Is it wrong of me that I don't want to date bisexual girls?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who i thought was a lesbian until yesterday she confessed to me that she has had a crush on me and wants me to ask her out, i told her i thought she liked girls and she responded by saying she is bisexual and likes girl and boys both, I calmly turned her down and said i wouldn't be comfortable dating anyone other then a completely straight girl, she got offended and told me and said I'm and asshole for discriminating. Do you think i'm in the wrong for having a preference of straight girls over bisexuals?

[proserpina]

It's okay to have preferences. I won't date short men or thin men. What isn't okay is how you addressed the situation. Bisexual people face a huge issue with being hated and erased by other members of the LGBT+ community. It's a highly misunderstood sexuality, and they're always being told "you're confused" or "you're just greedy" or being accused of wanting to cheat on their partner with a member of the same gender. Not all bisexuals-in fact, I don't know a single bisexual that this applies to-expect constant threesomes or want to have numerous partners. That would generally be considered being polyamorous, and that is entirely separate from sexuality. You should have just told her that you wanted to maintain a friendship and that you didn't feel that way towards her. If you were a black man and asked me out and I said "No, sorry, I don't feel comfortable dating black people." How would you feel? It was just an unnecessary comment and you could have easily avoided any issue by not bringing up your preferences. That being said, I won't tell you that your preference is wrong, but I think it is probably rooted in insecurity whether you realize it or not. There is nothing about anyone's sexuality that dictates their loyalty or relationship compatibility. I could easily say that I would never date a straight man because they aren't trustworthy and are probably chatting up other girls while I'm dating them. I could say I wouldn't date a lesbian because she's probably going to find a hotter woman than me and leave me for her. Straight people are not inherently more loyal to their partner, straight people can be just as interested as threesomes and have just as many kinks as a bisexual or gay individual. Still, it's your preference. Just consider the fact that you're widely limiting the population of women that you would give a chance to, and if someone was your absolute dream girl and then you found out that she was bisexual so you cut contact, that would be your loss and not hers.

[Asker]

This isn't about bisexuals not being loyal or anything, it's just that i'm not attracted to women who are attracted to women. If me and some girl were two last people on the earth and she told me she's bisexual then i wouldn't have sex with her or lose all attraction for her even though the chances of her being disloyal to me are literally none. Its not at all about me being scared of her leaving me for another women.

[proserpina]

Honestly... that makes absolutely no sense whatsoever. But, whatever floats your boat dude.

[Asker]

I don't know why some bisexual girls think that any straight guy would be ok with their sexuality and if he isn't he's automatically insecure.

[proserpina]

What about a woman being interested in another woman being such a turn off to you that if you were the last people on Earth you would let the human race die out because you didn't want to have sex with a perfectly normal person isn't deeply rooted in a personal insecurity?

[Anon1256]

@prosperina He can choose what we wants, he has preferences. if he wants to have a perfectly straight girl, he can.

[Anon1256]

@proserpina he can choose to date, you're not his mother. If he wants a perfectly straight girl, he can. I want a perfectly straight girl and I'm not going to stick my penis into anything until I found one.

[proserpina]

You're right, I'm not his mother. If I was I wouldn't have raised him to be so shallow.

[Anon1256]

Thank God you're not; if you were, I'm sure he wouldn't appreciate you as a mother who brings women along, not only men.

[proserpina]

Yes, because children are often involved in the sexual exploits of their mothers.

[Anon1256]

He would know better once he grew up, kids are only immature up until age 13.

[Anon1256]

when kids are 13 or 14, they can legally choose to live with their mother or father and if you and his father are divorced, he can choose to live with his father because of your disgusting gayness.

[Anon1256]

No one will support your ugly, wrinkling, old gayness once you reach seniorhood.

[proserpina]

Lmfao, troll.

[Anon1256]

I'm serious, even 7 year old are able to tell what's right or wrong. Who the hell wants 2 moms?

[proserpina]

There's literally nothing wrong with being gay. Children are only TAUGHT to think that there is by homophobic trash that parents them.

[Anon1256]

Actually, little kids 7,8,9 years olds are old enough to know right from wrong but aren't mentally mature to make the decision. I have experienced it myself because up until aged 9, I started to know my father was an asshole but I didn't act on it up until age 13 and I haven't seen him since then. My point is kids are a lot smarter than you think they are. It doesn't really matter if you're the mother or the father, they have mind of their own. They can actually tell what's right from wrong. You can't see because you don't have kids.

[Anon1256]

I know, why don't you come out of the closet then?

[proserpina]

I know that children know right from wrong. I was 5 years old when I had my father arrested. Children are intelligent. But there isn't anything wrong with being gay, and children aren't born thinking that there is. It isn't until parents express that they should believe something like that is wrong that they attach to the idea. I don't have kids, and I don't want kids.

[proserpina]

Come out of the closet?

[Anon1256]

My parents never told me anything about gayness or bisexuality, I know I wouldn't date a bisexual because it's a natural feeling. I am not turned on by women licking vagina; I have watched lesbian porn and I wasn't hard, I was more limpy than erect. This is why I don't date bi girls and I wouldn't ever. Sorry no sorry, I couldn't see myself dating a bisexual girl.

[proserpina]

Date who you want, whatever, this all started because you poor men were too defensive about me calling you insecure.

[KindaAsocial123]

Yeah it's also my question. Just because minority of the perverted guys fetishize their sexuality doesn't mean majority want to date them.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the reason. I mean it'd be pretty hard to tell if she was cheating or flirting cause she could cheat on you with anybody. Knowing so many people are judging you because your bi it really stressful. Most of bi people are a little over emotional about things like that. It might be best to explain you just don't feel comfortable with it. by the way i'm not bi but one of my close friends is.

[TechnoGirl]

Uhm.. i can understand both situations. You didn't need to mention 'only dating straight girls' that it kinda offending even from my point of view.
But your not wrong to tell her that either, maybe you should've turned her down nicely. And im the same, i only date straight men.

[Asker]

What do you identify as yourself?

[TechnoGirl]

Straight.
If they still dont undertand that then i'll say. "I have a very high interest in men or, i have no interest in women"

[Asker]

Is there a reason you prefer straight dudes over bi?

[TechnoGirl]

Its just.. bi guys, they like both men and women. I can never put myself at ease. What if he catches feelings for his best guy friend? What if he stops liking me and leaves me for another girl? Its not that im insecure or dont trust him. Its really not him, its his friends.
So, at least when im with a straight dude. I dont have to be so worried that he'll like someone else. because well, his friends are boys.. that'll never happen.

[Asker]

Exactly

[TechnoGirl]

Were you trying to prove something?

[Anon1256]

@TechnoGirl I'm with you, I have the same exact mentality as you when it comes to bisexuality. I'll have to ask a lot of those same exact questions you've said in your recent comment. I can't stand dating a bi girl, I wouldn't ever date one.

[Anon1256]

I couldn't date one, oh god I'd be very insecure. It's a major turn off.

[LesterJester]

We'll first it isn't discrimination... You have every right to pick and choose who you are interested in regardless of reason. You're not a store refusing service to a customer ffs.

What is she going to do, complain to the police about discrimination and force you to date her?

She was upset and wasn't expecting that kind of response, I get that, but she went overboard calling discrimination. You like what you like and you don't what you don't in a partner.

If you don't like that she also likes girls, that's your business.

[Bandit74]

Your only mistake was being honest and telling her that the reason you rejected her was because she was bisexual. You should have just made up a different reason for rejecting her like saying she's like a sister to you or that you wouldn't want to risk losing her as a friend.

Same thing goes for sexual history. If you think a girl has slept around and you dont want to date her because of that you should make up a different reason.

[Anon1256]

Straight girls would do the same as well with bi men.

[cavmanier]

Would you be an asshole for not dating a man children or senior citizens? Preference is okay. I can also understand you would rather have a girl attracted to you and not a genders form that you don't resemble. That's totally logical I m o.

[KindaAsocial123]

Nope you are not wrong. It's OK to have a preference. I am also straight guy and I only prefer completely straight woman. I don't prefer bisexual woman. Just because I don't prefer bisexual women doesn't mean that I am taking away their rights. There is nothing wrong to be bisexual. It's they who they are. Bisexuals should have respect on our preferences instead of getting upset. I don't understand why do some bisexual women assume that all straight guys are OK with their sexuality? Just because minority of perverted guys fetishize their sexuality doesn't mean majority will date them.

[Listening5]

Its not wrong.
You are free to date whoever you want.
Its not discriminating, everyone has their preference, what they like and dont like. I wouldn't date a bisexual woman either, its not what Im into.
I prefer straight women.

[Listening5]

I also give you props for being honest, well done. Honesty is very important.

[SkeletonStardust]

I don't see anything wrong with your preference. I wouldn't date a bisexual guy either. I don't know why some bisexual girls think that any straight guy would be ok with their sexuality.

[Tanairy328]

No, your preferences is no one else's business. People need to understand that just because you won't date them doesn't mean you hate them or are trying to somehow take their rights away.

[KindaAsocial123]

Yeah bisexuals should understand this.

[Anonymous]

No of course not. That is what you prefer and are attracted to. There is nothing wrong with that and it should be respected. It's not like you are discriminating against bi people. I'm bisexual myself and yeah ya can't blame a guy for that.

[rgb008]

No.
You can turn down someone for what ever reason you see fit.

[Rissyanne]

I dont blame you... I wouldn't go out with a bisexual.

[Kroakies_krickees]

No. There's absolutely nothing wrong with preferring straight girls.

[Anonymous]

It's your preference dude. I wouldn't date a bisexual either since sooner or later, she's gonna want to go with girl. The majority of guys who love bi girls are either pervs, freaks, beta male cucks, and fuckboys that want to have a three way. Besides, the majority of bisexuals prefer women, so there's gonna be a good chance she'll be sexually unsatisfied. She's gonna have to deal with it since not everybody is gonna want to date a bisexual.

[KindaAsocial123]

And just because of those perverted guys, bisexual women assume that we are OK with their sexuality which is totally false.

[Anonymous]

You are not alone. I hate bi girls

[Asker]

Good shit brother.

[Opinion Owner]

If they are bi then why do the choose men as their potential partner

[WhiteMason98]

No, it's not wrong. I wouldn't date a bi-girl either.

[RationalMale]

See, she confused "asshole" with "man who has common sense."

[TWinchester]

No, I think you are totally justified. Just like I wouldn't want to date a bisexual guy. It's just your preference, and you've got a right to it; it's not discriminating.

[Anon1256]

I wouldn't, I'd tell her to get lost and find someone who's more open minded than me.

[Anon1256]

To answe your question, It's ok to have a preference.

[Anon1256]

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[Anonymous]

I exclusively date lesbians. That way I won't risk getting any STDs. :) :P

[Anonymous]

you need to ask her if she prefers women or men, and if you'd be her second option..

basically, if she'd be settling for you, or not

[Chickengirl2001]

No, of course not. You can't help what your into

[Kitten967]

No, it's fine to have a preference

[Anonymous]

honestly I think bisexual girls are gross for me to date so your not alone

[Blonde401]

People who don't know the difference between your and you're are gross TBH.