Girls, why do you all seem to overlook the quiet/shy guys?

[lnghrn_fan88]

[Alpha_Soup]

I’m going to reverse the question. Guys, why do you all seem to overlook the quiet/shy girls? For both sexes, if you are introverted and quiet all the time, how will the person know you showed interest in them? You have to make an effort for your effort to pay off dude. This is coming from an autistic girl who is alone all the time so I understand your struggle. You just have to force yourself to be upfront and not shy. When that person gets to know you some more, that’s when you can show your true colors and your true shyness.

[ChronicThinker]

How exactly can you not? You don't look at us, approach us, or make any moves, so, it's hard to know when you're interested. That's like asking someone why they aren't listening when you're not even talking.

[lnghrn_fan88]

It's hard to approach cause y'all tend to travel in groups. A shy girl isn't going to approach a guy in a group. It's challenging.

[ChronicThinker]

I've approached men in groups before, it isn't a big deal. Also, it isn't like she's 100 per cent of the time in a group. As well, that kind of just proves my point. If you don't make yourself known, we can't just magically read your mind and know you like us.

[DakotaNorth]

Inghrn I don't travel in groups. I'm so lonely I'm dying to meet someone like you. Where are you?

[ChronicThinker]

@DakotaNorth Get him, Tigress.

[undercoverbadgirl]

I don’t mind much, I dated a very self conscious shy guy once. It’s wasn’t an issue to me at all, until his shyness persisted when we had dated for a while, despite all my efforts. He would still try to hide his nose (he hated it), always flexed his muscles when I touched, said he was getting fat- although I kept telling him I find him so hot, and tried to show him how much I love him for who he is and don’t care about all this. The worst bit was when we were intimate and I glanced down at his penis unintentionally and he got super awkward, and asked me not to look as he finds it ugly etc. He even hated blow jobs for that reason and rejected my offers! So this was really taking it to a whole new extreme where despite all I tried to do it never got better

[undercoverbadgirl]

Although looking back I loved him so much I would do it all again if I went back in time, and if we were still together I’d keep doing it, now that we aren’t anymore and he proved to be an asshole that was so not worth this at all, it made me question the amount of energy I put into trying to make him feel about himself and how nothing ever worked or was appreciated so I think in the future if problems like this persisted I would probably end it because it requires so much time and work on my behalf that really isn’t always worth it. However just general shyness that doesn’t get to THOSE extents and disappears (at least almost) when you get closer is okay with me

[Soft4u]

It's really not like that, when a girl is by herself or with a friend she's going to be easier to approach than in a group. Same with guys, who are so different when alone compared to in a group, guys have a tendency to get loud when among friends a definite turn off.
The squeaky gear gets the most grease doesn't apply here.
The other opinions are all good, we can't read minds, although a girls intuition does help.
You can't keep using being the shy quiet type or you'll keep getting what you're getting overlooked.

[bina98]

Personally i always used to overlook the quiet/shy guys because they seemed boring af! But honestly my current boyfriend was so shy when we met him and he's such an exciting person he's even more so with me because i can bring him out of that shell. You just need to try and act a little more exciting when you do say something if that makes sense :) like ask questions about whatever the girl is talking about (you should only have to do this a few times through out an entire conversation girls LOVE to talk) good luck!

[pitzi]

I don't, I find them really cute and attractive. My ex boyfriend was a really shy guy and he was the only guy I noticed at first, he was in a group of really loud guys but he was the only quiet guy. I found it really cute and interesting 🙂

I'm a very shy girl myself though so he would be hard for me to make the first approach ) : but if a shy guy would try and approach me, I'd really like it! Definitely wouldn't avoid him 🙂

[pitzi]

It would be hard*

[charlzinut]

I like why guys! But I liked shy guys guys for so long that when I met my boyfriend now, he just stuck out to me because he was so outgoing and talkative. I think it’s not that we don’t like shy guys, it’s more that they should try to create some opportunity for themselves :)

[weasley8]

Shyness is designed to be overlooked. That's the whole point. I'm shy too, so I understand that it can get frustrating when it becomes a pattern. But the reason shy people behave in a certain way is to avoid attention. If you get overlooked, it means you're doing a good job.

[jadeepeter]

, it's not that we want to its just most of the time girls want to be able to talk to someone easily. Someone we can easily relate to. Some girls though aren't like that, some just want to date really hot and open people just to be popular and such. But you'll find someone you likes who you are

[Konabeana]

Not “all” girls overlook shy guys. It would be like me asking: I’m really awkward, why do all guys think I’m unapproachable? Try being more friendly no matter how you look or act, sometimes even a smile can give another perspective on who you are.

[morimeme]

Shy guys don't really respond too well if approached, they still keep quiet, I am the one holding up the whole convo and in turn feeling awkward and unwanted in the situation. It just takes too much work and if I decide that he is not what I had been looking for they get super hurt or smth.

[Aysev]

Shy basically means you're trying not to be seen, so i dont like bothering someone who doesn't seem all that into me. Even i can be shy at times but i put myself out there. I like a person who knows what they want and will go after it, even though its scary.

[juliascone]

That’s not always true, I love shy guys although I always get fucked over by them in the end because they don’t really express their feelings and emotions so I never really get closure

[MlleCake]

It's not that we overlook, it's that shy/quiet guys don't socialize much or get to know many people. That is why shy people are often encouraged to socialize more and develop more social skills.

[Ellie-V]

The same reason why you overlook an ant. It’s not actively seeking attention or bothering me enough for me to notice its presence.

[DakotaNorth]

I don't. I'm very lonely. I'd love a shy guy. And don't forget, be nice to me and it triples your sexiness factor. You do have the power to turn a girl on.

[FlutteringFeelings]

I don’t. If I like you than I do and if I don’t than you’ll get overlooked.

[Letitgoogoo]

Nope. Just depends if I feel like he sidnt like me I move on.

[Letitgoogoo]

Didnt*

[Maylisha]

I lost my glasses, he needs to speak to stop being Blurry thing next to me. Then he will be blurry thing who cam speak and i will be so impressed that i will fall on love immediately

[adamariiii]

Well cause they don't speak up. or you don't try to make it a little noticeable that your into me

[Anonymous]

To be fair, you guys overlook the shy and quiet girls also

[lnghrn_fan88]

No argument from me on that

[Pink2000]

Caus ethey dont make themselves known

[lnghrn_fan88]

Generally, when your shy you don't want to make yourself known though

[Pink2000]

Then how do they expect to be seen. You questions says why do you overlook shy guys.

[lnghrn_fan88]

Lol I don't know I'm just asking the question 😂

[Pink2000]

Well that’s why.

[Anonymous]

I don’t if they’re attractive.

[LonewolfMeme]

I don't.