Umm I think the no contact rule CAN work, but not a guaranteed thing-in terms of getting back together, but I think it is a good thing to use in general. But first, let's describe the terms of no contact:
1-you are not to contact your ex. Period.
2-you have to sit down and evaluate the role YOU played on the break up, and then make some appropriate changes, as well as fill up your calendar DOING things.
3-if you are wanting to get get back together, the break up has to of been done by him, and not by you.
If you simply stubbornly decide not to contact him, it won't work. You HAVE to put the effort into YOURSELF. The idea is that when you DO talk, he will see that you have changed and are different.
The logic behind it: a lot of break ups happen after a fight, by not contacting him, you are giving him space to cool down. No contact doesn't work as well on women. When he does realize wth? She hasn't texted me at all? He might get a little curious because hey! You all were together x amount of time and probably both have a little bit of attachment. After a break up, neither side completely severs that attachment, so it's normal to wonder about each other a little.
Even if you don't get back together, doing it and working on yourself during that time means even if he doesn't contact yiu, you are in a better place at the end of it. Now you have gone a full month without talking, you have improved yourself, and you have a life the latest is full and complete without him!
I tried no contact once. Guy texted me within a week. We almost got back together within a month, but he and I aren't compatible and he didn't do the work on himself to fix his pcontrubuting problems so we did not get back together. But 7 months later and he still reaches out to me about monthly to do a quick catch up chat as friends.
BUT, in that month I joined a mom club, got some new clothes that made me feel attractive, got a hair cut, started making plans with the mom's in that group, hung out more with my friends and made my life nice and full. I also read as much relationship advise as I could. I reflected on all my past relationships and found the qualities I most value in a man, and then grew the confidence to wait until a man with those most important qualities came along. I've been dating this man for a month and a half now and omg I couldn't be happier. He treats me like no one else ever has! I can't stop smiling!
It sounds stupid in my opinion. If I broke up with an ex, it's me not wanting to speak or hear from them ever again. If I wanted to make him miss me.. Just take a break.
There is no such thing as a no contact rule. When you break up with somebody you break up with them and there is never any further contact. Move on
When a breakup or rejection happens, a lot of men chase the girl. The problem with this is the the harder the guy chases, the more desperate he looks, which results in the girl rejecting him even more.
What the no contact rule does is it gives the girl an impression that you are a man that deserves a great woman. When women reject men, they unconsciously believe that the man will feel bad and start to chase. However, the guys who use the no contact rule does the OPPOSITE, which confuses most girls. Then the girls will start questioning, "Why isn't he chasing me? Maybe he does not need me because he knows that he deserves better"
Women think with emotion, not logic. When a breakup happens, she is doing so because she "feels" that it is the right thing to do. She will not regret it the first couple days or the first week. However, a whole month with no contact will motivate her to start wondering.
This is a much better option than chasing the girl. Even if it does not work, going no contact for 30 days will actually help the man heal from the relationship and move on with his own life and focus more on self improvement.
No. My dad always taught me to be an utter asshole from the moment a breakup is occurs.
Why?
Closure. The best thing a dude can leave a woman with when the relationship is over is an excellent excuse to call him an "ex." It prevents those long, drawn-out breakups that are frankly agonizing for the heart. Not worth it at all, especially when you and she both know its done.
Guys, give yourselves and them closure. Be the asshole.
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No, I don't think it really works. It can give all sorts of negative impressions about you and plus the other person will surely start losing interest in you.
I mean it doesn't really work but it might work on a very few type of people, more often it will surely fail.
For me no contact = walk away.
If ur ex wants to contact u.. he/she will reach out to u otherwise just move on.
It works with men.. coz usually women can't take it and reach out when they can't take it anymore... although im not sure if it works with women or not.
The other thing it does is allow your heart to heal so you can be strong enough to walk away.
If you broke up, what is going to have changed after a month? If something does (or something seems to have) that makes it seem like it's safe enough to go back, you probably didn't break up for a good enough reason in the first place.
That sounds... stupid :o
You don't put a timer on that, 30 days? It can be 60 or 90 or just 7 days
Every person is different
Getting back together after a break up doesn't sound like a good decision
No it doesn't. It's a breakup used by people that are too pussy to call it a breakup
That has helped me to get sex from an ex during a dry spell from a break up actually.
Sounds stupid if you don't talk in a couple weeks I'd be out there looking for the next one
A girl tried it on me once. It backfired because out of sight out of mind I had moved on.
even with my friends we touch each other, so that ll be a dumb things to do
I wish I'd done that.
No, I never tried it and it sounds stupid
I've done 4 years with no contact and it's been ok
Never tried it.
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