I don't know...
I'm getting kind of mixed feelings here...
I think his intentions are wise but expression of it is not right way...
There is concept called 'Genetic Sexual Attention' in which person develop sexual attention towards family members...
And I think your boyfriend was concerned about that...
He doesn't mean your father is like that...
But in case if there is something in your father's phone he doesn't want you to see this...
This will change your view of seeing your father forever... Specially when he is not among you...
Your boyfriend was genuine... But didn't expressed it well...
I suggest give him phone first and let him check it first...
And tell him make it clearer if anything in it... And don't ask him if he finds anything or don't make him speak either...
So you will see your father as idol of your forever...
His statement seems to have come out of the blue! Before endorsing a break up I would first want to know more about your relationship.
1. How long have you been together
2. What was the relationship between your Father and boyfriend? Did they ever do things together?
3. Have you ever said anything about your father's behavior towards you?
My bet is he really didn't think this through prior to letting the words out. He was probably more concerned about your father's privacy, most of us have to admit there are things on our phone we would not share.
If you want to continue the relationship you are going to have to discuss this situation with your boyfriend. He needs to know how terribly unsettling it was to hear him say he thought your father had inappropriate thoughts about you.
There's a thing called "Dark humor" , very cringe. He sounds like he might be into such things.
I personally would break things off with him, because it's just a terrible thing to say, to joke about, or to even think about. Even especially under the circumstances. He seems very insensitive and downright cruel.
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No, although it does seem slightly odd. I don't know if you should go through your father's phone other than to send messages to his contacts that might know that he has passed away, or to settle any outstanding financial transactions. There may be things in his downloads or browsing history that you would rather not know about. I'm a bit surprised you have the PIN or whatever you need to get into it.
You are probably contemplating a breakup at thus benign and cautionary suggestion of his, probably because you already wanna breakup. I'd say if u know u aren't compatible and are eagerly looking for any reason to just end it, then respectfully do end it for your sake, and his because you wouldn't reciprocate how he feels for you.
He's trying to protect your father's privacy, and didn't do that very well. You should not look at your father's phone. Just have it all erased and then properly discard it. And you shouldn't dump him for his crude actions.
What an insensitive disgusting thing to say to you. I don't even know why you would wait to bin him.
Yes, break it off with him and you deserve much better trust me that is horrible for a guy to say to you WTF is wrong with him?
I’m having a difficult time understanding what you’re trying to say
Orrrrr he was talking to your boyfriend lol
That's straight up creepy.
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