How do I act around a girl that I like who has a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I asked this before, but never got any answers so I'll try again...

So last week, I started college and got arranged with my classmates who I will be working with for a year. Everyone here is nice so far, but there is one girl in particular who I have my eye on. She's 19 and I'm 18, and I find her really gorgeous. I haven't spoken to her much yet, but so far when we have spoken during class she's been very nice to me and seems to like my company. I'm very willing to get to know her more, especially since we'll be working together in class for a year from now!

After my third day of college, she added me on Facebook and so then I accepted her friend request. I then decided to take a look at her profile, and suddenly I then felt like I had been shot in the chest... Her profile appeared to show that she has a boyfriend, possibly been going out for more than a year.

She has many photos taken with this particular guy, although they aren't kissing or anything like that, they're just standing with each other. She's does however have a prom picture with him as well that was taken two years ago. Her relationship status says she is 'single', and when I checked her possible boyfriend's profile it says he is 'single' too. However, he does have a profile picture of him standing with her. (Again not kissing or anything)

Anyway, for now I am just going to safely assume she has a boyfriend to prevent myself from getting false hope and getting another sting in the chest. I don't know what to do or how to act around her now. If my suspicions of her having a boyfriend are correct, then it's not gonna be easy for me to 'just move on' considering I will be in her class for a whole year. So I am just wondering what do I do? What should I do when I'm around her and how do I cope with my feelings?

[serious]

1. Logically speaking you shouldn't keep any contact with a girl who already has a boyfriend, it is never a suggested option.

2. However if you decide to keep contact with her then you should be very uptight, very clear and straightforward in your words when you speak with her. I mean it should never indicate or give her an idea/impression that you are trying to flirt with her. There is nothing wrong if you be friendly but never try to be over friendly or overly nice with her. That possible can make her think that you may like her even though it may not be true.

3. You should talk to her only if she initiates the conversation first or if she needs you help regarding something otherwise you should refrain from talking to her as much as possible.

4. Never hang out with her alone. I mean never do it, even if she invites you for that still you should refuse because that is a total sign of disrespect towards her boyfriend and so if she invites you hang out with her alone you should outright deny it. Never support her in this action.

These are the few things you should do if a girl already has a boyfriend.

[Mercury1]

Hang out one on one with a taken woman = 675 years to life in Federal prison and/or the death penalty. Enforced by the FBI, the United States Department of Homeland Security, the United States Military, the United States Marshals, and the United States Supreme Court.

[Mercury1]

Logically speaking, FLEE from a girl who has a boyfriend! DO NOT set certain distances e. g. 50 feet or 100 feet. FLEE from her, and keep fleeing without ever a glance back until she is out of your mind. And if you end up covering 250, or even 6,000 miles or more of distance in your flight from her, so be it.

[Mercury1]

Logically speaking, I don't care if both her *and* her boyfriend want to take you to Universal Orlando *tomorrow*! Stay the heck away from her and him! Flee from them. And tell all guys that try to approach her and him that it's a capital felony under Federal law for a man to be friends with a dating or married couple.

[Mercury1]

Block her from your Facebook, and flee from her. Sit all the way on the farthest side of the classroom from her. If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't care if both her and her boyfriend wanted to take me to Disney World *tomorrow*. As a single guy myself, when a woman I have a crush on gets into a relationship with another man, I block her, I also block her new boyfriend, and I will not go anywhere with them. Not Disney World, not Las Vegas, not Yellowstone National Park, New York City, nowhere; not even to a Six Flags amusement park.

[Mercury1]

In fact, I just pretend her boyfriend has a gun and will shoot any other man who gets within less than 75 feet of her.

[Mercury1]

Logically, I would even recommend just dropping the class and taking it another year, even take the entire year off if you have to so you don't have to deal with her. Tell the college administration that there is a woman in your class and she has an extremely violent boyfriend, even that her boyfriend is a wanted cop killer and will murder any other man who gets within 100 feet of her.

[Summer_Bunny]

Act normal

[RedVulcan]

Well, first off ur really only guessing about her boyfriend. U could be wrong, maybe not a bad idea to check with her.
As for coping if she's taken the best I can do is suggest u go find another one. Can't really help there...