THIS topic has a way of getting me all steamed up no matter how long and how often I've seen it come up. Women are so damned hell bent on height that it's not fair at all. Height is not a measurement on the quality of a man, nor is it an indication of how well a man can "protect" a woman(whatever that means). Unless a woman needs a taller man to show her how to rebound, it's a ridiculous criteria in sex and dating. Absurd. As you mentioned, there are many posts about the height of a man on this website alone and MOST of all the women expressed hardcore insistence of tall or nothing. Look at the dating websites, women will list their requirements in a man. The first thing listed is preferred height, usually around 6+feet.
It makes no sense that women can reject a man because he's not tall and expect us to just deal with it. In contrast, if a man rejects a woman based on her bra size, there will be the devil to pay! Stupid. Nevertheless, once a shorter man complains about it or face being labelled as having low self-esteem, lack of confidence or a loser. Contradiction.
Next to bullying, this is the biggest problem that short men have to face in the world, the dating. I used to count in college alone how many times women said no to me(quite rudely I might add) based on my diminuative stature, ALL short men do. Shallow.
Is there any hope for the god-forsaken? Legal prostitution, at least the women in this industry don't say no. If you find this unacceptable, good luck with whatever method you wish to try. I wish the best for you95 Reply- +1 y
Next to racism, it burns me up how women reject me. I would like to think that it no longer bothers me but sometimes, the sparks do fly no matter how hard I try to just 'let it go.' MY problem is a multitude of things: Short, mixed-black, old, not rich, overweight(but slimming down), and nice guy. Oh well, sucks to be me. At least I still have Canada...HAHAHAHAHAHA...er...um...
Oh boy
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I have read this question like a 100 times and to be honest I am sure lucky to be 5'10 even though it is just average, I still get changed for somebody who is 6'2 every now and then. Sorry for you man, but it seems girls DO care a lot about height. I guess what you should do is to get a great personality you know and if girls reject you, its probably because they were not good women in the first place, at least you know that if a girl wants to date you, she does it because of what you have inside and not your looks. Good luck.
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- Anonymous(30-35)+1 y
i think height is important. he needs to be much taller, not simply taller than me. a guy who is 5'5'' is taller than me and I definitely wouldn't go with him because he's too short.
men pay attention to a variety of physical things on a womans body, and girls do as well and height is part of your body, so its just another preference.
some girls don't mind it. I personally have only ever dated guys at least 5'10/5'11. I didn't notice it at first that I tend to go for the really tall guys but eventually I just accepted that its my preference.00 Reply
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im 5"6 which probaly isn't that tall but I used to be very emberassed by my height just because I've been that tall since 4th grade but then I realized that some otf the most beautiful women in the world are pretty tall like tyra banks, angelina jolie, supermodel are also tall so I just learned to accept it. I would rather be tall than short though
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short girls are hotter sorry to break it to you
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oh well that's your opinion
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No they’re not! 5’6 is perfect!
Hey it's not that. We prefer we are more attracted to, that's just it. Like guys prefer a thin girl than a fat one, or a pretty girl than an ugly one.That's just this height it's an important thing on guys...But that doesn't mean a short guy is less attractive than a tall man, but usually they have to try harder...
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It's not the same. One can do something about their weight, but not their height.








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Well I am 5'3 so I would want a guy taller than me but not a giant of 6ft. Just a reasonably height of 5'5 to 5'10. Just so I could wear heels and not feel obligated to wear flats.=) but if he is short and cute I'd take him just the ways he is and probably have to throw away my heels.
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your a perfect girlfriend :)
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Not trying to stir anything up, but I don't get the women who say they have to stop wearing heels with a guy within an inch of their height. I appreciate you don't mind his height, but I don't really get why you'd still have to discard your heels if you don't mind.
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Well...I prefer taller guys. I guess it's because they're more cuddly, they have those big bear arms and give you huge bear hugs where you can get lost in. They engulf you with their body literally...which is comforting and adorable. And I simply feel safer with a bigger man next to me. And I don't like the sun so he keeps me in shade too... Haha =
10 Reply its EXTREMELY important to me. I'm pretty tall for a girl(im 5'7) and in heels I'm 5'10 -5'11 I want my man to be at least 4 inches taller than me in heels. short men turn me off completely! its honestly a HUGE deal breaker. I guy can have all the qualities I like in a man but I will not date him or even give him a chance if he's under 6'3
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@jacksparrow55
At least she is honest...I have a few physical dealbreakers myself, and I know you do too. - +1 y
The thing is guys care a lot about how pretty a girl's face is, and since your face is most likely ugly, the wouldn't give you the light of day.
Your understanding was correct before. We want you to be taller than us. In the backs of our minds your height indicates health and the ability to protect us.
What alternative version of thinking were you lead to?015 Reply- +1 y
Did I say it was a concious thought process? Women in general all have something that makes them feel vulnerable. It may be the spider in the corner or the ex that used to beat them. For me its the stress of math tests. Regardless one of the reasons we keep you guys around is to make us feel safe, "protected".
I don't feel that the height of any human being has an impact on the ability to fight only the range they possess. - +1 y
Allow me to rephrase the health bit. If you are tall we assume you have good genetic material. And though it may not be the first thought that pops into our heads, when we look for men we are looking for the father of our future children (that we want the best for). Now why do we assume the tall guys has better genetic material? Because as a species we keep getting taller over time. Or maybe we instictually chose to mate with taller men producing the prior statement.
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just because someone is tall doesn't mean they have good genetics but most women aren't smart enough to realize that so I see your point
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No tall doesn't mean someone has good genetics but generally in those cases where it doesn't there are other physically evident factors that contribute to the assesment of that person's genetics. (obviously not at an actually genetic level but how they are percieved) Since you chose to ask about an individual factor I made generalizations.
Keep in mind. This is not a thought process we work through on an intellectual level. We form opinons on physical appearance within seconds of meeting. - Asker+1 y
so short guys are f***ed within seconds, good to know
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6ft ?
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thats not short lol
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look at the links cyrus gave down below and read the girls answers, and then tell me that
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You should have said "it's not a deciding factor" in your first post, since your first post makes it look like it is a deciding factor (i. e. the words "We want you to be taller than us.") and attraction is all about what both partners 'want".
i don't even look at short men. I know its a bad thing but I am shallow at least I admit it. I would not be able to date a guy that is the same height as me. I'm 5'3, so ..pretty short :) so ITS NOT THAT BADDD I'm already short so w/e
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5'7"
Not all girls care about height, I've even messed around with girls who were taller than me, and dated one who was taller. However, some do care about height. It's called preference.
Some girls are snobby/rude about it, and that's why they're a big old bag of dick nuggets. Same for guys who are rude to fat girls, or flat chested girls.00 Reply Yea they do, they all prefer taller (even the short ones), and its probably my main issue/obstacle in attracting girls
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You know, one day you'll probably eventually learn that it was never your height which gave such poor success with the ladies, and it was your lack of confidence all along. When that day comes, you won't spend two seconds remembering all the people here who tried to tell you that. Instead, you'll be spending all your time regretting that you let the best years of your life, and the years of peak sexual drive, get wasted because you refused to listen, and blamed something beyond your control.
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Well I personally do not care whatsoever. Like I was reading these opinions from girls and I was shoooocked - wtf I cannot take this amount of shallowness lol sorry. I do admit that it's a bonus but it doesn't change a damn thing. OK thnx for reading :) lotta love xx
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Well, I've had the hots for a short guy before, but I didn't really care for his height. I just cared for his sweetness and his sense of humor. In fact, I never really thought about his height until now x3
11 Reply i personally would find it awkward to date someone who is over 6'0" becuase I'm only 5'1" but height is not a major contributing factor to me.
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I like guys to be taller than me but not too tall as I'm quite petite. I'm only 5ft so I like men about 5'6 to 5'10. I'll never men who are about 6ft though, too tall for me and would look silly x
10 Reply I'm personally a very small girl, 5"2 and I'm obsessed with men being tall. I love 6" and above. I like the feeling of being protected and I like fitting into that person just right.
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what happenes if u date someone and they start abusing you? how will u be protected then?
As much as I wish I don't want a guy to be taller than me, I still do.
But a little bit shorter or same height doesn't bother me. But I' m tall - 5ft10, so it's difficult.00 Reply- +1 y
Yeah a 6ft guy would be great, but its not something
I focus on with a guy, I just prefer him to at least
be taller than me. Everyone has their own preferences
so I can only speak for myself.00 Reply - +1 y
It depends on the girl: some girls have height standards, most girls are like me and just want him to be taller.
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It's no different than wanting a fit girl over an overweight girl.
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How tall are you?
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It is different. You are stuck with your height for life, but weight is something a girl can control if she does the right things.
- Anonymous(30-35)+1 y
As long as he has the personality and intelligence, I personally wouldn't care if the guy I date is short or tall, hot or below average looking...Doesn't matter.
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I don't know, I would be lying if I said it didn't matter to me...
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Unfortunately for you, looks matter a lot to guys, and since you're not that good looking... well, you do the math.
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@TheHusband it's okay, as long as the man that I like finds me attractive, which he does, and I find him attractive which I do, I 'm happy 😊
You must be a short guy. - +1 y
@TheHusband angry dude with insecurity around height and women
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@wegetalittletipsy haha indeed :x
- Anonymous(30-35)+1 y
I don't really care about height. I mean, I'm like 5' 1", so it's probably an assumption that the guy is going to be the taller one. And I don't car if that's 5' 5" or 6 ft.
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Since I'm only 4'11 I would have to go with taller. I really don't know any guys that are that short.
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im 4 11 and a half
I also have been rejected too many times because of my short height. We all have preferences, I understand that. I know women like tall guys. I'm not just tall enough to make any woman to feel secure, comfort or feminine.
00 ReplyGirls care more about height that most straight men care about women's looks.
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doesn't matter if you're not a midget and have a good personality
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what do you consider a midget?
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<5;5
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what the hell ? 5'5 and under is midget ? are you retarded haha
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obviously it's not the medical definitely. but you're smart enough to figure that out right?
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so how tall are you ?
Yes tall! Trust me you can have an ugly face but still get girls with your height. Especially if you dress well.
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no its the fact that you said you can get girls with your height
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no, short
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I'll give you a thumbs up just for being honest.
But height does play into attraction...it's wired biologically...it's not a switch people can just turn off. - +1 y
Nope, an ugly face is usually too much to overcome. An ugly guy can mostly only get a girl who is also ugly, or average at best.
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Most dateable girls care about height.
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nothing less than 6'0.
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how tall are you?
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im 5'7 that's why hah I'm sure shorter girls don't have that same expectation though..all girls want is for you to be taller than her
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except you probably aren't good at gauging height, like most girls. someone could be a couple inches shorter than 6'0 and you'd still think they're that height. remember that facial beauty is important to guys, and chances are you aren't that good looking, so many guys wouldn't date you.
5'6 is where it's at lol
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