Do girls actually have height requirements?

Question

Like when you read forums and memes it seems that short guys are some sort of disease. I've lost count on how many posts I have read where a girl (if it is a girl) states she only dates guys that are at least 6ft tall. And I've seen memes of girls posting thinks like

"when he's height starts with 5"
"what do you call a guy under 6'2 - a friend"

Is this kind of thinking really representative of real life? Do girls actually think in terms of height and put strict requirements on guys?

ebbyeb · Accepted Answer

That's only true for a very small number of people from what I've seen! I know that it's not true for me or anybody that I know, that's all for sure! For me, there's no problem with height or anything. However, I guess for example, if there were identical twins and one was 5ft and one was 6ft, the 6ft one would be the more popular choice. But in the end of the guy is actually 5ft and a great guy, it wouldn't matter too much. And the girls who only are attracted to height and that's all are pretty low to only be attracted to people because of height. Yes, it can be a feature that you find specifically attractive, but if you only want to date someone just because they're tall, that doesn't fly with me. You should date someone for who they are not what they are! So if you find that height truly bothers someone, just know that any sort of deep relationship wouldn't have been possible to begin with! So don't feel bad about your height! :)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I like guys taller than myself which isn't particularly hard. Though I was friends with a rather attractive male dwarf we didn't think of each other that way. But I'm also attracted to darker skin, hair, and eyes. I think though that is a result of where I grew up and the friends I had. I knew plenty of people that fell into that category but most I only thought of as a friend. Also I was cautious given my physiology was different. Though I've been with more males than females I've been with some of them too and same sort of thing. Though I admit bigger breasts on women aren't bad and smaller ones on men unless they got a little bigger from working out. I used to be a major jock in sports both before and after surgery which meant I competed as a boy and as a girl and the country I was in did have a nurse verify it.

Rosehrs · Accepted Answer

It's not really a requirement but rather a preference, women like to feel feminine. By having a boyfriend or husband that is larger, taller, and stronger lust for you it makes you feel sexy and confident. Some women are tall and feel uncomfortable with shorter men, some women are short and don't really care, and some women just enjoy the feeling of a dominant male role.

BuchitaBuchys · Accepted Answer

Haha no. This is just something those forums exaggerate on.

I've seen so many negative posts and memes by men about dark skin women. Fat women, flat chested women, etc.
Yet I see all those types of women still dating. And I see short men in relationships, go figure.

I personally dont mind height as long as he isn't shorter than me.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The ideal height woman want in men is 6'2". However, women are willing to settle for men over 6'0" which is about 18% of male populace.

If we compare a man's height to a woman age. Add 5 years starting from age 20 to a woman's age and subtract 2 from a male's height to consider the relation.

6'2"=20years old
6'0"=25 years old
5'10 = 30 year old
5''8=35 year old

So to women. Settling for a guy who is say 5'8 is equivalent to a guy getting a girl who is age 35. Not ideal partner you would want in a mate but many people have to settle eventually or end up alone.

America1st · Accepted Answer

Some women do that because they are tall. Some want a man that will still be taller than she when she wears heels. Some short women just love having a big man that can envelop her in his arms. I'm 6'2" and have been with women from 5' to 6'1". I don't mind if a woman is taller than me in heels. If I was looking, I'd have no problem with a woman who was taller than 6'2". For many men who are rather macho, a taller woman may threaten his manhood and he won't go there. The main point being that woman and men have varied preferences. Ignore the stupid jokes.

ElissaDido · Answer

I'm 5'6" and most guys are taller than me, as long as he's taller I'm good. But my preference is 5'9" and up.

RJGraveyTrain · Answer

I don't personally. If people ask my preference I can shoot a number, but it's not a strict, concrete guideline. Just don't prefer dudes that are my height or shorter.

Hopefuldreamer8 · Answer

People do have standards but the girls who write that stuff aren't worth your time. It's one thing to have a preference. It's completely different when you feel the need to insult someone who doesn't live up to your standards. I would think that people like that have an overall bad attitude. Girls like that usually have high expectations in everything. They're the type that would find fault in anything you do.

As for me, I'm 5'4 and the guy I'm interested in right now is about my height. I doubt he'll ever like me though because I'm ugly.

Ayeaye4real · Answer

I don't think it really matters. I had a friend who dated a guy 7 inches shorter than her. Its about the attraction she feels for her.
But there is this norm where girls are "instantly attracted" to guys who are taller than her. Its a psychological thing about feeling like guys who are taller than her are more masculine.
Bottom line, if a girl actually likes you, she would not consider height a requirement. Honestly, there are more important things than height. Loyalty, commitment. And how compatible you are for one another?

beachflamingo · Answer

I don't know about other girls, but height does not bother me. I never really thought it was a thing until I read about it on GAG. You could be shorter, taller, or the same height as me. If I find you're face attractive and personality attractive, then you are practically perfect 👌🏻

WhateversCheapest · Answer

Of course. in many ways girls are just as superficial as guys. Height is one of them.

"I need a guy who is taller then me in my 10 inch heels. I'm only 5'8"

I'm 5'10 and I'm sure many women consider that too short.

I think women want a guy who is taller then them.

To be fair a lot of guys feel insecure dating taller women. So both genders have a height requirement. I personally wouldn't want to date a woman who was taller. I would, but I would rather same height or shorter.

Point is-both men and women are a little superficial. Just being realistic here.

JohnDoe3000 · Answer

Oh yes, it's definitely a thing. Sometimes it's just a relative difference ("he has to be two inches taller than me"), which I guess fits with men's preference for women shorter than them. Sometimes though women have an absolute limit, even if they're small themselves (they want the bragging rights).

What I don't get is how women often say tall men make them feel small and protected: most of those 6'2" and up guys look like they could be snapped in two by a gush of wind.

P. S. I'm 6' so I'm not an angry short guy, I'm just curious about the whole thing.

SweedyPie · Answer

For the love of jellybeans if I see ANOTHER height obsessed question I might lose it!! The height doesn't matter the personality does, c'mon shorter guys of gag PLEASE get some self confidence!!! We love you as you are if your personality is loveable. *rant over.

Sorry asker, I just had to (no offence).

LindsayRB91rds · Answer

I wouldn't look at a roomful of eligible men and automatically pick a guy who's shorter than me. If I knew you and we became romantic then it's not a problem. While there's no specific height requirement I do prefer them taller then me. My husband is 6'3".

menina · Answer

Well, I prefer guys who are tall or at the least taller than me. I wouldn't be okay with dating a guy who is my height, and finding one who's shorter than me, is almost impossible.
So, maybe I do have a requirement.
However, I don't know if this is representative of real life. I can't speak for all the girls, only about myself.

bente2 · Answer

I do. I don't date anyone smaller than me, or the same size. However, I'm only 5'2/5'3 so.. It doesn't matter if he's six feet or just 5'8, he's just got to be taller than 5'4.

I do not understand why shoet girls need their men to be taller than six feet though, they are often bitchy..

cth96190 · Answer

Women can set whatever selection criteria they want. That is their right.
It is also the right of men who are of average, or less than average, height to reject those women a few years later, after the women have hit the wall and the power dynamic shifts to give men the upper hand.

posted · Answer

A lot of people are full of shit on the internet.
"what do you call a guy under 6'2 - a friend" is obviously a joke. Not many guys here are above 5'11. I'm sure if prince long shlong and handsome came by (who might be 2 inches taller), they'd pounce on him.

beautifulblacswan · Answer

oh nooooo. im 5'11" and like guys who I find attractive and do not care about height... for example musical genius Prince (R. I. P.) he was 5'2" Or 5'3" .. I'm not sure which one.. and i find him very attractive that i forget how short he is (I don't care how short he is lol) .. but with me.. some shorter guys don't want a taller girl.. some don't mind a tall girl.. just like some women don't want a shorter guy.. some don't mind a shorter guy.. ignore ridiculous memes.. ignorant and immature people are making these dumb memes I've seen a meme that considers women my height or taller to be men which is ridiculous and stupid because height doesn't change your gender.. don't worry ☺

Mesonfielde · Answer

Ah, while it makes sense to date in a 4" range up and down, the height queens under 5" who only date guys above 6" are the worst kind of women on the planet. But then again, it's best that they filter themselves out with their materialistic vanity altogether.

Most reasonable females don't have such arbitrary rules. They either find you attractive or they don't, they don't walk around with a goddamn tape measure.

alice55 · Answer

Yes, they do generally they don't date guys shorter than them but except that in my country we doesn't have this kind of things "Oh your shorter than 180 cm goodbye".
For me he should be at least 170 cm (5'7) and not taller than 2 m (6'7) maximum because after it look really ridiculous. if the girl is too short that's awkard, it's generally better to date around your height I think.

brain5000 · Answer

The authoritative poll has been taken and the results are as expected: *_RELATIVE_* height is the important thing the majority of the time:

Girlinlife · Answer

Sometimes, depending on the person it can be an issue. I find guys who are short and insecure about their height-are much harder to date than guys who are short and accept it. I'm currently seeing someone who is a good chunk shorter than me and at first; I was not for it. As we have went on, it's one of the last things that bother me.

in the shower or in bed, him being a little shorter gives him different positions and makes some easier. Over all, it's really all about the guy.. and how he feels about his height.

xXiTacoXx · Answer

As long as he's 4'11" or taller I don't really care. I'll even go down as far as 4'10", but any shorter than that and I'll feel like a pedo. I'm 5'1" so there isn't too bad of a height difference between 4'11" and my height, but even I have my limits.

SalmonBear · Answer

Some probably do, since they might only be attracted to taller men.

My first boyfriend was shorter then me and that was fine, I had no problem with it. It depends on whether you like him enough or not. I personally don't care about height, if I like a person, I will like the whole package, it does not matter to me, if he is taller or not.

alexwood4real · Answer

let's say a girl is 5'5" and she has the option between a guy who is 5'8" and good looking and another who's 6'2 and is alright looking, they'll choose the taller guy because they feel that it's more protection for them. that's not always the case tho. I think a girl will get with a guy who is at least an inch under or exactly their height. it is rare for a girl to get with a guy that is way shorter than her because it looks bad. I'm 5'5" in high school so I've been studying this for a while

sororitygirl20 · Answer

I really dislike memes about guy’s height. For one, they are quite misleading because they have the viewer assume that all girls want to date tall guys. However, this is not always true. Some girls even prefer to date guys who are under 6ft because they themselves are short. For example, I am 5’3-5’4 and I would be completely happy dating a guy that was under 6ft as long as he wasn’t my exact height or shorter than me. However, this is my preference and other girls may have a different view, but I think it really depends on the person and their preferences. Yes, there are girls out there who are my height who won’t date a guy that is under 6ft, but honestly they are just missing out if they are narrowing there dating preferences that much. I wish that height and weight didn’t matter in relationships, but they do for both males and females. The key is to find someone whose preferences are broad and who aren’t so picky when it comes to height.

blackchocolatelove · Answer

lol Im about 5'6 or 5'7 I've never been self conscious about my height. Also keep in mind that Im always honest about my height nor do I take myself so serious that I can't joke around about it. I dont need to a super fly guy I just love enjoying life.

allison13 · Answer

I'd like to say I don't have height requirements but that was only before my first boyfriend. Once I got into a relationship I realized I would prefer the guy to be at the very least as tall as I am. But I don't think it's a real dealbreaker if he's not. (Though funnily enough I've never gotten crushes on guys shorter than me. Maybe subconsciously it is a "requirement" for me.)

Sami365 · Answer

Not really. To be honest, there aren't many concrete things I imagine when thinking of traits I like with men, but being taller than me is one (and I am 5'8). However, just because this is my first thought when it comes to this, doesn't mean I wouldn't date a guy who was my height or shorter. I don't care if you are 6'5 or 4'5 or anything. If I like you, that's all that matters.

Pixiefairylady · Answer

I'm only 5.3 so height has never bothered me... but I have seen messages on here where people insist on certain height, but it seems to me it's like most things, people have preferences.

A lot of men would totally overlook someone of my height (mainly because I'm tiny ha) but that's because we have type, and we all do it... even subconsciously.

However statistically aren't men on average 5.10?

I personally don't think it's representative.

forestprincess · Answer

Height isn't a requirement for me, although I do like when people I date are taller then me (thats not hard to do tho bc most people are) although it really depends on their personality. I can't date someone without a sense of humor or someone who can hold an intellectual conversation.

Cypherenter · Answer

Well I am 5'9", and I am no buff guy, I am athletic and in shape, but definitely not the big tall strong guy and although I am currently single, I never have a problem getting girls to talk to me. I think its more of the individual and their confidence, although there are probably some woman that strictly only date tall men. I do not think that this is all women though. What it comes down to is that everyone has a preference on what they like.

MarieDlovesasianmen · Answer

since im only 5'1 i prefer my men to be at least 5'8 and up
ideally 5'10 is perfect in my eyes
body wise i dont really care just dont be overtly skinny... same thing as being overtly fat

but i do prefer men with a slight teddybear cuddle apperance... like a little bit of a tummy on a man is perfect for me ^^

mimi_____ · Answer

Most girls with options strongly prefer tall guys, but there are always exceptions.
I personally am all about the face. I really can't imagine dating someone shorter than me but I'm only 5'5". As long as your taller than me it's cool.
Fat though, is a dealbreaker. Muscly or skinny, no preference. But I'd rather die alone than marry a fat guy

lostgirl_searching · Answer

It all depends on the girl, I do not care about height, one time during work I had to go to the warehouse to give the manager some papers,
So I walked past this guy and he had black hair and blue eyes he was so cute and I think he was either the same height as me or maybe 2 or 3 inches taller. I'm 4'11 and I did not care that he was short.

Anna96 · Answer

Of course tall guys seem protective and strong but to be hobest when it comes down to an absolutely awesome guy, I wouldn't mind if he was shorter than me. Seriously, if he's alright, some girls should stop being so thick.

Slartybartfast · Answer

You're only allowed to body shame men.

In fact I've heard (I don't use them) that some misandrus dating apps have litteraly put height filters!

They want men to put in height, but won't put women's weight on the app.

Even though I'm tall, I found this disturbing and Total sexist. If I still dated I'd completely block and report any profiles that shamed men for height.

likitb4istickit · Answer

Seems obvious to me girls generally don't like midgets unless they are desperate or have no standards. I'm 5'5" and still can't really blame them. If I were a girl I wouldn't want to date a guy shorter than me or even the same height either. No big deal, just stay single.

rjroy3 · Answer

Many do, but it can be overcome if you're cool enough in her eyes. I have female friends who have literally turned guys down for that reason alone. Most girls just want you to be taller than them. Others want you taller than them in heels. But girls are flexible for the right guy. They just have their own superficial wants, just like guys do.

Everyone has a type.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, im only 5'2", i do prefer guys over 5'6" and my boyfriend now is 6', but really there aren't many guys below 5'6" so i don't really think of it as that much of a limitation but if you are shorter than that 5'6" i might struggle with it a little.

IceCubedude · Answer

i think they want someone whol will look taller or their height when tehy wear heels and looks manly to them, i was once talking to this girl who is barely 5ft tall and iam 6'2 she said thats way too tall for her, but it didn't stop her from talking to me anyway.

ChromAzonyx108 · Answer

Perhaps it's an evolutionary thing where they want to feel protected.
Or perhaps they think other body parts will be proportionate.

Either ways, people are entitled to their checklists even if it reduces their chances of finding love. A lot of people will eventually have to make trade-offs as it's unlikely they'll find anyone who meets all of their criteria.

Anonymous · Answer

Some do, I don't.

Some guys do too. I've had guys tell me they liked chicks who were shorter than me, and I'm only 5'7. And another guy who said he specifically preferred women precisely between 5'6-5'9.

People have all sorts of preferences. What's a deficit to one person will be nothing to another person and an attraction to yet another person.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

I don't know man, in my country people generally are not tall. People over 6' are pretty rare. Generally when choosing a partner girls just see whether the guy is relatively taller than her. I don't think in our country girl have such strict height level. But 99% of them definitely want their guys to be taller than them.

And personally as a guy, I want my girl (whenever I get a girl :P ) to be shorter than me. That's it. :)

Anonymous · Answer

the real question is why girls have strict height requirements for guys but when guys want a girl with small waist and a big ass or big boobs or a fit figure get shamed and called shallow? because you can always get fit and eat healthy and even get plastic surgery to make your ass and boobs better. but you can't get taller. literally the one thing that guys literally can't change about themselves and it so happens to be the girls main requirement. sigh... maybe we deserve trump.

Anonymous · Answer

Look. Being tall is an attractive attribute to a man near always.
Is it a requirement? Probably not.
You don't have to be smart or funny or good looking either. But you can bet your rear that if a girl gets to decide whatever she wants for her partner, she will add some variants of smart, funny, good looking and Tall to it.

Then how important it actually is goes from girl to girl.

Anonymous · Answer

Hmm, I've had two major crushes in the past where the guys were shorter than me by a couple inches. I always felt a bit bad about wearing heels around them so I wouldn't. However, one of them once asked why I never wear heels, and it surprised me a lot. He said he thinks it's incredibly sexy, and it reminded me that in the end, height isn't so important in relationships, it's just a small part of it :) I'm 5'7 and yeah, I don't care.

girlsaskguys7789 · Answer

Must be at least 6 inches taller than me so 5"11 and up only. I tried dating guys shorter than that and it bothered me so it is a requirement. Also, I like wearing heels sometimes and it would be awkward not to be at least the same height.

hazeleyes91 · Answer

I would say that some do and some don't. Most guys I liked were at least 6', but my husband is 5'9. If i would have let a height requirement of 6' get in the way, I would have been missing out that is for sure!

TheDevilInside · Answer

Again with the height whining... girls who. have strict requirements about height are not worth your time. Now don't make. me repeat that again.

MissIntrovert · Answer

For me height isn't a big deal. If a guy likes me and I find him attractive, that's all that matters. Heck, I'd think it's cute if a guy is shorter than me!

Jxpxtxr · Answer

Not a requirement but I'm 5'10 so I'd ideally like to date someone around 5'8"-6'2/3"

Najie_TooSweet · Answer

Yes for a girl thats 5'11 i can't go out with anybody below 5'7... its weird
I remember i had talk to a dude that was 5"3 but it never really got no where except us just constanly having sex... so yes the lowest i go is 5'7

Megabeauty · Answer

yeah I do. not into short guys. like not into fat guys. spirit shorter? yeah, he's gonna be friend zoned bc I won't find him attractive

jmr77 · Answer

Instinctually women want to feel safe, a bigger person than themselves adds to the sense of security. Not that it completely is determined by a man's size whether or not she feels safe, it plays a large role.

MercedesXx · Answer

Honestly, height doesn't matter that much. Granted, it's nice when they hug you that they can cover you, like a protective kind of thing. For me personally, he'd have to be around my height or taller, but I don't care if he's a couple inches shorter.

udolipixie · Answer

Do girls actually have height requirements?
Some gals do. No different than some guys have age, weight, and beauty requirements ir must be cute/pretty etc.

Height matters for some gals be it a status thing, protection emotion, or attraction.

LittleSally · Answer

Pretty sad... all guys seem to use this as an excuse to say: I'm lonely and mad at the world, but I'd never, for the life of me, approach any girl... in case she rejects me.

Anonymous · Answer

Im a bit submissive and it makes me feel weird when the guy Im with is a lot shorter than me. Im 170 cm, so I'd want guys who are at least 165 and preferably a bit taller than me. That's doable, right?

SweetHomicidalQueen · Answer

I dont have a preference. I love extreme height differences but I really dont care how tall or short someone is. If I want to date them its cause I want to date them, not their height.

dragonfly6516 · Answer

Ideal height: 6'3" My BF: 5'9" We all have preference, but when it comes down to it, I couldn't care less how he looks. I care about his character, his integrity, and how he treats me.

BlueJay26 · Answer

Yeaaa I don't usually care but I'm 5'7" so if I'm dating you and you're below the bra we might have a bit of a problem 😅 I wouldn't reject a short guy though.

MissDyno · Answer

Some girls prefer short or average guys. Majority of us just want someone who is taller than us. I'm five feet, so as long as you are taller than five feet, you passed the "height requirement" lol.

ADFSDF1996 · Answer

A lot of them want guys that are 6'2"-7'0".

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