Why do girls always lie?

[Anonymous]

Seriously, I ask a girl to a dance and she lies and says she's doing something, when I mention she got the month wrong she said she had something to do on the actual date as well. I'm sick of girls and their lies, do they think I'm an idiot? I mean, they can say no, if they really want me to through myself off the goddamn Golden Gate why don't they just say it?

[Bluemax]

Perhaps the girl or girls in question had very negative experiences rejecting someone before. Some men have very bad tempers and become very angry.

Gaging from your various responses, asker, it seems like you are very hurt. Perhaps the girl sensed this about you and thought you might become angry and possibly violent. You seem ready to inflict violence on yourself, so it's understandable they don't want to be confrontational with you.

You're young, however, and you will find out that there's no shame in being rejected. It happens to us all. You can message me if you like.

[Werewolfy]

You don't have much experience with humans, don't you?
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[Bandit74]

Damn you beat me to it

[lumos]

The thing with guys and rejection is that it seems like no matter how you reject them, you're doing something wrong. If you make up excuses, you're a bitch. If you ignore them, you're a bitch. If you tell them that you're not interested, you're a bitch. Some girls lie and beat around the bush because they don't want to hurt the guy's feelings by essentially telling him that he's unattractive (physically/mentally/emotionally). Other girls are more upfront than that, but are still being called bitches for being "insensitive" or "self-entitled" or "shallow".

[Asker]

I DONT CARE, I'VE REJECTED AT LEAST ONE GIRL, AND I RELISHED IT, I ENJOY THE THOUGHT THAT I ACTUALLY DID THAT, I TAKE PLEASURE IN THAT MEMORY, NO ONE INSULTED ME FOR IT!!!

[lumos]

Good for you. But a lot of girls get harassed for saying no or showing disinterest.

[KeeperofMee]

I'm pretty sure girls insult the other person after a break up too using words such as jerk etc.

[lumos]

@Keeperofme oh sure, a lot of girls end up calling a guy gay etc if they get rejected. But the number of aggressive guys far outnumber the amount of aggressive girls.

[lumos]

@Keeperofmee *

[Bluemax]

"Some girls lie and beat around the bush because they don't want to hurt the guy's feelings by essentially telling him that he's unattractive (physically/mentally/emotionally)"

I'm on board with you about everything except beating around the bush. This often causes even greater pain, even though it's unintentional, by dragging out a process that should be done relatively quickly.

[lumos]

@Bluemax I know. Whenever someone is asking how to reject someone else (be it on here or IRL) I always tell them to be honest, polite and quick, and to not lead them on or drag it out. This, however, is not something a lot of people realize. They think that the "problem" will magically go away on its own and that no feelings will be hurt in the process.

[Bluemax]

"and that no feelings will be hurt in the process. "
Ah yes! That elusive painless rejection that so many seek. I've often said trying to find a painless way to reject someone is like searching for the Northwest Passage or El Dorado... except that we gave up on searching for the Northwest Passage and El Dorado about 2 centuries ago..

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

Because when it comes to rejectong guys we cannot win. if we don't do it harshly enough they usually come back trying to persuade you, if you are nasty you get verbal abuse and if you're honest you get abuse too.

I just go for the direct: go away I don't like you.

If that doesn't work I tend to just be vile to them. Rip them to pieces until they just fuck off.

Don't worry, I'd happily tell you what I thought of you if the situation arose ;)

[Meee97]

So it sounds like she had a choice between "sounding like a b****" or being a lier... And also not many people can handle the truth, so how was she to know, that you wanted her to be brutally honest? Cause I have no problem being 100% honest with people, who I know can take it... But I do hold back on those, who can't, or those, who I don't know.

[Asker]

Actually I wanted her to either not exist or I wanted to have never met her as I wish with the majority of assholes I know, and not just her, every girl, always lying, as if I'm some idiot, I don't trust any of them!!! I may pretend to be naive, but they haven't the slightest clue... I know far more than I let up.

[Meee97]

And that's why we have the ability to communicate... If you want someone to be brutally honest, than tell 'em that... Ofcorse some people simply don't have the guts to be honest... Also remember- it's in human nature to lie... Now I will never believe you, if you said you've never lied

[Asker]

I have, but not constantly, girls always lie to me.

[Meee97]

Well, than it's a case of not having guts, so to speak.. But if it makes you feel any better, I can deffinetly be brutally honest with you... And by the way, there are also men, that lie, so don't generalize this thing so much

[DaveyYourFavey]

They think that we are the same.

That we can't take sh*t the same way they can't.
They think rejection will reduce us to a blubbering mess, stuffing our face with ice-cream and whinging on the phone to our friends.

That's understandable but cmon!

We can take it.

We are men!

[Anonymous]

You have a really poor attitude and you're making mountains out of mole hills. Take some time to work on yourself and your confidence and the right girl will come along. Reading your comments, it sounds like you have some serious insecurities so instead of trying to find a girlfriend to make your life better, try working on your own personal happiness first and then you can have a girlfriend who will add to your happiness, not create it.

[Asker]

Yeah, well, my life won't ever change anyway, so fixing it is impossible, which is why dying is my favorite solution.

[Opinion Owner]

Again with the poor attitude. No girl will want to date someone with that kind of mentality. And girls are allowed to not be interested in you, just like you're allowed to not be interested in them. It doesn't make them bitches, it makes them human, just like you and me. Don't make relationships the center of your life and you'll be a lot happier.

[Asker]

Well I've never been in one, how could I think the world isn't against me when no one in the world likes me?

[Opinion Owner]

The world is never against you. It's all about your perception. How old are you if you don't mind me asking?

[Asker]

I'm turning 18 in July.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok, well you have A LOT of life ahead of you, A LOT of girls to meet, A LOT of dates to go on, probably a lot more rejection too (not to be rude, that's just life. We deal with it and more on). You don't need a girlfriend right now. I didn't start dating until I was college and around 19. I didn't have my first serious relationship until I was 24, so don't sweat it. If you feel like a relationship is going to complete your life, you'll never be totally happy because you'll be with someone for the sake of being with them. Cut yourself some slack. Don't hate the world when things don't go your way. You have a lot of growing up to do and when the time is right for you and your life, you'll meet someone special.

[Anonymous]

It could have been an honest mistake or she just didn't want to hurt your feelings I think jumping off a bridge is a little extreme

[Asker]

Well, assuming I'm an idiot and getting rejected and lied to by yet another girl hurts even worse, especially From one that I thought would say yes for a change. And, jumping off the bridge would be fun.

[Opinion Owner]

She probably lied to you because if she straight up said no she was afraid of how you'd react... Which id say is pretty valid since for some reason you think her rejecting you is a valid reason to jump off a bridge.

[Asker]

Well, because I'm sick of being rejected all the fucking time as if I'm a worthless piece of shit, so, I'm starting to think life can go suck a dick and leave me alone.

[Opinion Owner]

There's plent of women in the world im sure you'll meet one who wants to be with you but I can tell you right now you'll have to work on your outlook on life if you want that to happen

[Asker]

Why, every time I meet a girl and think maybe this time things will be different, they're exactly the same.

[Opinion Owner]

So do you think that's every girl you meets fault or yours?

[Asker]

I don't give a damn no matter what I do it's always the same, if there was a god (I'm an atheist) I'd tell him to go shove it.

[Opinion Owner]

You've got a pretty shitty attitude about women... So thats a big factor.

[RestlessYouth_]

Because we're demons sent from hell to make your life harder.

[Bluemax]

Certainly more interesting. ;-D

[Anonymous]

That's not all girls, it's one girl. It sounds like she just doesn't like you

[Asker]

No shit, Sherlock.

[Opinion Owner]

And it sounds like you're just angry about it. You'll get over it eventually

[Asker]

No, I've been humiliated, my value as a man has been destroyed.

[Opinion Owner]

Your value as a man has been destroyed because one girl doesn't like you? Like a few others have said, she probably felt like she has to lie to prevent being harassed.

[Anonymous]

You should be thankful that she wasn't a bitch about it.

[Asker]

I'm not a fucking idiot, I'M SICK OF BEING LIED TO!!! I bet you've never been rejected, haha, don't lie.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, it's pretty hard to get rejected if you've never asked someone out. You have to know that everyone lies at some point though. I'm sure you have too and if you say you haven't, that in itself will be a lie. All I'm saying is that it could have been way worse and it seems like she didn't want to hurt your feelings, which is pretty nice.

[Asker]

You haven't, so you can't possibly understand how I feel. And, I wouldn't feel bad if I were an idiot, she insulted me, like everyone always does.

[Opinion Owner]

Actually I do. That's exactly why I don't ask guys out, cause I'm afraid of being vulnerable and getting rejected. You're probably more angry about the fact that someone else rejected you, yet again. I mean it doesn't matter how they do it, it pretty much hurt the same.

[Opinion Owner]

hurts*

[Bluemax]

I hope you get over that fear, anonymous.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks, maybe someday. @Bluemax

[Klaatu51]

so guys never lie, eh? :-P