have to offer? Even so, I go to a single-sex school, so I'm way more desperate about it.

[Opinion Owner]

I doubt that every girl you've met or even any of them have nothing to offer. You don't really know someone and all they have to offer until you get close to them. If you're just meeting girls and chatting with them on occasion then you don't know them.
What's the rush to have sex? Seriously I know you have urges. We all do. But meaningless sex isn't all its cracked up to be. Don't be that guy please lol. I don't date guys who fool around. A lot of girls won't.

[Opinion Owner]

It makes you a whore. Yeah. Guys can be whores.

[Asker]

My friend does that and easily gets girls. Besides, once you've gotten close enough to a girl to know "all she has to offer" you're usually in the friend zone. Besides, based on what you've said, you're not a virgin, and, being a girl, you don't know what that means for a guy.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe in your limited experiences with girls, you get friend zoned once you get close. I'm not saying that in a condescending way. I only just turned 18 and I'm a senior. I have limited experiences too. We're in high school, we haven't experienced real world dating yet. There's may more to learn and see. You're getting "friend zoned" because the girls aren't interested. But not everyone will be interested in you. That's fine. Maybe you won't date until you're in college, that's fine too.
And actually- I AM a virgin :) I didn't even kiss a guy until I was 16/17. And I've only kissed one guy and it was a hook up and I wish I hadn't wasted my first kiss or sexual experience on some guy (not all the way btw.) I think you'd feel that way to after hooking up. You sound like a really awesome dude and smart. I know that guys get teased for being virgins but don't let that shit get to you.

[Opinion Owner]

I like a guy who is 18 and never even kissed a girl. Girls love that... only guys care about other guys being virgins

[Asker]

Well, I need to get over this girl, this is the only way I can think of, waiting for "time to heal my wound" was a load of bs, I'm still upset, this is what I think will make me happy.

[Opinion Owner]

The irony. I liked (still like) that guy for 2 years. And he "lost feelings" and all that. I found out three months ago and I still feel like complete shit. I thought slutting around would make me feel better but it didn't. It just made be feel worse.
Of course its fun when's its happening but then almost immediately after you still feel empty because you're not getting what you really want.

[Asker]

Then how do I feel better? It's impossible to find another girl, usually they're either already taken, I can't like them no matter how hard I tried, or I can't stand talking to them, and I can't wait til college for some magic fix.

[Opinion Owner]

Duuuude I know what you mean. I don't really know how to feel better. I'm starting to, but it really does take time I guess. What grade are you in?

[Asker]

11th

[Opinion Owner]

You don't have too long. I'm not trying to sound cliche or be a dick but work hard. Study for the ACT/SAT. And are you in any clubs or sports? Focusing on those is a good way to keep busy. I try to go out and make crazy new memories whenever I can. And when you're having fun its easier to forget her

[Asker]

I'm not in any sports, but I do do stuff.

[Opinion Owner]

Start working out if you don't already. I recently started. Its a good way to build confidence.

I know I haven't changed your mind any, so if you do decide to go out and have sex with randoms. Be safe.

[Asker]

I tried working out, it was just too hard, I couldn't get abs fast enough, so I gave up.

[Opinion Owner]

Here's some serious advice, girl to guy.
If you really want to get laid, attraction is important. And honestly I don't care about abs as long as the guy has a flat stomach, but arms are waaaay more important. Biceps are incredibly sexy. Js.
You should stick with it, you'll thank yourself later. And I'm becoming a bit of a health nut as are a lot of people (its a craze now) and most of us want to be with someone who lives a healthy lifestyle.

[Asker]

Well, I'm not fat, I'm pretty fit, good at climbing, but I have a more or less average build for my age (healthy average, not American average

[Asker]

My big problem is, I go to a single-sex school, so this is way harder.

[Opinion Owner]

Everyone looks better when they work out.
And feels better. Well yeah I can imagine going to an all boys school sucks. How do you meet girls? The ones you already know?

[Asker]

Going places, hangin out after school, extracurricular activities, I only spoke to most of them in a heat of the moment type sense, I already decided to meet them, most girls I've met have boyfriends too.

[Opinion Owner]

Welp. Go forth and spread your seed if you must.

[Asker]

I just don't know what to do anymore, half the time I feel like dying over that other girl, then when I saw how much girls utterly hate guys like me, guys who try to be kind, guys that get friendzoned, I changed my perspective, this was all I could think of to be happy again, and I CANNOT get friendzoned again.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand how you feel. My heart is broken. It fucking sucks so bad. Girls don't hate guys like you, btw. Just because you haven't been appreciated yet doesn't mean girls hate you

[Asker]

Maybe, I guess. I just, this girl, I know I haven't fully given up, but that's besides the point. Now that I know I'm the type of loser that constantly gets shipped to fucking friend land, I've all but given up anyway, hell, I was ready to screw a girl I knew was a total slut, because I didn't even care anymore. For me it's always, I get to just be the best fucking friend in all of friend land, where people go to be the best fucking friends that ever friended. I'm sick of it, sick of this bullshit zone.

[Opinion Owner]

I haven't given up on him either. Which is unhealthy to hold on but we all do it I guess.

I've never dated either. The only guys that like me are guys I have absolutely zero interest in. And I've only ever liked two guys my whole life and that didn't work out too well. It sucks so bad.

You should try meeting more girls. You will find one. I'm hoping to find a new guy. Having sex will fix horniness but not loneliness

[Asker]

I guess, though I have the same issue with you. You ever been friendzoned though, that's my entire dating life, except the one time I met a girl with mental issues.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't have a lot of guy friends so no.
In my case, he acted like he was in love with me. Stared at me, touched my hand, got jealous, watched movies with me, called me, etc... for a few months. And then bam, he just stopped liking me. You know how shitty that feels? I thought we were on the verge of dating and he didn't even answer my last text. We haven't talked in 3 months.

We all have our problems with the opposite sex :/

[Asker]

Most of the girls I know are taken, there was one girl I had a small crush on after the other one sent me to the friend hell, we had very similar personalities, liked the same things, had the same religious beliefs, and even had pretty good chemistry, but, since she was shallow, nothing came out of it (even though I'm attractive I wasn't white, blond-haired, or blue-eyed, apparently).

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe she wasn't attracted to you and that has nothing to do with being white or blonde? Most girls don't even like blonde hair on guys lol. And I'm white but I like all races, I actually prefer darker skin. What race are you? ?

[Asker]

Black-Hispanic, I'm pretty much mixed with all races, so I stick with what I said first.

[Opinion Owner]

Nothing wrong with that.

[Asker]

Either way, seems like most girls don't like me, at least not normal ones, or ones I can relate to.

[Asker]

The thing is, while she never rejected me, hearing her type was enough.

[Opinion Owner]

Dude you can like someone outside your type lol

[Asker]

Well, I think she has a boyfriend now anyway.

[Opinion Owner]

"There's other fish in the sea." Lol. I'm looking.

[Asker]

I hate that phrase, it makes it sound easy. It's already hard to find a girl you like, harder to find a girlfriend.

[Opinion Owner]

That's why I put it in quotes. I'm right there with you. Reeeeally hope I find that new guy soon. But until then I guess I'll just focus on other stuff.

[Asker]

Hey, wanna chat tomorrow or something, you're the first person here that didn't give me either an insult or advice that sounds like total bullshit, and I really need advice on how to get a gf. The thing is, with my depression, when it's as late as it is right now, I tend to get a bit delusional (that's how I know it's about time to go to sleep).

[Opinion Owner]

I'm also in the depression boat, lol.
Yeah, we can chat tomorrow. Good night.

[Asker]

Hey, do you have a username?