Hard to get could mean they really don't want you but times when they really are interested girls are many times just protecting their hearts. They like you but don't want to put their heart out on the line for fear of being hurt. Once you prove yourself they will open up dramatically and very quickly. If they are attention seeking they will act super interested but will never take anything further than they have to. They just string you along as long as they can for their ego and any gifts or money that may be spent on them. Like I had a friend who would date for dinner, if you weren't spending g money on her she wouldn't go out with you at all. I mainly went on cheap or free dates in the beginning so I didn't feel like I was using someone. Does that make since?
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More details pls, like is she a gold digger, is she using you to make someone jealous
if they're playing 'hard to get' for multiple people, its attention seeking
The term attention seeking, in my opinion, describes someone who simply wants to be acknowledged and perhaps admired, etc for one or various reasons (perhaps for their looks or to simply feel validated, for example) by an individual or a group. The attention seeker, in many cases, often do not readily, if at all, reciprocate the attention they seek.
Inconsistent behavior and availability are signs of playing hard to get ( one minute she conveys interest in you, and the next minute... not so much ) to keep you guessing about her interest and, perhaps, to influence you to try harder to date her, etc.
Hard to get is an attitude. It's not always the case that they don't want you but they want you to really work for it. You might even see a wall around them but with gentle efforts, you see that the wall thins down progressively.
However, if they don't feel you at all or if they are like that in general, then you will constantly see the same cold response and behavior.
As for the 2nd case in question, you will notice friendliness and openness, but you will always feel like in the end, they keep ditching you for someone more attractive to them. And they keep. doing that to you. It won't stop.
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I'd say playing hard to get is usually a form of attention speaking, but targeted at one individual. Someone who's generally attention-seeking will want it from just about everyone.
If you can make her jealous then it's not for attention. Women don't get jealous for men they are not interested in.
Only one way to find out is to test the waters a little bit
The difference is the intention behind it.
sounds like the same thing.
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