What are the differences between a woman playing hard to get and not interested?

[JRise25]

[Man-O-Metal]

[Playing hard to get] - (over text) she won’t look at your texts for a while. Might even leave you on read for a while. But ALWAYS gets back to you because she likes to play games but in a way that’s fair and doesn’t leave you hanging (for too long). Unless she’s doing it to really mess with your head like a douche. If that’s the case she may open your text intending to respond but then just forget or not respond cuz she got bored.


(In person) she will say things that make you think. Sometimes she’ll say stuff that doesn’t even make sense. It’s just because she’s trying to force you to keep thinking about her. Girls like when something is about them. (Direct attention) She wants to be the chess master and always remain a few steps ahead. Again, sometimes this can be fun and other times girls use it to manipulate the guy and that’s just wrong.



[Not interested] - (over text) responds to any and all texts with less than 5 words. (Trying to make you bored and no longer interested in the conversation) Will often make excuses for herself to leave at that very moment. At that point if guys don’t take the hint they have mega simp cancer.


(In person) body language is just about everything when it’s comes to in person interactions. Does she sit with her body facing you giving her direct attention? No. Ok, well does she play with her hair a lot and constantly put it behind hers ears to show off her ear rings? No. Ok, well does she smile a lot in conversation and maintain eye contact? No. Alright then… you’re at a total loss so go find yourself another girl 🤣🤣🤣

[serious]

It is the intention. What the woman wants to achieve, the motive behind it.

When a woman is playing hard to get, she is playing a mind game. It is manipulation and it is fake. In reality she is testing the man's interest levels. In reality she maybe equally interested but she will purposely not text on time, not reply. Purposely delay interactions.

This is a mind game to test a man. Of course this is very immature and can be highly frustrating to man. The point is playing hard to get and any other manipulative mind games like using the jealousy card are all done with the motive to test a man's interest levels in her.

On the other hand if a woman is not interested then the woman will not reply at all. Even after several days or weeks. If a woman is just playing hard to get then eventually she will reply even if it is late.

If a woman is not interested at all then the woman will almost certainly block the guy who is persisting with his efforts whereas a woman who is playing hard to get will eventually respond if the man persists and shows interest.

A woman who is not interested will display her real intention of actually not being interested, there are no games being played. She will show what she means not only by words but by actions also whereas a woman who is simply playing hard to get is just testing the man and his interest level.

Does this answer your question?

[dustybiker]

She’ll yell at you to go away. Or she’ll yell at you because you stopped chasing her. Just avoid it all together. Stick to woman who show interest, they already prove then can communicate and dislike childish games.

[jennifer_bloom]

How much attention and care she puts into her interactions with you

[SteveSmith1985]

honestly, women generally don't play "hard to get". It depends on the specifics of the situation. But generally, if you're getting "not interested" signs or signals, then she's not interested. Sorry. 🙂

[MountAverage]

Their interest, obviously? Because if she is actually just *playing* hard to get, then that means she's actually interested. Problems is a lot of guys often interpret lack of interest as "playing hard to get" when in reality that's just their delusional wishful thinking.

[Smashingdoozy]

If they're playing hard to get they'll likely still interact with you in a mostly friendly way. If they're not interested they will ignore you or only respond to questions you ask but never ask any in return

[JamesDiaz11]

I'm assuming you're talking about in her intent- their behaviors will be similar. A girl playing hard to get will invite you to pursue her, while the other one won't.

[Tyrael]

That's for them to know and for us to never find out, while they complain to their friends that you didn't make a move after she sent such obvious signals.

[Birdlegs]

If a girl is playing hard to get she’ll show signs of interest but won’t be direct
If she’s not interested you won’t get anyyyy sign of interest

[Rockstarrrrr]

They're really different.. Hard to get is on and off but not interested is mostly ignoring or acting annoyed

[maximumpower]

hard to get will keep your attention and make sure she still has it.
not interested will break contact and turn away.
don't confuse the two.
read up on body language to learn more.

[ahriz]

Women would avoid you like the plague. Some will act like cocktease or give you the cold shoulder.

[jahaims]

One is an immature game she thinks is useful to and the other one means she doesn't like you like that.

[sirderpsalot123]

There is no way to tell. It either works out in the end, or you're a creep. Girls who play hard to get are childish and aren't worth your time anyway.

[whiskeyontherocks]

Doesn’t matter
If she’s playing games she’s not mature enough for a relationship

[TallnBig]

Good question
Not one answer but you can feel the difference when in the same room

[Anonymous]

There is no way to tell, which is why I walk away in either case.

[KrakenAttackin]

Playing hard to get = hard pass for me.