It's all true that a man only interested in sex won't care about you beyond sexual pleasure. Then again, some men will do anything for the sexual conquest, including faking, lying and pretending. If you are dating a socipath he will push all the right buttons and say all the right things in order to get what he wants.
I believe the true way to know is by gauging his unconditional love. True love accepts you for who you are and doesn't try and change you with emotional manipulation and such. This is why I'm an advocate for celibacy. Nothing says commitment like foregoing sex for the sake of your significant other.
Try and set up some boundaries and see how he responds. If he tries to change and manipulate you, leave him. The fact that a man buys you expensive dinners and talks about your emotions does not mean he is a gentleman. The question is: have you had sex yet? If not, then you are at an advantage. Tell him you want a no sex relationship and see how he responds. If you've already had sex, well then it get's complicated. But ultimately try and see how he acts when you give him what he wants, in certain situations. If he suddenly loses interest after getting his needs are met, the chances are he is just an narcissist and is using you.
Love is spelt: you. If you love someone, you live to see them happy.
Lust is spelt: me. If you lust after someone, you only care about getting what you want, even if it means forcing the other person.
This is a bad sign: cold then warm. This is how men often manipulate women. They're kind and then they're cruel. This causes an unhealthy co-dependency to form between you and the abuser. If he does the good cop bad cop routine, get out while you can.
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i haven't been after only sex since high school.. so honestly i wouldn't know... i think its impossible to know w/o w8ing and taking time to see if hell w8... or else risking it and seeing if he stays... the more info u ask him about what he wants form a relationship might make it easier to know his intentions...
He ask for sex
He always wants to hang out at home
Every topic he brings up leads eventually back to your body
He talks about his dick
He texts or calls you real late
He is always trying to rub on you or get physical
He gets upset if you ask him to do something during the day or In public
Well, if he is interested he'll want to take you out on dinner dates and get to know you as a person. If he just want sex, you'll mostly be placed in physical scenarios rather than loving ones, such as cuddling without any sexual contact.
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Doesn't give you love
Never getting invited to anywhere
Late night lovers
Responsless texts
If you he only talks about sex (having no clue about where he lives, what he eats, family, work, friends)
When he doesn't want a girlfriend ("no time")
When he has a virtual sign "don't disturb" on the weekends, that means he is reserving for another girl for sexIf the guy says "If you love me you will." if you hear that from a guy ladies, time to say goodbye.
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When he comes by for sex then leaves after and also never spends a dime on you or takes you out any place nice insted you spend your time at BK and other cheap places
if guy love you he will feel nervous to touch u but he wants sex then he will try to touch u again and again...
Am I being naïve if I say: Just ask him?
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