ok, for that i must refer to 2 of my own experiences. I had girlfriend in 2014, who i had a great time with. She then left for a 3 week holiday to her home country. So i thought well, i see her when she gets back, she is having a good time with her mom , and friends who she hasn't seen for some time. so the day she came back, i was like, cool she is back. Well i got a text from her saying, sorry we can't be together bye. at work she would act distant , untill after a few weeks she started flirting with me again. Everytime i responded she would brush me off, till one day, she was flirting again with me at work, and i decided that this BS had to stop. i never knew why she left me in the first place. so i finished early that day and later dropped by at her place. She let me in , and i just told her, i know you still like me so what do you want. she starting leaning against me, and well before i knew we ended up having sex several times during the next days, staid together for a while but it ended all sour because she became pregnant from me , miscarried our child and ever since she hates me and i dont know why. currently im texting a girl i met in rl, we kissed and when ever i ask her for a 2nd date she just doesn't answer my f. ing question. only giving me boring answers etc. I think she is leading me on or using me as an option so im gonna be a bit more distant now, and i tell her after maybe 2 days that this is going nowhere, we had a pretty cool contact, and if she wants to try , we can , if not, wel cya but im to good to be one of your options. so i you want to meet up, i will hear from you and if not well, anyway. ciao. Its hard but in the end you will always have to be straight forward, like i did with my ex girlfriend, and which im about to do now.
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It doesn't matter. Either way she is playing games, so stay away from her.
If you want to know the difference, leading you on is making you think she is interested and have a chance with her. But she really has no intention of getting with you.
Playing hard to get means she might actually want your attention, but she plays games and pretends like she doesn't. In her mind she might think she's giving subtle hints and expects you to read her mind and understand them. She's the dangerous kind of girl who perpetuates the idea that no means yes. There are a lot of rape victims fighting against that type of thinking, but she's perpetuating it.
I know a girl like that. She thinks that a guy has to prove he really likes her by continuing to pursue her after she's said no several times. You should stay clear of that kind of person.
based on some of the comments and replies, sometimes the girls just have issues. they might like you, but they're not really emotionally capable of handling a relationship. they might work too much, don't take enough time for themeselves, or just lack self confidence. I've had similar experiences trying to schedule time to hang out wiht a friendgirl. Seriously, i had enough of the last minute excuses, and the pure laziness. First time she cancels cause she gotta work, next time she got cramps, next she double booked something... bla bla. but every time she sees me she gets excited and we talk, and she says we gotta get together, my schedule is different now...
no difference. none. Playing hard to get means setting a higher value for oneself
how is it setting anything. its a game.. wasting everyones time. If a person is not worth enough to you that they can be direct and still be sought after... then pushing you off is not increasing their value its just accommodating your desire to play games. A persons value is inherent within them.. its not an external thing.
I dont think you'll be able to see if a person is playing games or not bc you like playing games. and people who ply games have difficulty seeing like through any other loans.
When she's leading you on:
- she plays mind games like making you feel guilty about something or feel bad about yourself
- says she's 'not sure ' about what she feels
- she constantly changes, one minute she's all into you (because the guy she likes is ignoring her) the other minute she's cold.
-She talks about handsome guys around you.. meaning she doesn't respect you.
- she doesn't care about your feelings. She tosses you around.
-she dodges your company... acting busy or sick.. blah blah.. if a girl likes you she will be available for you.
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In my opinion and for the mostpart of my race, what Americans call playing 'hard to get', we call 'romancing. I've been on both sides of that fence and it's the little things that you need to pay attention to.
If she does this she is leading you:-wants to hang out but is always busy
-when u do hang out she always seems bored or non talkative
If she's playing hard to get she may flirt more but without ever saying 'yes' 'I like you'
-she gets jealous if she sees you talking to another girlI don't play hard to get because I really don't like playing games. People are saying its placing a higher value on yourself but honestly? If I like someone, they know it. Ask her, be straight forward and don't play her games or your own. Once she realises you won't play, I'm sure she'll either show you she likes you or she'll back off because the thrill of the chase is no longer there.
its easy she seems flirty and joking and getting close but whenever you try getting a bit close she brushes you off and ignores your attempts , basically she wants to flirt and get you help and keep you around but if you try crossing the line she will start acting cold and won't respond to you attempts.
so my friend my advice is : act nice and confident and try to get her , the moment she starts becoming distant and your efforts are only making her even mor distant , leave her.i was told i am hard to get but i didn't think so at that time... I don't know why he said that. When do you guys say that a girl is leading you on or hard to get? i guess it's the same with guys?
In my understanding, leading on is making confusing actions? while hard to get is really takes a long time to make the man/woman fall for you although both can be confusing. lolIf a girl wants to play mind games with me then I'll play this game with her. It's called "F this, I'm out."
I'm looking for serious relationships and commitment. I have no time for this "hard to get" nonsense - girls who do this aren't worth it.Often there is none, and as said before, you're better off just avoiding these girls entirely. Playing hard to get should be ignored.
Leading u on would be more, she wants to see u sometimes but only on HER terms u know? Basically calling on u for an ego boost when she doesn't have anything better to do. When a girls playing hard to get you can tell the difference because she'll def let u know she's into u just more subtly, if ur being lead on u won't know if they like u or not
It doesn't matter since you're better off avoiding her in both cases
To be honest I don't know and I don't care. I don't tolerate these mind games. Matter of fact it's a turn off for me. I move on just like that.
Both are the same dude, don't bother wasting your time with her if she's acting like that. And yeah I also wish more people would answer these types of questions. :)
seem to be same thing.. very hard to differentiate..
If you are a man who values his time, you shouldn't put up with such childish behavior and just move on to someone with less drama.
Good question. I wish more people would answer.
You could just ask her!!
Aren't they the same thing!
Doesn't matter either way, get rid of her!
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