My boyfriend is a pervert. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I just found out that my boyfriend is addicted to taking pics up girls' skirts without them knowing. Minors included. Wtf do I do? He keeps calling me & I'm so heartbroken. Part of me wants to keep talking to him, but the other part wishes I never met him. What would you guys do?

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If anyone is curious what he looks like, google: Andrew Matisoo. He got arrested for the same shit years back, but he told me that he was texting while on his knees looking at hats & didn't do it. Love literally does make you blind cuz I believed him.

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I know you don't know me, but I'm very familiar with you. how? well, I first heard in January 2016 that this guy Andrew matisoo, who presume is an ex, was caught taking upstart pictures at Panera bread, and you decided to exact revenge by putting him on the news. yes I did my investigation, and why I say revenge, your girls ask guys posts, they had more to do with an ego centric girl, than they did with the person you supposedly was standing up for that go wronged. that is a fucked up thing to do, just as fucked up as up skirting. I heard your audio recording on some news sight, as I do my investigation into things, I don't just take one persons word as truth, and from your comments and interview, I get the feeling you used the girl who was wronged or shall I say girls, becuz you implied that this Andrew character, ex boyfriend/fiance did it more than once, as I do my research, why don't you also oh so dearly tell your little following of back stabbers and gossipers on that gossip sight that the first time this Andrew person was supposedly caught doing it, it actually got dismissed due to lack of evidence. CORRECTION: Due to a source error, a previous version of this story contained incorrect information about Andrew Stephen Matisoo's plea.

VIRGINIA BEACH

A 22-year-old man accused of sticking his camera phone under a teen girl's skirt at Lynnhaven Mall has pleaded no contest to a lesser charge and, under court order, is to complete an 18-month faith-based rehabilitation program.

Police charged Andrew Stephen Matisoo Jr. on July 15 with felony attempted unlawful filming of a minor after a mall patron reported seeing a man place a phone under a girl's skirt. Matisoo pleaded no contest to misdemeanor disorderly conduct earlier this month, according to court records online.

A Circuit Court judge sentenced Matisoo to a year in jail but suspended the time on the condition that he completes the 18-month Youth Challenge of Hampton Roads program, Macie Pridgen, a spokeswoman for the Commonwealth's Attorney's Office, said by email. Matisoo also must have a parental escort while at Lynnhaven Mall, Pridgen said. t that said, if you're going to just throw someone under the bus becuz someone got their feelings hurt, actually tell the whole truth, missy? my god, your kind actually disgust me. I mean seriously, I thought only high sc

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oolers go around spreading dirt about others like you did. from the way you talked on girls ask guys I thought no way does this girl have anything that she didn't do wrong, basically, you're no saint or angel. so I did further investigation and seems you have somethings to reveal yourself. like how at some church in Norfolk, I choose not to mention the name, you had an affair with a youth pastor named Mark, and almost busted up his

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marriage, how would it sound if your little ignorant posse that you have following you on girls ask guys fucked a married man and then tried to ruin his marriage. oh yes, I have connections, I find things out, you decided to speak out against this

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Andrew matisoo character so I wanted to know the whole story, and I did a shit load of investigation, and seems you have a dirty past, that being a former stripper in Oklahoma, think your stupid, ignorant posse of dumb ass followers really think that you're such a saint when really you're a harlot A, slut, bitch, whore, hoe, home wrecker. why don't you just admit that the girls who got wronged at the hands of Andrew matisoo, by up skirting, were just merely a tool you used to ruin a man's life forever just becuz

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somebody got hurt. that's the kinda shit that is worse than a high school bully, you are truly worse than the kids that bullied at columbine. I want you to read this: The link between bullying and school violence has attracted increasing attention since the 1999 attack at Columbine High School. Both of the shooters were classified as gifted children who had allegedly been victims of bullying for four years. According to Brooks Brown, Klebold and Harris were the most ostracized students in the entire school, and even many of those close to them regarded the two as "the losers of the losers".[84] Klebold is known to have remarked to his father of his

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hatred of the jock culture at Columbine, adding that Harris in particular had been victimized by this social group. In this remark, Klebold had stated, "They sure give Eric hell."[85] On another occasion just weeks before the massacre,[86] both Harris and Klebold had been confronted by a group of youths at the school—all members of the football team—who had sprayed them with ketchup and mustard while referring to the pair as "faggots" and "queers".[87]

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A year after the massacre, an analysis by officials at the U. S. Secret Service of 37 premeditated school shootings found that bullying, which some of the shooters described "in terms that approached torment", played the major role in more than two-thirds of the attacks.[88] A similar theory was expounded by Brooks Brown in his book on the massacre; he noted that teachers commonly looked the other way when confronted with bullying,[41] and that whenever Klebold and Harris were the recipients of such incidents from the jocks at Columbine, they would make statements such as: "Don't worry, man. It happens all the time!" if anyone expressed shock or surprise.[8

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Early stories following the shootings charged that school administrators and teachers at Columbine had long condoned a climate of bullying by the so-called jocks or athletes, allowing an atmosphere of intimidation and resentment to fester. Critics said this could have contributed to triggering the perpetrators' extreme violence.[90] Reportedly, homophobic remarks were directed at Klebold and Harris.[91]

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One author has strongly disputed the theory of "revenge for bullying" as a motivation for the actions of Harris and Klebold. David Cullen, author of the 2009 book Columbine, while acknowledging the pervasiveness of bullying in high schools including Columbine, has claimed that the two were not victims of bullying. Cullen said that Harris was more often the perpetrator than victim of bullying.[92]. what you did is way worse than the bullying they received. you put yourself up as judge jury prosecutor, thinking you can know a man's actions forever. people can actually change for the better, and by the way, pedofiles go after little kids, the victim in this case was 17, AND I SERIOUSLY DOUBT, HIGHLY DOUBT THIS ANDREW GUY ASKED HER HER AGE, AND WENT SWEET YOU'RE SEVENTEEN, LET ME UPSKIRT YOU CUZ YOU'RE A MINOR

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but I guess you are the all powerful wizard of oz, right? funny I should compare you to that cuz on the surface he was all big and scary, but when revealed he was a weasel of a little man, just like you. you're insignificant to the human race, by doing what you did, I don't see how you are contributing anything good to life, just deciding that you know all, and that if you say it's true, then it will be. what this Andrew guy did was fucked up, but seriously there are a million people worser than this who are pedofiles.

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THE SCARBOROUGH RAPIST, yeah read about that one. think Andrew is such the devil, you need to read that one, little bitch. so why don't you just admit that you never actually cared about the people he wronged, you just used them becuz a little bitch like yourself got hurt, and you, being the border line personality disorder bitch you are, oh yes, I know what bpd is, and by god from the way you talked on girls ask guys, you might as well have that tattooed onto your head like a scarlet A.

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people with bpd cannot be helped, they are a disorder that thinks they need no help and that they are not in the wrong. was the reason you didn't wanna show your face is cuz how ugly you are on the outside and inside. from your Facebook profile picture, you are one hideous whore. and to say you are a christian. what a fucking goddamn mockery you are to the Christian faith.

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shame on you. living a double life. hypocrite. I take it you're the one that works with a bunch of back stabbers and gossipers just like your filthy worthless swine type. I saw you by the way, just like I do my research, I saw the you took that Andrew matisoo to court, I follow you, and I sat in the back of the court room, bringing your bother there, wow... what was that for?

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I think you have a lot of thinking to do missy, becuz for as much as you judge, you too will be judged. and seems like you doled the judgement pretty bad and determined in your mind that this Andrew character will never change and that to ruin his life forever by putting him all over the web would do you good, while tearing someone down. I mean, what if this Andrew guy was so apologetic for what he did and learned his lesson, but becuz of your slander and malice, he took his life?

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his blood will be on your hands. becuz what you did caused him to kill himself becuz he was already deeply apologetic and you decided he should be punished more than even the judge presiding over the case decided he should be judged, by the way I went to his court hearing January 4th, and it seemed legit that he learned his lesson, even the girl forgave him, and wanted him to get the proper amount of time, but help too.

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I mean, who died and made you god? fuck you and the high horse you road in on. if I were you, I'd tell the full truth, how you used the girls as bait to get back at your ex by tarnishing him allover the web becuz he broke your heart. people break each others hearts all the time, they don't go out and ruin their lives forever all over the web, maybe Facebook, yeah, but not on google. that's just inhumane.

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and I'd really hate to be you, considering the wrong you've done but refuse to face and look at, breaking up a married pastors marriage, but feels you have the audacity to tarnish an exes life forever becuz you got hurt forever. I guess pastor mark's wife shoulda gone to the news with what you did. i think it woulda been a juicy tidbit to report on. young girl caught with her skirt down in affair with a married pastor bed. oh. y god, I can just see the headlines, people already know about you.

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yes. for as much as you trashed Andrew not for the sake of caring, but becuz you wanted revenge, some forgiving christian you are, follower of christ my ass. I believe in both sides being exposed. like Fox News, FAIR AND BALANCED. so, as they say, truth will set you free. I think you should recant what you said, after all you wasn't in the case, it had nothing physically to do with you, so therefore it was none of your business. people can just as easily know your business too. for the exact matter you judge, you too will be judged.

[matheus_mb]

I think that this ain't gonna be easy to stop, once he's used and likes to do it it's hard to change. You can talk to him about it, let him know what you think. Then you decide what you'll do, but I wouldn't have many hopes. Perhaps breaking up will be the way.

[Asker]

Yeah it's the hard truth, but I can't stay with a pedo.

[MargaritaPeach]

Anyone who is dabbling in sexually based offenses that involve children is not someone you want to invest yourself any further in. Make a clean break, and get out now. Don't respond to any of his calls or messages. Get some counseling to help you move past it, and do not blame yourself.

[datgirl]

He's probably never gonna change. He's a pervert and perverts always stay perverts. So dump him it's not a big deal why would wanna keep that sort of person around in your life when all he's gonna keep doing is breaking your heart.

[Asker]

It's a big deal to me; I was about to get engaged to this guy. He already took me ring shopping and everything.

[datgirl]

Give him the ring back. And find a man that'll treat you right.

[Anonymous]

Doing that shit to kids is just wrong. Well it's wrong for legal age too, but the doing it to minors is basically a pedo. If it were me, I'd actually report him.

[Asker]

Well thank God karma did me right because he got arrested the same day I found out.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry to hear that, for you, not him. It must hurt a little still. Sorry you have to go through that shit because of HIS actions.

[Asker]

Way more than a little. It's gonna take a long time to get over this one. But thank you.

[Nomad69]

Jesus that is bad, maybe explain how you feel and tell him to stop doing that if he wants to continue seeing you. He could be autistic or psycho or something who knows though. Its hard for them to differentiate right and wrong. Ps I know grammar and punctuation isn't perfect I don't care

[Asker]

He has aspergers, but if that's how people with aspergers are, they need to date each other cuz the kid tore me apart.

[Nomad69]

@glitter_unicorns24 Honestly I kind of think I do too but I wouldn't do that wtf! As far as I see it people who aspergers are just socially awkward and kind of odd not like a child molestor pervert lol

[Asker]

Lol yeah I know. I think it more came from the fact that he was bullied his entire life & started hating women. So he decided to objectify them instead.

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okay all powerful oz

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like all judgmental freaks like yourself should date each other. self righteous assholes like yourself

[Red_Arrow]

I was thinking this would be a question about his sexual interests with you and was going to suggest going along with it. But not that. That can land him in jail and carrying around a sexual offender label for life. If he can't stop, you are safer to leave him.

[Asker]

Oh God no. Pedos are filthy & disgusting. I would never go along with something like that. I don't go along with anything non-consensual either & he fell under both categories.

[Red_Arrow]

Since you know this and ore offended by it (as you should be) why are you still with him? Knowing he does this and not reporting his actions may not make you legally responsible, it does amke you morally responsible.

[Asker]

He is currently in jail. He called me FROM jail telling me what happened except he tried to pretend like he didn't do it. So I called his best friend & he told me that he's been doing it for a while. And I'm not still with him. I sure he's assumed we're no longer together. I didn't even feel the need to make that clear cuz I was too busy calling him a pedophile.

[Red_Arrow]

Sorry, but many gals on here tell of how terrible their guy is but that they love him and can't leave him. And you said he is your boyfriend, not ex. You did not make it clear at all, but very glad you are done with him.

[Asker]

I didn't say ex cuz then I figured people would think like he already WAS my ex before I found out. As if it was just news I found out about my ex. You know? But yeah, we're through. I told him I could get raped right now & it wouldn't hurt as much as this does cuz I already feel dead inside.

[tric_1997]

well i think you should break up with him. that's just rude how he treated the other girls like that

[Asker]

It's gross what he did to other girls, but I'm the one he treated the worst because he always said he only had eyes for me & tons of bull shit like that.

[tric_1997]

he's using you as a fake reason to not leave him and help him when he's in a bad situation. just remember not to trust him anymore

[AlexCab]

Explain it to him, that you're not ok with it, and ask him wtf is wrong with him?

[Asker]

Yeah, that is exactly what I did in a letter to the jail where he is.

[AlexCab]

how did he end up there?

[Asker]

The day he got caught was the day I found out - last Monday.

[AlexCab]

Good save :P. Who knows what else he was up to.

[thotramuss]

if he is pervert and you do not like that you have two options:
1. tell him that you do not like it and you will gonna break up with him if he repeats that
2. if he persists doing it break up with him
he is taking minor girls' skirts pictures that means he is a pedophile, it simply means he will go to jail...

[Asker]

Well thankfully he IS in jail. Sadly my addiction was him, but no matter how much I wish it wasn't true, he is a pedophile. And they belong is prison.

[thotramuss]

then what is the problem?

[Asker]

I just wanted to hear other people's opinions. I knew the answer was obvious, but God I'm mortified. I almost MARRIED this sick fuck & just wanted to talk about it..

[Anonymous]

How the fuck are dudes like this getting girlfriends in the first place...

[Asker]

Because he was the most innocent & loyal SEEMING guy I ever met. He always said he didn't give a shit about other girls, I was the only one he could see, if I ever broke up with him he'd rather die alone.. literally the last guy I ever expected this perversion from honestly.

[Opinion Owner]

"if I ever broke up with him he'd rather die alone"

He is definitely just a lying manipulator. He would just say whatever you wanted to hear.

[Asker]

He was really obsessive though which seemed to make the things he said true. He kept a bag of my used tampons & hair.

[dudegrt09]

Break up with him now... Tell him you're breaking up with him because he is a sick pervert, you cannot trust a guy like this...

[Asker]

You're totally right. I gave him plenty of 2nd chances with other things in our relationship, but this one doesn't deserve another chance. So you agree guys like this will never change?

[dudegrt09]

Maybe he will, maybe he won't... it's no use wasting time on him and waiting for him to change

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yeah you're right, glitter-unicorn24, you're so right, that being since you are god almighty himself to dole out punishment. know it all generation of swine

[Chief16]

What are you waiting around for? Wanna be his accomplice? I'm not being biased here. But seriously, that stuff is almost four years old. Leave him. Now.

[Asker]

Uhm when the fuck did I say I'm waiting for him? And what are you talking about 4 years old?

[Chief16]

The link you've mentioned. The news is from 2012.

[Asker]

Yeah thought I mentioned he said back then he didn't do it, but it happened again so now we know he did do it.

[Chief16]

I mean, he's still doing this after four years?

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CORRECTION: Due to a source error, a previous version of this story contained incorrect information about Andrew Stephen Matisoo's plea.

VIRGINIA BEACH

A 22-year-old man accused of sticking his camera phone under a teen girl's skirt at Lynnhaven Mall has pleaded no contest to a lesser charge and, under court order, is to complete an 18-month faith-based rehabilitation program.

Police charged Andrew Stephen Matisoo Jr. on July 15 with felony attempted unlawful filming of a minor after a mall patron reported seeing a man place a phone under a girl's skirt. Matisoo pleaded no contest to misdemeanor disorderly conduct earlier this month, according to court records online.

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A Circuit Court judge sentenced Matisoo to a year in jail but suspended the time on the condition that he completes the 18-month Youth Challenge of Hampton Roads program, Macie Pridgen, a spokeswoman for the Commonwealth's Attorney's Office, said by email. Matisoo also must have a parental escort while at Lynnhaven Mall, Pridgen said.

[aficionado]

Take up this issue with him, and give him a chance to med his ways. But if he continues doing this, you may have to break up with him.

But yeah, he's a pervert. No doubt about it.

[Asker]

You think someone who has been a pedo for years & got one chance with a loyal girlfriend, but continued being a pedo deserves another chance?

[aficionado]

When you put it that way... yeah, I guess you're better of without him.

[Memora]

you could do better, who knows what other discusting things he does.

[Vesuvius87]

Dump him and show the cops the evidence.

[Asker]

His ass is already in jail & hopefully going to prison after his court date.

[Vesuvius87]

Good to hear that.

[Asker]

I can slightly picturing him turning into one of those creeps from Criminal Minds once he gets out though, cuz he'll never again have a chance with another woman with his record, ya know?

[Anonymous]

I believe it's legal now. I could be wrong, so don't quote me but yeah, I think it's legal to do that, so, if it is, then, is it still immoral? Most immoral things, are illegal (not all). It's supposedly immoral to look up girls skirts like that but then, why was it made legal (again I could be wrong)

[Asker]

No, it's definitely illegal & punishable by up to 5 years in prison. Supposedly immoral? Lol it's immoral in every way, shape & form. Non-consensual & pedophilia... both VERY disgusting.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm pretty sure they made it legal, check it out

[Asker]

Lol you're fucking insane.

[Opinion Owner]

Just sayin'

[Asker]

You're a complete moron, dude.

[Opinion Owner]

Nah, I'm not, you are

[Asker]

Haha you do realize that's a 2 year old's come back, right? And by the way not only is it still illegal, it's a felony. Not a little misdemeanor. The bastard is getting 5 years, so yeah. ILLEGAL & IMMORAL.

[Oxxymoron]

Ew leave him.

[Asker]

Yeah I knew the answer was obvious, I'm just so mortified & wanted to talk about it. And hear other people's thoughts.

[jacquesvol]

Dump him and move on.

[CaliSoccerFella]

Leave him in the wind

[apple24]

Leave him of course! Why would you want that?

[LeeOswald63]

MMMMMmmmmmmmmmm

[Asker]

I don't want that. I'm just mortified & wanted to hear other people's opinions. He's in jail, thank God, & will hopefully be there for 5 years.

[apple24]

So your going to wait 5 years for him? Wake up honey! Its time to let go of him! He in jail and your life has to continue! His ass got in jail not yours! Sometimes and majority of time love makes us blind and so you think he like an a miracle but in reality its just a ticket to unnecseary stress! I am guility of that too! Please reconsider for your own happiness!

[Asker]

Uhm no? I never said I'm waiting for him. I said thank God he's in jail.. if I wanted to wait around for him, why would I be happy that he's in jail?

[apple24]

ohh yeah that makes more sense!

[DBAOracle]

You need to dump him...

[singlebee]

Move on I guess

[Grace_Rdz]

Break up with him.

[KENKONG]

Steve Greene.

[Asker]

I think he assumed we were done without me having to say it because I was calling him a pedophile. I did get him to call himself a pig though, that was nice.

[Caliopie]

Call the cops

[BackInGame]

Is he hot? Yes.
Will you dump him? No.

NEXT.

[Asker]

Wow... why even fucking comment, jack ass?

[BackInGame]

it truly hurts when I'm right about such banal things...

[Asker]

Uhm well actually you couldn't be more off base. I tried to kill myself the night I found out, but my family stopped me in time. (DON'T want to hear your ass hole comments on that), & now am trying to do healthy things to get over his filthy ass. But if you want to see how he looks, google Andrew Matisoo.

[Manswer5]

BDSM him