So every time I go out with a girl on a date (1st date), at the end of the night after we part ways about 10 minutes later I'll text the girl and say "I had a good time, would you like to see me again?".
My question is, is it ok/should I say/ask that, or just part ways after having a good time, go home and contact her sometime the next day?
I'm confused because I've asked this question to some of my friends and half of them say don't say anything and half say it's ok to text and say/ask. I'm confused. =(
- "I had a good time, do you wanna see me again?"Vote A
- ....say nothing and contact her sometime the next dayVote B
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first off..fairyfly is right.
you should never EVER say "would you like to see me again?"
think about anybody you look up to as a man.
Imagine James Bond. Even though he's a fictional character, the things he say's and does to women DO happen in reality. Trust me.& he would definitely never say something like that. am I right? absolutely I am.
asking her that shows her that you are unconfident. & that you are unsure about yourself.
a question like that shows her that she has control of your "relationship" and more importantly..you.
**in your head --"was I good" "was I cool enough" "does she like me" "i really like her" "i hope she likes me".. Bad..Bad..BAD.
basically..keep your insecurities to yourself..she can read them & you don't want that. At all.
you should know whether she wants to see you again by the time you guys part ways at the end of the date. A girl that is really into you, will let you know for sure.
if for whatever reason the date came to an awkward conclusion and you aren't sure..the last thing you want to do is ask her THE NIGHT OF if she "wants to see you again." that's something a little boy does..not a man. why? because a real man doesn't care what she thinks. it was the first date. it should have just been fun..& showed her that you are a guy worth being around. asking her if she "wants to see you again" shows that you are all in for her. you don't want her to know that. you want her to think that MAYBE she has a chance with you. that MAYBE you want to see her again.
just think of it as hanging out with a new guy friend for the first time. you wouldn't ask him if he wants to see you again lol..that would just be weird. same thing goes for the first few dates with a girl.
in the end..don't contact her the night of. or the next day a few hours after you wake up lol. Just text her at lunch and say "hey! I wish I had some more of that sushi from last night lol" or something innocent like that. she'll respond. & if she doesn't..well lol, that shows how interested she is (which is not at all).
goodluck dude. learn to not make those critical mistakes. because they can be fatal on your heart. they set up the rest of your relationship (if there will even be one at that point)0