Both of them are too similar for me, I can't honestly take them apart and it seems that most women play hard to get, its rare to see a girl who shows interest.
In your opinion, what is the fine line between playing hard to get and not interested?
See, that's why I don't deal with girls who play games like that. I avoid that thin line.
I had a crush on a girl who was "busy." I doubt she was interested, but IF she was, she "busied" herself right out of any potential relationship with me, which could have been really cool. No hard feelings, I'm not even yapping about "her loss."
But, in my opinion, if she's ever interested in a guy, and she does this too often to him, that guy is probably not going to stick through for very long.
A woman has to have a life outside of me. She has to have a passion. She can't be contacting me 6-7 times a day to have half hour conversations. I want her to spend time with her friends, take classes, learn something new, go to work... but if she's ALWAYS saying how she has to work, and never calling me, never making counteroffers, then it's going to become an issue.
Women: Being a slight challenge, sticking up for yourself, not CONSTANTLY being available 24/7, having a life and something to talk about besides me, that's a great thing. Very attractive. But if there's no "give" and little compromise and cooperation, then I'm not staying for very long. I don't know many "healthy" guys who would do that.
You don't have to always avoid going out, hanging by the phone just in case I might call... (when I haven't promised to call). However, doing everything and anything BUT spending time with me, well, no hard feelings, but I don't want that in a friendship OR relationship.
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uhg I wish I didn't log on so late... Okay first of all, the playing is for teens and childish people who really need to grow up.
Life is too short, so when people start to play with emotions like that it's when it because a real headache.
Playing HARD to get is about the same as telling me you're not interested in my book. I'm not interested in playing a guessing game for weeks before it finally turns out you didn't want to or found someone better ect...
Tell me yes or no to begin with, then we can go from there... If I need to "WORK" not play with you after you decide you're interested then that's acceptable.
But forcing the other person to "PLAY" mind games is wrong and hurts people, more than most realize.
It's one thing to wink at a guy and walk away expecting him to follow... it's another to go here here here no no no no... okay here here here no no no no no... Eventually the person being played is going to walk away from it. They might continue playing until the other gets bored and hurts that person... Or that person playing the game is going to be another news headline...
Don't be dumb people, we're all adults and we know how to respect each other. If you want to flirt a little fine, but if that flirtation is followed up by an advance or approach to the one you did it to… Then try and be blunt about it. It's the only way not to hurt a person to the point of dire consequences.
Honestly... girls who play hard to get ARE hard to get but if a girl likes you AND plays hard to get.. its because 1. she doesn't want you to think she's too interested in you she doesn't wanna seem like an easy girl, a pushover or desperate 2. she wants you to respect her 100 percent and 3 she is taking things slow lol so you don't think she's easy... I don't think ANYBODY likes to really be rushing into something and like holding hands the next day that's just weird lol... so I honestly think if a girls playing hard to get its because she is hard to get.. she's not easy... but if you wanna know a girl is not interested.. there won't be any flirting, there won't be any smiling.. there may be politeness cause she feels sorry for you but she'll make up some excuse like "i gotta go somewhere right now" or "your just a brother to me," or she'll straight up tell you the truth like "i like this guy right now.." I don't know she'll use some excuse.. and you won't get ANYWHERE with her.. the hard to get girl will slowly break down her defenses that is if you don't break her trust... lol so.. that means she's interested but she's not letting herself be gullible enough to trust you right away lol type thing or she just wants you to chase her
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I may have lost my chance with this guy because he said "you play hard to get" and I just smiled and nodded. I play hard to get with guys I start to like because I don't want him to see me just as sex, I want him to see me for who I am and hope that he genuinely likes me as a person.. then the hooking up comes after. I want to gain his respect and test him to see if he likes me for me or for my body. After a few times meeting up, he stopped contacting me. I don't know if its because I play hard to get or because I didn't hook up with him. It's not that I'm playing games or playing hard to get intentionally or to bother him, it might come off as I'm uninterested since sometimes I'll hold myself back from tell him how I really feel and I get cold. when really I just want to tell him "hey I really like you" but I wait it out to see if he feels the same first. I don't want to risk getting hurt.. but by that time he's gone. and what I thought was a great guy, was a super fail. so I'm glad I didn't hook up with him because I guess that's all he ever wanted. sometimes girls play hard to get because they've been hurt in the past.
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I don't know what you classify as playing hard to get.
1. If a girl really likes you or is shy, she may simply be embarrassed and have trouble showing her interest.
2. If a girl appears comfortable and confident in her ability to talk to you, but doesn't accept a date with you, she is not interested.
3. If a girl is showing interest, takes your calls or calls you back and responds to texts, but isn't initiating them, hey that isn't unusual. A lot of girls are taught that it can be pushy or clingy to initiate calls and texts until after you two are in a relationship.
I think, overall, that if a girl won't accept a date from you that is the telling sign between playing hard and not interested. Any girl who thinks playing hard to get includes turning down dates is a fool.
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There is NO line. There is no hard to get. Hard to get was made up as a nice way of saying that person has low INTEREST LEVEL in you. How many guys would play hard to get towards any girl when their interest level is through the roof? Same with girls... if their interest level is high.. they will not chance playing hard to get...in fear of losing a great guy. Its funny because no other area in life do people use the phrase "hard to get"? I mean..whens the last time you interviewed for a job that you desperately wanted and decided to play HARD TO GET at first? No matter what it is in life...if we want it bad... we don't PLAYING HARD TO GET.
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Honestly.. This guy may of thought I was hard to get.. but I wasn't.. in reality I kinda was because I was 1. seeing what he was really like... he talked to other girls in the class so I told myself "Ahh, he's probably just a flirt." So I never really accepted his flirting lol I didn't want to be used or taken advantage of.. but whenever He'd talk to me and I didn't reciprocate like other girls may have.. He may of thought "this girl is hard to get.." but honestly I was just kind of making judgements by what I've seen in him.. in the past.. plus I don't really think he was my type... lol but if he would of chased me more.. I'm sure POSSIBLY he could of broke down my defenses lol IF he wasn't a flirt lol
I honestly don't know.. there's a lot of definitions of hard to get.. My definition of hard to get.. is a girl whose nice... yet doesn't automatically flirt with you right away -
Well, it depends on how hard to get they are playing. What are these women doing or not doing? I would like to get more details on what is happening.
What is your approach like? Are you already friends with the women? Are you confident? Having fun? Do you carry yourself like you know you are awesome and these women are lucky to meet you?
I would like to help you meet some women, but we've gotta work on you first!
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No difference. If you are really interested in someone, you won't jeopordize the possibility of getting to know them, by plying games. imo.
Guys do it alot. ALOT. they might say its because girls want them to. but what you do, is your choice. not someone elses its definitely not gender specific. - 454 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
Forget the line, if they're playing hard to get they're not worth you time. Stick to the girls who are mature enough to not play games and show their interest. =)
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when I used to play hard to get with a guy I would totally FLIRT with him while I was saying "no" to him. confusing him making him want to come back for more. when I didn't like a guy and I wasn't interested at all I would be very serious or polite about it and be like "i'm really sorry..but I'm just not interested" with no flirting in there.
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Games are okay to play, as long the girl know wheres to draw the line and there has to be some "reward" for the guy's efforts! If not, what's the whole point of playing hard to get.
Is it not to flirt and attract a guy that got you interested enough for you to start playing games in the very first place? -
If there is a line, there won't be after awhile of getting to know whoever you are interested in. Initially the guy will probably be making all the convos and starting things, proposing a date, etc. That should only last a little while though, if she's interested then she will reciprocate that after a few weeks of dating. Any longer then she's probably not interested.
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Hard to get is a mind game. If I see it, I move on.
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I think they're both way too similar. Playing hard to get is a sign of immaturity. Which is why I tell guys straight up, "Look, if you're going to play games, then keep it moving. Don't waste my time. Games are for children." I'm tired of guys thinking it's charming to be aloof pains in the ass
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if she first showed interest, like gave her number or any other sign means she is interested...
so you can distinguish them... text her in a regular period...like each 3-4 or even more, and see how is she doing...(of course if she answered and replied back your first texts) and after sometimes, stop texting her...if she get back to you by any excuse or she texts you after a while means she is interested... you can do the same way with various manners! -
The fine line between playing hard to get and not interested is based upon whether they are giving and pulling, or if they are just taking you for granted. If they continually just take you for granted, and don't appreciate anything you're doing for them..then the chances are is that they're just using you and not interested.
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I hate that term. "Playing hard to get."
I don't play anyone. If I am interested, then I'll try to let that guy know.
If I'm not, and he asks, I'm straight up about it.
You don't want a girl who plays games.
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I always assume they are the same. If every guy did that, girls would be forced to realize playing hard to get is a losing strategy.
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There is no line.
If she is playing hard to get I am not interested.
i'm not 14, and life isn't a schoolyard, I don't play games anymore. -
If they pay hard to get then I become uninterested lol
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Dont try to understand women... you will only get burned.
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