How do you tell the difference between playing hard to get vs not interested?

[Anonymous]

How do you tell the difference between playing hard to get vs not interested?

[sageevalentinee]

I think different people see things differently but my advice is, if she directly says she's not interested, or says no to you, no matter how much you like, and even if you think that she is attracted to you, back off. Keep your integrity, don't play games with people, it's not good, you don't need to be rejected 10 times to get a date, there are plenty of girls willing to go out with you.

'Hard to get' does not mean rejection (the above). Hard to get means she probably wants to know you a bit more before agreeing to anything. For example, I had a friend who would always flirt with this guy she liked, but often avoided the subject of going out with him whenever he brought it up. Then went on for a month or so, until she heard his friends' very high opinion of him, and then she asked him if wanted to take her on a date, and now they're a couple! So I think it's more of prolonging this pre dating sort of period, to find out a bit more about you, to keep you interested before actually agreeing to anything. Does that make sense.

[Lauren2019]

If a man is pursuing a woman who is not interested in any kind of relationship with him, she won’t give him any contact information (unless needed for work or school), she will try to avoid him, and if she needs to speak to him, it will be short and to the point. She will basically avoid him on all levels if possible. Or she will just straight up tell him that she’s not interested.

[LawrenceKen]

Playing hard to get - She will ignore you one day and seem to be interested the next i. e. push and pull behavior.

Not interested- She will treat you like everyone else if you haven't yet made a move on her; if you have she'll avoid you and may give you dirty looks.
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I truly believe though that somebody who 'plays hard to get' doesn't have 100% interest, more like you are their 2nd option.

[ManOnFire]

Playing hard to get is when she keeps watching you and even tries to come around you while trying for it not to appear that she's interested but she will try to brush you off if you say something to her. She will do this repeatedly just to get you to keep trying.

If she's really not interested she will show it or express it in a way that makes it pretty clear.

[JohnPrestwick]

'Playing hard to get' is rare behaviour. Most people are not Machevellian masterminds when it comes to dating.

A more important question is if you can tell the difference between a girl who is attracted but nervous and a girl who is not interested. Sometimes you can't. But a nervous girl who likes you should overcome her nerves slowly and take interest in you socially, such as asking questions about you.

[Adam1978]

You shouldn't, let's end that silly game and make those women actually act on what they want or remain alone. Find one that will show/tell what she wants and you will have a much better relationship aslong as it's something your willing to give.

[djmzes]

Simple

[layan1999]

Who is not interested will be so MEAN. You will see that from the face. The eyes talks..
But who is playing hard to get he will show that he is not interested but that will be so fake
Again (face, eyes) speak.

[NumaleSoybeans]

Also if she presses rape charges it means she wasn't interested

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't need to tell the difference. If a woman wants to play games like "hard to get," then I'M not interested, so it doesn't really matter.

[DWornock]

There is no difference. Even if there is, guys are not going seek anymore rejection. They have had rejection up to their eyeballs. Therefore, they are not going to invest any time, money, or effort chasing after some girl that doesn't show interest.

[irishpete]

Just ask her of she's interested and that you dont play childish games, it's either a yes or a no... dont chase her whatever you did

[harvest]

When playing hard to get, she will tease you from time to time. It will be cruel teasing, but you should get some signals from her.

[iamjersey]

Restraining order! LMFAO!! Sorry, I couldn't let that one go...

[AshleyMadison00]

Smile or leave flirtatious comments when playing hard to get.
Not interested no getting around closed door. KEY just be persistent not stalker like mode tho.

[FakeName123]

I don't. Either you are interested or not. If you are interested, but pretend not to be then you are wasting my time.

[just_a_potato]

I don't, I just automatically assume they aren't interested lmao

[YHL6965]

Don't bother running after someone who plays hard to get. Ask them directly if they are interested or not but don't exhaust yourself running after them.

[Gedaria]

Playing hard , she stays, but not interested she just walks …..

[skeetskeetskeet]

Whem she tells you to stay away you fucking weirdo that means not interested

[jakemake826]

They are really close but asking a freak simple questions and watching gestures as well as. facial expereriona and you'll just know

[jennifer_bloom]

I would say eye contact and behavioural changes

[ecfresh]

Really shouldn’t matter, in any case move on