Just wondering. It's been 5 days and I texted/called him almost everyday. He seemed annoyed :/ how long should I wait?
Most Helpful Guy
The No Contact rule works, and I'm proof it does.
Don't bullshit yourself with the 30-day NC rule, NC is forever - well at least until your ex who dumped you gets in contact.
You see, the NC rule gives a chance for your ex to start missing you.
With the NC rule you effectively disappear from your ex's life. So if they are still at least 51% attracted to you, they'll most definitely get in contact.
Let me share a short story.
My ex and I broke up over a year ago. When it ended it seemed like it was permanent and I was left distraught. It was a very bitter BU with lots of shouting (from my part) and crying (from her part). We immediately stopped talking to each other.
The radio silence continued for months. By the 5th month, I knew it was over and that I'd never hear from her again. By the 8th month, I was over her - I was over the relationship and I could finally wake up without her on my mind, I could finally fall asleep without keeping myself awake.
All changed in April though.
I have the FaceBook messenger on my phone, an app I check every once in a while to see if friends have got in contact. A MESSAGE FROM MY EX!! I was shocked, I was surprised and, for a moment, I was happy.
You know what she sent? She wanted "advice". After a year of silence, of not talking, she wants ADVICE?
Bullshit. It was as excuse to talk.
This is why I assumed she wanted to see me, so I said "(her name), it's been so nice to hear from you and I'd love to see you, when are you free/back?"
I can tell you it took a lot of courage to send it and I was very nervous when I did, but she replied quickly and got this reply.
"I'm back the 10th and I'm definitely up for a catch up :)"
When you go NC it has to be for you and only you. Your ex isn't a priority anymore, you are. It's up to them to reach out if they regret the BU or miss you.
The strongest negotiation position is to walk away and mean it.1
Most Helpful Girl
Don't put you life on hold for someone hoping they will contact you when they broke up with you. Just move on from it and don't contact them ever again. If you have there number or if you are friends with them on social media block them. The best way I moved on was deleting them off of everything so I could have time to focus on myself. Just do you and be you, don't worry about him contacting you anything just keep moving forward and never look back. If he wants you back he'll come back to you, but don't give him the power of watching you suffer and definitely do not chase him. If they want you back they'll come back.0