Girls, would you date a non confrontational guy?

[Anonymous]

Not to say he's a pushover or anything but, just doesn't like confrontations and wants to avoid them.

[mmmbdison]

I think it depends on the girls personality. And the severity of it, avoiding is kind of a lot. If we're talking just not being involved in unnecessary drama with friends or gossip, yeah, totally wouldn't mind it. I'd love that. A good taste of what's important and what's not.

There are some people who naturally walk away from situations thinking it's none of their business and the problem will comb itself out. I know, my family is like that. But I would want someone who, like me, knows when a situation is wrong and is capable of speaking their mind and helping others, regardless of what sticky situation it'll get them in.

I went on a date with a guy, super quiet but respectful and intelligent, who got so upset at me for speaking up when a woman as mad-dogging and making snide comments about a mother and her crying infant outside of a restaurant.

Maybe guys like him work with girls who don't speak up in situations either. But I wouldn't be with someone who allowed rude things to happen and didn't speak their mind when it was necessary (like defending someone).

[Anonymous]

When problems happen in a relationship, people need to be able to be mature about it and face the problem. If he is always avoiding it, it gets annoying. I doubt you can 100% avoid all conflict, because all healthy relationships have them. This is why many people think young people (ex. students in Jr. high) shouldn't be in a relationship. They don't know how to react in certain situations and they are not mature enough. Grown ups don't have this rule, and I think they should own up and take responsibility.

[Nyx_85]

I don't see why not as long as he is able to handle the important stuff. I mean if he runs away from ANY sort of conflict that is off putting because people like that are hard to trust. But nobody wants to date someone that is always getting into or causing drama.

[Fitness-Fanatic]

Yes I would.

It's confrontational type of people I avoid. Some people thrive on confrontation, but I don't get drawn in by them. I just ignore them coz they intentionally antagonize people so they can have a heated argument They love to " fight" but it's coz they are at "war"within themselves. They have no self- control , which is a huge turn off

[peachblossomluck]

My friend's husband is like that but it gets unhealthy like he hides things because he does not want to be confronted with them. She had to take total control of the finances because he wasn't being honest (too timid) and putting the whole family in bankruptcy. They almost lost their house. He's the sweetest guy otherwise, a great husband to her, faithful, kind, supportive, a good mate in every other way, good to the kids.

[mermaid175]

I think knowing when it is and isn't appropriate to address confrontations is the most important thing tbh. you need someone who isn't afraid to call you on your crap but also willing to let little, irrelevant stuff go

[Asker]

Yeah I get what you mean.

[depeche2015]

yeah fights are annoying and stress me out. so i'd be fine with that. unless he didn't fight over something worth fighting over for than that could be annoying if he showed no emotion and it seemed he didn't care.

[fragilebird]

It depends. I'm too confrontational so it can actually be good. However, if he can't stand up for himself or even acknowledge who he is, then no, I could never date him...

[Asker]

Is it bad if he let's things slide sometimes? I don't know the best way to describe this but, I have a habit of letting things slide sometimes. Not to say I'm a pushover because I'm not but sometimes I'm just not in the mood to confront anything or don't want to deal with it and I say screw it and let it go by. Is that bad?

[fragilebird]

It depends. What kind of things would that be?

[Asker]

Like if some guy flipped me off on the road, or I overhear people talking bad about me behind my back, or not listening to what I'm saying, or trying to avoid a fist fight because I'm afraid of losing. That stuff.

[fragilebird]

I think all of that is okay. I wouldn't mind. As long as it doesn't concern the relationship...

[tinkerfail]

yup, >.>.. then again confrontation brings up some pretty bad anxiety for me so I avoid it like the plague any how

[Anonymous]

Yeah, as long as he would be willing to stick up for me if someone was trying to hurt me, I have no problem with a non confrontational guy. I'd definitely prefer him over a guy who goes around looking for a fight all the time.

[notaguy1999]

it would be okay for a while, but fighting is a way to sort shit out. If you get rid of that, it means bottling everything up.

[Asker]

Maybe he could let it all out in private.

[reixun]

Nooooo, I'm super confrontational. I find it hot to get my ass handed to me

[Asker]

I've seen you around before and I can see you have an intense desire to be manhandled in and out the sack. Am I right?

[reixun]

Well yeah, only by a boy who l trust though

[Asker]

Well that makes sense. What do you want him to do to you? If you don't mind me asking.

[birdsandflies]

yes nothing wrong with being non confrontational, i'm like that too it's all good

[Asker]

Nice.

[writing_essays]

Definitely. I don't like guys with bad attitudes or are controlling / possessive.

[rgb008]

No lol
I am very confrontational when I'm in a relationship.
If he is not as well, it will be a bad mix hahah

[lucius46ad]

You must be a lot of fun.

[rgb008]

@lucius46ad I am. Thanks for the down vote xoxox

[Asker]

So you're afraid you're gonna scare him?

[Bex134]

Yes I would as long as he can stick up for himself when he needs to

[Asker]

That sounds reasonable.

[Anonymous]

No way. If there's any sort of tension or conflict (at least a big one) I'd like to know how we can work it out together. otherwise it'll feel like a big elephant in the room. in the end both parties grow from it too, I think.

[Asker]

I can agree with that since communication is important, but what about outside the relationship? Like I'm talking about if someone said something bad about him behind his back or some drunk guy at the bar said something smart and he just said whatever and ignored it?

[Opinion Owner]

ah I see, well if he thinks nothing of it then great. I suppose it doesn't matter then lol

[karahiri]

Not sure tbh.

[Asker]

You think he wouldn't defend you?

[Tanairy328]

Sure i would

[pooper89]

No I wouldn't

[Asker]

Why? I'm just wondering.

[pooper89]

I'm confrontational. If something is bothering me I'll say something. I can't stand people who won't talk about stuff

[Asker]

I can understand that, but what about the type of confrontations that could possibly lead to violence?

[pooper89]

I wouldn't date a guy who would hit a woman

[pooper89]

But if another guy approaches me in front of him, I'd expect him to tell that guy off