Hey guys, hope you can give me a little advice on this..
It started with us liking each other at about the same time. We started going out and got intimate with each other quite soon. Then we both went over to London for college. I thought things were going well until a few days later, she told me that there was this guy in her course who was very nice to her, whom she thought she might be developing feelings for. She said she was sorry, but she felt that with this guy, she didn't feel a pressure to be with him, while she felt pressured to be my gf.
That was when I might have become a bit too obsessive. I bought her gifts, went over to her place and cooked lunch for her, and composed a tune and dedicated it to her. She seemed very grateful, and we still shared the same physical intimacy. But in between meetings, she'd almost never contact me.
We had a long talk about it and she said she got her feelings for that guy sorted out and treats him as just a friend. Told me she still sort of likes me (she has feelings for me whenever I do something sweet), but also would like to be just friends with me first for the time being. And she's not sure if she's doing the right thing, cos she fears that if she eventually misses the chance of being with me it would be her loss and she would only have herself to blame. She is willing to stay single and not date if it makes me happy. She would feel really sad if I went off with another girl. She still wants to look good for me when we go out and cook for me etc.
So basically she doesn't want to be with me romantically for now but she's leaving possibilities open. Which kills me cos I don't know how long I should wait.
Thanks for reading! Opinions please (:
It started with us liking each other at about the same time. We started going out and got intimate with each other quite soon. Then we both went over to London for college. I thought things were going well until a few days later, she told me that there was this guy in her course who was very nice to her, whom she thought she might be developing feelings for. She said she was sorry, but she felt that with this guy, she didn't feel a pressure to be with him, while she felt pressured to be my gf.
That was when I might have become a bit too obsessive. I bought her gifts, went over to her place and cooked lunch for her, and composed a tune and dedicated it to her. She seemed very grateful, and we still shared the same physical intimacy. But in between meetings, she'd almost never contact me.
We had a long talk about it and she said she got her feelings for that guy sorted out and treats him as just a friend. Told me she still sort of likes me (she has feelings for me whenever I do something sweet), but also would like to be just friends with me first for the time being. And she's not sure if she's doing the right thing, cos she fears that if she eventually misses the chance of being with me it would be her loss and she would only have herself to blame. She is willing to stay single and not date if it makes me happy. She would feel really sad if I went off with another girl. She still wants to look good for me when we go out and cook for me etc.
So basically she doesn't want to be with me romantically for now but she's leaving possibilities open. Which kills me cos I don't know how long I should wait.
Thanks for reading! Opinions please (:
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