What should I do if a girl I like has a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

she is my friend, and we met after she got together with him.

we speak a lot, and text every day. and I started liking her.

[_Maya_]

You do nothing because she has a boyfriend. She is in a relationship and you don't want to be that guy that ruins it. Not to mention any advances you make on her she is going to judge as low character since you know she has a boyfriend. This doesn't mean you can't be friends. Just leave the feelings out of it. If you can't do that then you just need to cut ties with her so you don't get in the middle of her relationship.

[provokeesmokee]

Recognize she's taken, move on from your romantic feelings, and remain a platonic friend.

If you can't, and you feel increasingly angry about not being her boyfriend, you might need to have a talk. Tell her you've come to see her as more than a friend, but you want to respect her relationship - and so you may need to step back.

But honestly? You've missed the boat. Especially if you can't accept or respect that she's in a relationship.

[nonyabeez-wax]

Move on.

Start distancing yourself slowly.

For 1, if she does anything with you, she's not faithful to him and won't be with you.

For 2, say she leaves him for you, how do you know she won't leave you for the next guy she fancys? You don't.

The best thing you can do is intentionally grow apart from her, and move on to another girl.

[Dareu2bb]

People are saying walk away without asking him what their relationship is like i mean the two together, if they share a strong bond/love for each other yeah get out of there but if she's unsure and he's not treating her that great and you think you could do better then get in there lad and prove it, if they were married then thats a different ball game.

[MrOracle]

You cut ties with her and spend time around other people. She is OFF LIMITS. If a girl is taken, that's it, there's nothing more to talk about, and you need to move on. Never EVER let yourself be FriendZoned, which can only happen if you play along with it.

Do not waste your time, effort, or feelings on taken girls, because you have virtually no chance of getting that girl, and your time and energy is far better spent on single girls who you have a better chance with.

[RavenQuill]

Yeah, definitely don't actively chase her. You can't control your feelings, but if hiding them is worth keeping the secret you should. Your friendship would be ruined if you tried to approach her while she's in a relationship, or even too soon after.

[SlightlyBurnedPizza]

Step away, if you think about it there are 2 outcomes

1: you will get rejected

2: she will be with you but if thus happens just know that she will also leave you if she finds a better guy because she has done it before

You can't win in this situation

If you want to get your feelings out just tell her that you like her but that you respect her current relationship and that you're not up to date her. (Only do this if you have trouble moving on)

[DarkSpectrum811]

Best to keep it as it is if you want to keep her in your life as your friend. However, you’ll know the signs if things change on her end if her relationship with her boyfriend isn’t as intense as one would assume. I would stay the course for now.

[BadApple69]

This will sound bad but…. Is this guy a friend? If so then you should stop contacting her. If he isn’t a friend then…. All is fair in love and war. I would go for it. You owe him nothing and if she is a good catch, then go catch her.

[McLlovin]

what you sow is what you reap. im not the type to steal women away from someone, I wouldn’t want that happening to me. Put out what you want to receive I always say

[slatyb]

You text every day? Does her purported boyfriend know that? Are you content with the relationship you have with her? Suppose you could never date her? Would you stay on contact with her?

[LazerBean]

Don't do anything while she's dating, just chill. Most people don't date forever, so chances are you will get another shot if that's what you really want.

[Wallythewalrus]

You can either wait for a possible break up or make up a vicious lie about him and be her shoulder to cry on.

[jennifer_bloom]

Let her go and look for somebody else. I believe if you live a good life, God will send somebody to you when you're ready for it.

[Billlewis]

When I find myself in this situation, I often politely inquire as to the possibility of spoiling them both, and paying for their dates, etc.

[Anonymous]

Just wait. At age 18-24 she won't have a boyfriend for very long.

[Starrrboy]

Well, do you think they're going strong? 😅.. just move on man.. love triangles can be very cringe 🤷‍♂️..

[Ben487]

boyfriends don't pose a problem as long as she's not married its a green light.

[In_Trance]

Find someone else

[Anonymous]

Give me his details and I will make sure he won't be a problem

[Lara_Croft]

How many girls are there in this world?

[virtualwasp]

no idea. threes a crowd

[sheikalana]

You should get over it and move on.

[dudeinohio]

You find someone else.