Is my boyfriend a pervert?

[EM2933]

I’m in a relationship with a guy. We’ve known each other for about a year and a half. We started out as friends and messaged on and off. Over the last few months we’ve both been messaging a lot more and we are finally going to visit each other soon.

I’ve noticed that this guy keeps making cheeky comments when I’m talking to him, and making offensive jokes. Like when I told him I shower with the door open he said “I would just walk in anyway” and he also keeps making dirty jokes about us together. So I know that that’s not entirely what he says to me. We also have normal conversation as well as this. He also makes comments about my body too, and also makes “grrr” noises as a joke in a flirty way. Sometimes when he does this, it makes me feel rubbish about myself and objectified. He’s made jokes about me being so “hot” that I have to get searched at an airport. Sometimes he even acknowledges it himself and says “sorry that was inappropriate”. If I tell him I’m at the gym and I’m wearing a white shirt, he will say “that’s not what colour is your bra?”. He’s also said to me “I bet you have a nice bum because you work out so much.” I’ve also noticed he will bring up other random girls, like he tells me about this girl who he’s noticed going to the gym regularly. He talks about female colleagues who hit on him and who he flirts back with.

Is he a pervert?

[SueShe]

He is obviously sex minded and it seems that this topic is about the only one that interests him. If he is in the same age group as you are, then it is definitely a warning sign and I would be extremely cautious as this person is potentially a danger to your health and security.

I would rate him as pervert and as a sex freak that needs to be observed very closely. He is the type of person that is a red flag in any serious relation. I certainly would never feel safe being alone with him as one does not know how he would react in cases like that.

Perhaps it would be a good idea to have a serious conversation about this topic with him and to make sure that you take all necessary security measures the day you visit him. Good luck.

[PrettyPriya]

This user is a spammer. I can always tell by the use of the word "cheeky" in every post she makes. This must be the 30th+ account by now. 😞

[SueShe]

@PrettyPriya Thanks for the feed-back. I shall keep an eye out on this person. Hope you have a great day today :-)

[PrettyPriya]

@SueShe It was a nice day. We have been enjoying very nice weather. Warm during the day but nice a cooler mornings and evenings. It will be perfect for some week-end outdoor activities. 🙂

[WhitneySnow]

That’s a good question. If he’s your official boyfriend it’s ok for you guys to talk about sexual stuff, but he still shouldn’t make comments like that all the time.

[John_Doesnt]

You've found a guy that clearly likes you and tries to give you compliments, but instead you've decided to handle it like a girl and never tell him it bothers you.
Have you every tried TALKING to him and saying some of his jokes are making you uncomfortable? He actually sounds like a decent guy who likes you, but you're so picky about his language towards you that you're probably gonna lose him.
It would be a whole other story if he was talking to other girls the same way, but if it's just his girlfriend then he's trying to be nice. I remember being young in my early 20's and I had no idea how to be tackful when complimenting my girlfriend (s) and they corrected me.

[Bruuu]

Hi, pervert here.

Yes, he's a pervert, and if he didn't disclose it that's on him.

But still, I would highly recommend that you let him know how you feel, and if he doesn't change his attitude after that you might need to do something about it.

It's all about consent, hope it helps c:

[Summeroflove]

Tell him to stop. If he don’t listen. Be firm with your boundaries. If that means he isn’t meant to be. Then leave him.

[anon1903]

He probably has hots for you. If you like him romantically or don't like him at all, mission abort.

[Guy13]

Without class. Maybe not pervert status yet...

[Mangospacho]

I think he’s just trying to make it clear that he’s attracted to you. Just tell him to go away and block him so he just goes and bothers another girl.

[BigschlongEnergy]

Sex is perverted that’s what your saying if you want sex Your a fucking pervert A fucking creep.

[Bruuu]

I don't see what's wrong about wanting sex, it's how you go on about it that makes a difference.

[BigschlongEnergy]

Sex is wrong evil Creepy perverted just ask the OP she’ll tell ya She sits there calling men perverted if he say’s something but hey if a man Keeps his mouth shut and is thinking about a girl he ain’t perverted Makes total fucking sense so shut your fucking mouth and you won’t be considered a pervert.

[BigschlongEnergy]

It’s real funny that animals aren’t creeps they aren’t Perverts when they Fuck another animal but when people do it they’re perceived as creeps guess evolution made us all creeps and perverts when evolution gave us the ability to speak cause we ain’t creepy perverts When millions years ago we weren’t vocal

[BigschlongEnergy]

@Bruuu you ever Hear a baby chimp a baby gorilla or other ape Cry like a little bitch? No it’s only human babies that Cry like little bitches but animals don’t animals may whine a little by To take it to another level and lose your humanity and turn into the animal called Bitch only humans do it and then they wanna be considered human beings if anybody should be given human rights it’s animals they don’t complain like little bitches over dumb shit like the BLM or the white supremacy Movement or whatever else movement there was animals are grateful Even when they are cold 🥶 but humans will kill you For hurting there feelings

[BigschlongEnergy]

@Bruu and dogs smile constantly when ya give them a walk they’re happy and all smiley and energetic Or even a car ride a dog is happy and grateful for that car ride or walk but humans drive there cars and still complain and then they want human rights huh 😂

[Anonymous]

On the pervert scale of 1-10, I would rate him 5. And saying things like " I shower with the door open", is very stupid because it will automatically bring out the perv in just any guy.

[Anonymous]

If he's your boyfriend it's not perverted. All bfs are like this.

[Fukaroo]

Sounds normal to me