Do Guys like it when Girls ask them out?

Question

Been trying to get the guts to ask a friend out on a date and was wondering if guys don't mind/ appreciate it when girls take the lead?

I'm not expecting anything out of this guy (ie sex/ one nighters, long term relationships, end up being the one) Just want to see if I like him in a dateable level in my point of view.

wstt2 · Accepted Answer

Unfortunately, here's your correct answers. But let me say this first.
Would you like it if a guy you knew just came out and said "I really am attracted to you and I want to be your boyfriend?" I'm betting the majority of women would say yes to liking to have this happen. BUT... In reality have you ever been attracted to anyone who's ever done something like that? The reason I say this is because a guy who does it this way does so because he's received no flirting signals back and probably hasn't given any. He's just throwing it out there as a last resort.

Likewise. Sure as a guy I'd love to have women ask me out. But, has a girl EVER asked me out that I've actually been interested in? The answer is not one. The only times girls have done that is because we were friends, they liked me and I showed no interest back. If I liked them, I would hav flirted more and definitely already asked them out. So yes I'd like it, but most likely it won't work. I'd suggest keep talking, try flirting a little and wait for him to ask you out. HE WILL ASK YOU OUT IF HE DOES ACTUALLY LIKE YOU. (Even if I just wanted to hook up with a girl and didn't want to date her, I would still ask her out and if I hadn't done so yet, her asking me out first still wouldn't change things).

mbafge · Accepted Answer

Totally. Someone did that to me, and it just communicated to me that they are blunt with what they want. I like it. I even encourage it. You hear that ladies? The sad truth is that a lot of men are extraordinarily thick. If there's that guy you like and you are trying to place "subtle hints" of your interest (such as playing with your hair, eye contact, etc. Typical things like that) chances are a lot of us won't even notice. Or we'll think you're just being friendly. A lot of us aren't too keen onto this sort of thing. So if you want something, just go for it! Plus it makes our job easier haha.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Read the comments on here:  I for one, would be and have been turned off when a guy tells me he was waiting for me to approach him, because he felt intimidated. To me that's a guy with undisclosed baggage that needs to be dealt with before entering into a relationship with him. It makes me wonder what other areas in life does he slack off in, if approaching a woman is so hard.

jjodllwedo · Accepted Answer

to be honest it  hasn't  gone well when i have done it. But i wish you good luck!

mithramitzmittu · Accepted Answer

Asking out has nothing to do with your sexuality... :-)

MackBeJacked · Answer

My senior year of high school a very cute girl approuched me and asked for a moment of privacy. I thought she was going to chew me out for starring at her butt or boobs or something... but she whipped out big smile and a huge cookie with "prom?" written in frosting. I felt like a million bucks!! It thrilled me that the girl had the guts this time, and without taking the innciative to ask me to the prom, we might not have had the amazing time that we shared that wonderful evening.

We were voted "best prom couple 2007"

FlowerLovingFiend · Answer

Wow. I guess I am old-fashioned. I always felt that a man was supposed to take the lead and pursue if he was interested. It shows confidence, it shows that he's interested enough to invest time in the pursuit. It shows that he's not easily afraid. So many boys are growing up without a strong male role model. there are certainly exceptions to the rule, such as if it's a brief encounter and the guy catches the woman's eye but he hasn't noticed her or something. But c'mon fellas, show a woman that you are interested enough to risk the rejection.

Orrrr... don't and I guess you'll be OK too. Times... they are a-changin'.

Yc2K15 · Answer

Yeah good luck! But don't lead him on or it can back fire.
If a girl asked me out I would assume permission to flirt with her on the next level or even make a move.
Nothing is worse than being led on, it can cause massive confidence issues or could turn him against you.
BUT
I dont understand why you need to ask him out to see if he is worthy of dating. Seems a little dodgy to me...
Do you even know this guy or did you just find him on tinder?

sobg71124 · Answer

No! Definitely not. It's much more natural for men to pursue and doesn't give a very good impression of her if she takes matters into her own hands. In addition, It's very uncomfortable to be in that position, and he may say, "yes," just so as not to hurt your feelings. Leave *subtle* hints, If he likes you, he will ask you out!

bmin7511 · Answer

Yes! Normally it's the guys who has to make the first move. It's cool when it's the other way around. It's rare... only happened to me a couple of times... but it's a turn on for me when it does happen. It's the year 2015. ... girls are allowed to make the first move :)

Wolfie2014 · Answer

I said no, but i do respect woman that have the guts to ask the guy out. However, as a guy, it is MY job to court the girl. The girl's only job during the process is to have the best damn time of her life. If she's having a good time, then i'm having a good time too because then i know I'm doing a good job at doing what i was born to do :)

godfatherfan · Answer

There are few things that are better or hotter then a woman taking the lead. First to ask the guy out. The BEST is when she grabs you and takes that first kiss when your worrying when the best time to try will be so you don't seem like a sex starved creep. first to bring up sex... any firsts are awesome...

ShadowFan12 · Answer

In all honesty, I'm more of a traditionalist when it comes to this subject, though honestly I wouldn't mind a change up every now and then, though usually, if I take interest in a girl, I'm going to ask her out one way or another. Life's too short to wait for things to come to you, gotta act on them while you can.

Nashton · Answer

I always thought that if a girl and I are talking and she mentions a place and says "Oh and you should come too!" or "it'd be nice to hang out sometimes"

that was her way of indirectly asking. chicks do that all the time.

but if you mean directly saying " would you go with with me!" then i find it flattering. my second GF actually did that to me.

Ghibli · Answer

I do that way at first I can kindly turn her down at first, then when I feel like I'm ready to take things to another level with her, then me and her can hit it off, like becoming a couple.

I'm saying this cause I hear about some girls turning down guys who ask a girl out at first, then later own in life she finally gives him a chance... I wish I could hear about a guy finally giving a girl a chance after he kindly turn her down at first.

Anonymous · Answer

ABSOLUTELY!!!

Seriously, do not underestimate how great it is if a girl asks first. Life is too short, go for it if you like him and who knows, it could be the start of something great!

Could you help me out with mine pls?
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1370383-is-this-flirty-female-friend-into-me-am-i-into-her-why-do-i

Anonymous · Answer

I have said no every time. It has only happened to me a handful of times though. Once I just laughed in her face and walked away. Another time I strung a girl along for a while, haha. It felt good to have the tables turned for once, because both of those happened to me.

Adenn · Answer

Guys are just as insecure as women are, 95% of the time we think a woman is out of our league and won't even bother. If you are attracted to a guy, by all means ask him out! PLEASE!

nerdybirdy42 · Answer

Some guys like me are blind to flirting when it comes to girls flirting in a dating kind of way so the girl asking us out is probably going to be the only way it's going to happen

CincinnatiRedsfan · Answer

Most guys (and myself included) would agree a girl asking a guy out is a good thing. So I voted "A." Traditional gender roles are pretty much being abolished.

TheGenck · Answer

I would have loved to be asked out by a girl and more girls should do it.

Dansexual · Answer

I love nothing more than getting a Facebook message from one of my girls and says "Dan, I want you to come round and bareback me balls deep"  Deffo take the lead

CCurlz120 · Answer

Ask away girl... I know guys love this. You come at him super raw an honest about your feelings towards him, and he is available, he'll be a fool not to say yes to you.

Nomad93 · Answer

I've got a crush on a couple of girls but I am hesitant to make a move I wish one of them would ask me if they don't I might just bite the bullet and ask them myself.

byourself · Answer

Yes we do when you ask us it lets us know that you like us if you just let us do it we fear rejection a lot you probably feel that fear too now you know how a boy feels like

Agrojag · Answer

No, when a girl asks me out I consider it a great insult and I have to sacrifice a goat to cleanse myself of the taint.

JustinCaseUDontKnow · Answer

Yes i like for girls to ask me out, go for coffee , make small talk, see movie go out to dinner

thehk · Answer

It's not kinda bad to ask a guy out, but on the very first date it is not great idea u see. U may ask him after ur first meet.

donthewatcher · Answer

even if it is a quick walk in the park, its nice to be asked by a hot gal who wants some of my time, when I walk my dog in the park (mullhuland) gals always ask me out for hot coco

Outofthegrey · Answer

I'm not a gambler, so not one to do something unless I know the outcome. If she asks first that saves me from having to engage detective mode.

texan30 · Answer

I have no problem if a girl asks me out, it's nice to be chased every now and then instead of doing all the chasing

SIGguy · Answer

I find it quite flattering for a female to approach me, requesting a date. I usually leave it up to her to decide whether or not she wants to be my girl. She has a brain, a mouth, and knows how to use them (no dirty jokes, please).

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes they should and I like the new trend

MaxFe · Answer

Yes! Specially if the girl keep it cool and casual.  Nothing too fancy, just a coffee a walk or something.

slatyb · Answer

Another idea if you have known a guy a while and he hasn't done anything is to just say "Why haven't you asked me out?"

pr3ttybr0wn · Answer

3rd wave Feminism has really made women think that its ok to usurp the mans role of pursuing.

VictoriousSausage · Answer

yes! i love it if a girl askes me out, it means she has confidence, and i like that

MrKaneda · Answer

My first girlfriend asked me out. Good thing she did because she was way out of my league. That's one of the few good things I remember from that relationship, lol.

GoodDogNigel · Answer

The reason men paid for dates/asked for them is because men used to work and women stayed at home. Now that things are a lot more balanced, that idea is starting to fade.

Pyrrho · Answer

The world would be a lot better if girls would ask more. Go for it!

Nexus5 · Answer

Girls should ask out guys and should also approach guys to initiate conversation. I like that very much.

posted · Answer

Only 95% of people think it's ok, seems quite undecided.

Jbunk · Answer

Definitely. I've been asked out quite a few times by a girl, it's almost flattering

Kabloosh75 · Answer

Definitely. It is always a pain feeling like I'm the one having to initiate everything.

Coolguy1928 · Answer

Yeah I don't have the guts to ask them anyways. So Yes, girls should ask the guy out first. XD

Michael-in-SC · Answer

I've never had a problem with it. In fact, I think it would be flattering.

Baby__Halo · Answer

Pls Do, we have enough shiit to deal with later in the relationship already...

Anonymous · Answer

Yes but not in the same context as a guy asking a girl out. That is a girl should land a really strong hint (i. e. what are you up to this weekend? I would like to check it out)

ManuelMarquez · Answer

Yes I like for women to ask me out. Men don't always have to make the first move.

sp33d · Answer

In Hollywood, no In the real world, what difference does it make?

VioletCouple · Answer

I'm a little shy and picky. So if a girl asked me out, I would be surprised and probably happy.

Anonymous · Answer

It's a good sign for society at large when women don't feel obligated to follow those old-fashioned dating rules.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, asking a guys out yourself is great, It's also shows sign of confidence, I'm all for it.

kingcong · Answer

I would love for a woman to ask me out. I would have no problem with it.

Tiny_t · Answer

That would make things so much better, personally approve girls asking me out and this has happened to me before it was so cute lol

sampalmer10 · Answer

I'm a bit biased as I'm a wimp so they'd kinda have to haha but no it's cool when a girl asks you.

Circassian · Answer

It's very attractive if a girl asks a guy out in my opinion, as long as she isn't trashy.

plainoldjoe · Answer

My girlfriend actually asked me out first, so... I don't see any problem with it at all

JessTheMess · Answer

I've asked out guys before... lol

JoshyJames · Answer

As an extreme shy guy I would appreciate it

BigblackStud · Answer

Yes, a dream come true

cluelessforlove · Answer

I need one like you LOL

JeanCam · Answer

but of course!! why wouldn't they like it?

mattduns · Answer

It is awesome when they do!

Keyspirits · Answer

HELL TO THE FAWKEN YESH! 😡👿

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