I find a lot of shy guys either seem insecure and low value or stuck up and negative. This isn't necessarily true, but because you're extremely introverted with limited social skills, you either seem quiet because you think you're superior and aren't interested, or quiet because you know you're inferior and pathetic. This is true for girls too, at least in my experience since I'm introverted naturally. The world is built for extroverted people, so us shier people have to work on our social skills if we want to be found attractive and go anywhere in life. Practice making the first move, but don't be needy about it. Keep a flirty, confident tone but never say things like "you're the most beautiful girl I know, I need you, please don't ignore me, etc" because that makes you seem dependent and obnoxious. It's a huge turnoff, and something shy guys seem to do whenever they come out of their shells. If you're calm, positive and confident, you'll be way more attractive. If a girl is interested, she will respond to you when you talk to her and start conversations every so often. She'll probably have a flirty tone and try to present herself her best around you (wearing makeup, nice clothes, never acting gross).
There has to be some sort of chase where she's not 100% sure you like her, or she'll see you as a desperate guy and know she can do better. That being said, she has to have at least an idea that you might be interested, or she'll see you as distant and will move on.
Good luck :)
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Up until recently, it was because I had a boyfriend and as a loyal, committed girlfriend, I wasn't reciprocating ANYONE'S interest.
But now, it's simply because I need an extrovert. With my personality type, I need an extroverted, confident guy who is openly willing to put himself out there and come to events with me *I'm a personal assistant*, someone who is excited about going to festivals and supporting me at large social outings. I find that my life is a lot more fun as an extrovert and I'd like an extrovert to compliment my lifestyle. I also honestly don't have the patience to deal with shy guys in a dating or relationship situation. That requires a lot of extensive effort and at this phase in my life, I sincerely don't have time for that. I'd be worried that I would ALWAYS end up taking the lead and being assertive when needed and that would just get frustrating.
I don't ignore or avoid, I just don't have the energy to do all the work. The last shy guy I dated made me do everything and never made a great impression on my friends and family. He just didn't try really. I'm not really attracted to the ones who don't make initiative or put in effort, but that's just me.
That works the other way around, as well. Shy guys often avoid speaking to their crushes.
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If I know a shy guy has a crush on me and I don't talk to him, I'm not interested and I'm trying to make him forget me. (Sorry). If I was interested I would go talk to him, because as he is shy waiting for him to talk to me would take a very long time. :)
Being shy can come across as stand offish and/or rude to be honest, because it looks the same from a third party perspective. I know shy people can't help, but it can be hard to distinguish between the two. If you're so shy, how would she know you like her? I'd recommend initiating small talk.
That is definitely me trying to show him I'm not interested. I don't know how girls can say they are willing to ignore a guy full on IF they have a crush on him and knows he feels the same. That makes zero sense. I don't understand that logic. If I'm into a guy, I won't ignore him ever. I'll make eye contact, smile and do everything I can to show him the feeling is mutual.
Wow, girls are weird. I'm the only one pressing "not interested"
Anyway, if I was interested I would do anything to talk to that eprson. If I felt he was interested, while I'm not I would avoid him and ignore him to avoid giving him mixed signals.I'm reserved myself so it naturally wouldn't work out unless we worked at the same place or something like that.
Personally i just got out of a relationship and i didn't want to get right back to flirting. other times its because i friend zoned the guy and didn't want him to get hurt. sorry!
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