Girls, Why do you tease Quiet/shy guys you don't even know?

[Anonymous]

Select an Option please.

He looks like a Loser. Someone to make fun of.

You actually hate him for being quiet/shy even though is a random guy.

You only want to be friends with him and nothing more.

You fancy him and want to see whether it could go to sex/dating.

If any other reason, please specify.

[AsianFace]

I like my shy classmates- they're easy to approach, and they're pretty cool once I learn more about them. I always noticed this really quiet basketball guy in my gym class, and I always wanted to talk to him about his favourite teams and what not, as I'm a huge fan myself. He was like, "I'm trying to decide between three teams: Golden State, Cleveland and the Raptors." As soon as 'Raptors' left his mouth, I nearly died. "AGHA YOU LOVE THEM TOO MY GOSH YES COOL you're AMAZING FANTASTIC THEYRE LIKE MY FAVOURITE LIKE I LIKE THEM EVEN MORE THAN ICE CREAM AND THE INTERNET"
After that, I played a couple rounds of 2 on 2 with him. He's still fun to talk to.

[Asker]

Thanks :) So do you see him only as a friend or do you fancy him?

[AsianFace]

He's a pretty cute and cool guy. I think he's attractive, but I haven't developed a huge attraction towards him.

[Asker]

Is your attraction based on personality?

[AsianFace]

Both. Looks, and personality.

[Asker]

Thanks :)

[MCtricks]

Have you ever seen guys tease shy girls because they find them to be cute? It's kind of like that. We girls sometimes can't come up with an idea to get a shy guy to talk to us, so if we want to get to know him (or if we just like him) we'll start teasing him. You could be teased for any number of reasons, but in this case I think it's that people would just be interested in you. Shy people are mysterious, in a way XD. If I came up to a shy person, I would only be teasing them if I found them attractive (although I normally don't tease people). So there you go :)

[Asker]

Thanks :) These are completely random girls I have never seen. So you think they find me attractive?

[MCtricks]

Quite possibly :) some girls have a thing for shy guys. I don't see why they would mess with you unless they were attracted to you.

[Asker]

Thanks :)

[MCtricks]

Your welcome 😃

[RoyalBlueOceans]

I could not pick just one answer. Personally, there is this guy I really like and people have told me that he likes me. But, he is so damn shy. So I joke around with him and playfully tease him to help him come out of his shell a bit because I really like him and want to talk to him. And usually it works (he opens up). But I would never tease a shy guy because I think he is a loser because they are not. They are just shy. Some of the most awesome people I know are shy. What I perceive as a loser is, rude and disrespectful, doesn't give a fuck how his/ her actions affect other people, etc. No specific color, gender, or how much money they make, what they have, etc.

[Asker]

Thanks :) You are so sweet ;)

[RoyalBlueOceans]

No problem sweetie :)

[Anonymous]

It’s not that I don’t like him, or that I actually like him, it’s just fun to mess with him. When it comes to loud guys, it’s easy to get flustered, mainly because their personalities will over power mine. However shy guys are fun to tease and it’s just exciting to see them get flustered over your words. I understand why guys do it. I just straight up turn into a different person when I’m around a shy guy. It’s sad but shy guys are always great people to get a reaction out of when testing your flirting skills. It’s kinda free space to figure things out. It’s almost like a power dynamic. They’re great in every way, half of the time it’s guys who haven’t learned that they are indeed EXTREMELY attractive. Just need to lift their heads a bit higher. However when they’ve got that gem of a personality, it’s over for me. Shy guys are amazing honestly, they’re really fun to tease, like when a guy teases a shy girl. You just find them cute, getting to know them is like opening a pomegranate and enjoying each seed within the fruit. They’re true treasures if anything.

[Anonymous]

I don't mess with people in general. But if a stranger sat near me for a long period of time (like on a flight, book shop, etc). I might try to strike up a conversation. I'd rather be light hearted, so I'll playfully tease him on his book choice if I'm familiar with it, not that I'm trying to be mean. but a way to break the ice.

[Asker]

Thanks :) So you only see them as friends?

[Opinion Owner]

Friendship is a good foundation, but I might also be attracted to him.

[Asker]

Do you usually approach or strike up a conversation with a random guy , if you are attracted to him?

[Laylapilon]

I personally would yes

[Asker]

Thanks :)

[Opinion Owner]

I used to be shy, so not really. If he seems approachable, and I not into something too deep, I would approach a guy I found attractive maybe.

[Asker]

when you say "not something too deep" do you mean you would approach him if you see him as an one-night stand guy rather than dating guy?

[Opinion Owner]

No, like... not reading too intensely. It would be rude to interrupt? Or if he's talking on the phone or doing something that seems to really have his attention. If he seems bored or casually flipping through his iPad or something, then it's more approachable. I don't do ONS.

[Asker]

oh ok.. sorry I wasn't sure that's why I asked up-front.. haha I apologise :)

[Opinion Owner]

Oh no worries. :)

[Kalibie]

Shy people in general are cute, girl or guy, and I'm a shy girl and love it when my boyfriend ruthlessly teases me lol, abd I've teased others too though I'm nice about it

[Asker]

Thanks :)

[BuchitaBuchys]

I don't make fun of anyone I don't know well.

But once I get to know you, and feel comfortable I'll lightly joke. Nothing harmful though.

[Asker]

Thanks :) So do you joke around with a guy you see as a friend only or a guy you fancy?

[BuchitaBuchys]

Friend. If it's a guy I like, I'll try to avoid him because I become a stammering idiot.

[Asker]

what does it mean when you are quiet or avoid a guy when by yourself but when you are with a group of girls you tease him immaturely?

[TheButterfly]

Im an introvert myself so im generally attracted to extroverts. If a guy is shy or doesn't talk i generally dont approach let alone make fun because that can be hurtful because sometimes being shy is a part of your personality

[Asker]

Thanks :)

[sugarplum31]

I tease a guy or shy guy to see if they well smile at me , but after awhile I well stop. I don't want to do it to much and scare the person off.

[Asker]

Thanks :) So you are attracted to them?

[sugarplum31]

Yeah , I like shy guys not shy guys , they know they like the attention but just afraid to say something.

[Asker]

Thanks :))

[LittleSally]

I don't.
But I did before - just because I wanted to be friendly and help him out of his shell. But that's it.

[Asker]

Thanks :) Why weren't you attracted to him more than friends?

[LittleSally]

Because I didn't know him well enough. And he never opened up so... I literally couldn't be attracted to him because of that.

[Asker]

cool :)

[LittleSally]

Haha Well now you know to just open up a bit more - people will dig it. =)

[Asker]

I am nervous around girls... Too shy to touch them ;)

[LittleSally]

You don't have to touch them to get to know them...
Or to flirt for that matter.
But you should probably get over that soon - the longer you wait to start doing things you find uncomfortable or scary the more difficult - and maybe even impossible - it's going to get later on in life.

[Asker]

I am in that situation.. haha.. I can't kiss or even date.. not comfortable. But another girl was saying that shy/quiet guys don't hold sexual appeal for one-night stands.. Is that true?

[LittleSally]

I don't know... I don't have one night stands.

[Asker]

Didn't say you were !! Just asked :)

[Anonymous]

I don't really talk to guys I really don't know that much. I'm shy type too and if i were to talk to a shy type guy, my agenda would be just to become friends with him. Others gets curious about them I don't know. Haha

[Asker]

Thanks :) So would you only want to be friends or want to take it to dating? Do you find the random guy attractive?

[SerendiptiousJane]

Because you want to get to know him better dating wise not sex wise

[Asker]

Thanks :) Why won't you see the guy in a sexual way?

[SerendiptiousJane]

Because his mind (personality) would be kind of a mystery so he would be more intriguing.. thats not to say he wouldn't hold any sex appeal or that some where down the road we couldn't have sex it just means that he would (to me at least) matter in a more meaningful not just a wham bam thank you ma'am type of way

[Asker]

so do you mean shy/quiet guys don't hold sex appeal for one-night stands?

[SerendiptiousJane]

well not really.. one night stands tend to be a bit more outgoing easier to well get it on with.. shyness usually involves talking and a lot of talking usually means more emotional entanglement which is clearly not what your aiming for if your going to have a one night stand

[Asker]

so if you find a random guy attractive (Hot) but he is shy/quiet you won't be sexually attracted to him?

[SerendiptiousJane]

well i will be but if i was was looking for casual unassuming sex i wouldn't go for it

[SerendiptiousJane]

and by unassuming i mean no strings attached

[Asker]

if the quiet/shy guy became an outgoing person, would you see him as a casual sex person?

[Asker]

If the quiet/shy guy became an outgoing person after some time , would you see him as a casual sex person?

[SerendiptiousJane]

i suppose so as long as i liked him why not?

[Asker]

Thanks :) Just one more question please. How do you hint to a random guy that you would be interested in casual sex in conversation?

[Asker]

hi. I just wanted to ask you a question for a long time. You said shyness involves a lot of talking and thus emotional entanglement. So if the guy was outgoing would it involve less talking and directly lead to kissing?

[SerendiptiousJane]

Probably, especially if he was really hot. ;) ;)

[Asker]

cool. Have you met a random guy you were sexually attracted at first sight, but you completely lost sexual attraction and was not interested anymore because he was quiet/shy and didn't smile. ( He tried to smile but it was a fake smile ) ?

[SerendiptiousJane]

It's not so much that I lose the 'attraction' as much as he starts moving into the friend zone...

[Asker]

so at that instant what would you do? Like would you let him know that you are sexually interested OR would you friend-zone him OR just see him as an acquaintance and never see him again?

[Asker]

so at that instant what would you do? Would you let him know that you are sexually interested OR would you friend-zone him OR just see him as an acquaintance and never see him again?

[Asker]

Can you please answer a question, honestly. Why would you initiate conversation and tease playfully a random guy, but after having a decent conversation with him you ignore him the next time?