Dudes: Would you date a medical student / doctor?

Question

So there are some pros and cons to this.

Pros:
1. she's probably not a total dumbass
2. has great earning potential

Cons:
1. not too much free time, especially during training years
2. might earn more than you... potentially threatening?

I'm beginning to think that perhaps my line of work is a deterrent for guys. Lol. Which is just great. :p

jp612612 · Accepted Answer

From the questions on here, I think that women are way into this idea of being "threatening" or "intimidating". No guy who has a decent career is going to be threatened by a successful woman because guys who make a lot of money have a lot of goals and dreams and having a partner who can actually contribute in a meaningful manner is helpful. And I'm not talking about cooking meals and cleaning the house. I can do that myself or I can hire a maid to come in once a week to do that. I'm talking about really helping career-wise so that our timeline towards financial independence is accelerated.

The way I see it, the woman having a great education puts more pressure on her to actually perform. My ex-wife has a Ph. D. in Biomolecular Engineering from UCLA and she works as a senior scientist doing blah blah blah. I thought it was great and all, but the truth is, she's been laid off from her job twice in the last four years. The second time was in the midst of our ugly divorce and she had the nerve to call me to tell me how she was canned and wanted to know if I'd be willing to cancel the divorce and get back together. What? I told her she needs to get out there and get a job as soon as possible because we were on course for $200k+ in legal fees.

And that's the thing -- even though she was basically my ex-wife at that point, I was still irked that she was potentially putting us in a position where we'd have to liquidate even more assets. So, I think you need to think about the other side when you ask this question. When a guy marries a doctor, he also has some expectations and I know for me, the expectation was not that she would spend like a drunken sailor and end up pulling unemployment checks every couple years. I expected our savings, investment, and retirement accounts to grow at a certain rate and in all honesty, when I really break it down, you could argue that the reason why I filed for divorce was because she couldn't live up to those expectations.

Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

Threatening? Hmmm... here we go again. Honey, guys are not threatened or intimidated by anything a woman does. Unless you're actually going to kicks his ass. Then he might feel threatened or intimidated. Irritated, annoyed, disgusted, disrespected, or even patient, tolerant, respectful? Sure. Just not threatened.

See here's the thing, guys are not impressed with all that smarts and effort and all that as much as YOU are. I'm not saying they're not impressed or don't think you should, or are even happy for you that you're successful. It's what I tell young people to do - go for it, make it big.

But both genders are really about what you bring to a relationship for them. What of high value do you bring to a guy? Is he the most important thing to you? Probably not - your career is more important. It has to be more than just a vagina. Especially if that gets weaponized. Will you cook for him? Entertain him somehow? Go on trips with him? Challenge him mentally? That ought'a be a good one. What do you bring that is high value?

A girl can do it, but she needs to use her smarts on how to do it. There's a recent book out I thought was apropos in these types of situation, recommendation and comment here about how simple men really are, and how you can make a man-woman relationship work even if you're a alpha, go-getter woman:
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a34931-men-are-simple-not-stupid-an-alpha-woman-is-always-gonna-butt

coachTanthony · Answer

Probably not... I have never found a doctor that was personally interesting. Smart maybe but lacking a personality for the most part. Sorry.. I am sure not all docs are like this but the ones I have met are.

MrMysteryMan · Answer

Earning more than me is not a plus? Fuck, then I wouldn't have to work as hard or as many hours. Our finances would have no worries with both incomes. Our kids would be WELL OFF. You being a doctor, our kids would be WELL taken care of. You may have demands, but you probably appreciate coming home to someone you have an escape with, more so than most I would imagine. I could be the best stress relief for you. Also, most doctors and medical women (I've experienced this first hand being a porter at a hospital for a while) are very sexual and not reserved to delve into the naughty realms of inhibitions. I like that. No way, there's nothing but PLUS PLUS PLUS being lucky enough to date a high professional.

BluesBoy · Answer

Add to the list of pros :

3. she can prescribe you some exams quickly whenever you fuck yourself up in training
4. potential access to pharma grade test whenever you decide to go to the dark side :p

Concerning the cons, if the doc goes out with someone of the same level studies then they disappear since 1° he will not have much free time too 2° the earnings will be on par (I'm a lawyer, believe me on those two)

That being said, I never understood why someone earning more than you is threatening as long as you earn enough to be independant.

TripleAce · Answer

Every medical student likes to boast about being a medical student by saying random things like they are too busy to date or that their line of work will scare off guys

1. If you really are studying to be a medical doctor you'd know that is simply not true. In Fact many doctors have happy marriages and great relationships
2. The cons make no sense: busy during their training years? A total of 2-3 years or maybe 5 if they specialize, yea and that ratio of how many happy years of marriage is a tiny fraction
3. A women earning too much is never a issue if she knows how to share like a good girlfriend

GraveTruth · Answer

No women in the medical field is even going to fart in the direction of anyone except some lawyer or doctor.

I wouldn't even bother trying. Actually, I have a huge thing for this Hygienist. I earn about 10X what they do but it's far too much of a professional career for me to mess with.
Man she's beautiful...

Levin · Answer

Well, all doctors are different right?

But given my interest in 'alternative therapies' and my distaste for conventional medicine in many scenarios, I'm fairly sure we'd grate on each other :)

Also, to most peoples' eyes, I'm a bum. So, I don't think she'd date me.

And yeah, I guess it is important to have enough 'energy' for each other. Do you think that would not be possible? I suppose you could retire at 50 or something :P

In short, highly unlikely.

Purpleronnie · Answer

I think a lot of guys might be put off by the cons you gave but I think that's a positive. I'm put off by nothing if I like a girl and want to get to know her. But then I'm an intelligent guy in a demanding role that I love which commands a great salary. Maybe the answers to this question are just as important as would you date a guy who is less intelligent with loads of free time and in an un-skilled role with limited earning potential? ;)

Mynameisnottolong · Answer

It makes for great doctor role play ;) but yea I think it would be nice and I don't care if my wife/gf made more than me so long as we had money, food, and a house, cause you know struggling ain't fun. Another bonus is when you aren't feeling well maybe you can diagnose your future bf/husband. Not being a dumbass doesn't suck, not being around her enough can suck. Just be patient... LMAO!!!

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I would date a doctor. I work in medical so I'd understand her "shop talk". (Although I am not a physician.) I did date a woman medical student when I was in my last year of college. Not for very long. She had sex with one of my fellow students. But that's a different story, and she was a bit crazy... LOL... Other than that I'd consider it absolutely.

TheBootyChest · Answer

Thoughts on your pros:
1) Doesn't matter if she is smarter than me. I hope she realizes I might not be on the same intellectual level.
2) I will support her decision to go as high as she can go in this field.

Cons:
1) If you can give me a fair portion of your free time I would be okay with it.
2) I don't care who makes the money as long as we are happy and have our heads up the financial waves.

likitb4istickit · Answer

Meh. Trying to date a doctor or specialized surgeon that's always on call (I wasn't always a shriveled-up old loser) is about as fun as a long distance relationship. That is, it sucks. You generally seldom see each other to do anything together. Forget making plans, they will either get cancelled or interrupted far more often than not.

rcm1ah · Answer

NO. It does me absolutely not good if she is a medical student and ugly. In fact, I don't give a shit if she has great earning potential (they're really not earning, because they join the labor force at a late age and still have to pay off debt; an electrical or petro engineer would earn more), I doubt most guys care about earning potential. Guys want an attractive girl who he can be himself with. I personally don't give a shit if she's a medical student.

cth96190 · Answer

A female doctor would be at the top of my wish list of potential mates, because I want children who are physically attractive AND intelligent.
The breeding of people is subject to the same laws of genetics as is the breeding of all other animals.
We should take even greater care with the genetic selection of our own mates as we do with the breeding of our livestock.

RedThread · Answer

Sure if she didn't have an issue dating me as a computer science student lol. I'm not threatened by a woman who earns more than me either. My self-worth as a man isn't reliant on my income. I'd respect the hard work and discipline it takes to pursue something like that too. I don't know if I would be capable of it. It's not that I'm mentally deficient or anything but I don't think I'd have the tenacity for that.

ACrazyHaggis · Answer

sure we could have an interesting conversation about some of the forms of physical adaptations due to things such as work out routines, dietary and maybe other forms of effects on the biological functions within the human body

could probably help me gain more in depth knowledge to also help me improve in training efficiency in some way to :D

Anonymous · Answer

I have dated a medical student briefly and she ended up being a sociopath and used me as a rebound.

Not that there is any correlation between that and her being a medical student. That's just my experience with dating a medical student.

I was just shocked because at first she seemed really cool and then ended up being super childish and manipulative. You'd think someone going to school studying prostate cancer would be more mature.

matheus_mb · Answer

Sure, why not? Medical students aren't really the only ones who don't have time and I don't mind if she makes more money than me (come on, this is the 21st century).

FakeName123 · Answer

Depends on where her priorities are after she gets her degree. There are ways of being a doctor where you have reasonable work-time and ways where you don't. If her priorities are solely on her career, then it's a dealbreaker.

clever_seeker · Answer

Im so biased on this. From what i've learned, unless you two are just shagging all is good. To get serious with someone who is always knee deep in work and not... well you. nah to backfires at steak.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

I don't know about dating but if I get to know her a lot before deciding to go on dates and I get to like her then I think I could tolerate these cons of your's.

ShortCircuit · Answer

I would be very hesitant, purely because of the 1st con. However, I'm not going to say that it's a downright deal breaker.

Hans222 · Answer

If the click is there, of course! And you know, if you both have little time and it costs more effort to see each other, that makes it even nicer :D

kambo_trick3y · Answer

Would totally go on a date with you Kara 😊, I'm thinkiiiing, Zelda music concert and then ice cream?

Bluemax · Answer

I know I'm not your target demographic. However when I was your age, I *TOTALL* would date a med student.

CapnHawk · Answer

I was madly in love with a doctor. However, the relationship failed when she decided it was beneath her dignity to marry a firefighter.

medieval · Answer

Nothing more sexy than a strong independent woman. Those with self confidence issues may disagree though.

llorando · Answer

Real question is would a medical student/doctor date me? Which would be a big fat NO. So I wouldn't date a medical student/doctor since they wouldn't date me.

Sovereignty · Answer

Saves me the long ass wait times of Canadian emergency centers- free band-aids bitches.

WalterRadio · Answer

I in fact have dated medical students, doctors, lawyers, and PhD students.

AleDeEurope · Answer

I would try, but the lack of free time may be a problem :/

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