How come so many people are obsessed with the man being taller than the woman in a relationship? Some people even go as far as to make fun of tall women and short men, and often they outright refuse to date these people. I just don't understand.
Why is it so important for the guy to be taller than the girl?
As @Mesonfielde pointed out, why don't you take self-defense classes or carry pepper spray?
And how come a taller man makes you feel protected? After all, tall does not automatically mean strong. I'm genuinely curious.
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Ha, thanks @Mesonfielde
Well, having just read a couple of studies it does appear, as I suspected, to be a mix of cultural and instinctual reasoning and influence. We have to take into account though that preferences are dependent on your own height and that there is a cut off whereby a man will be too tall. There has been evidence to suggest that taller men are healthier and on average experience more sexual success than men who are shorter (although it's average height men who are making the babies, not the tall ones). It has been shown that men prefer an average height woman but that "short" is not a preference, only shorter than them.
There was an interesting side study which I think is worth mentioning. There was a study done with regards to gay men and height preference. With a gay relationship it suggests that for the most part one partner will be the dominant and the other the submissive, and that these traits were manifested in the preference for a tall or shorter partner. With the case of an egalitarian preference toward the relationship dynamic there seemed to be little height preference, showing it wasn't important. So... this leads me to conclude that a woman who wants a more traditional dynamic of a dominant man and more submissive partner (this is with regards to interactions and not necessarily sex) will find taller men attractive and a man who prefers a more submissive female will prefer a shorter woman. Of course, there are a whole host of other avenues which we could go into, but I just thought these were worth mentioning.
""With the case of an egalitarian preference toward the relationship dynamic there seemed to be little height preference, showing it wasn't important.""
That would explain a LOT, not even in just homosexual couplings.
@Mesonfielde yep, made sense to me also. It indicates that this is a cultural thing. Linked heavily to gender roles and social expectation.
As someone who doesn't understand people who think in terms of "femininity and masculnity" and "dominance and submission", it makes sense to me that way back when my primary height interest was the same height as me.
One of the articles
If we think in total generalisations it seems to have some truth to it, or some logic at least. @Mesonfielde