Is it wrong of me that I don't want to date bisexual girls?

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I have a friend who i thought was a lesbian until yesterday she confessed to me that she has had a crush on me and wants me to ask her out, i told her i thought she liked girls and she responded by saying she is bisexual and likes girl and boys both, I calmly turned her down and said i wouldn't be comfortable dating anyone other then a completely straight girl, she got offended and told me and said I'm and asshole for discriminating. Do you think i'm in the wrong for having a preference of straight girls over bisexuals?

proserpina · Accepted Answer

It's okay to have preferences. I won't date short men or thin men. What isn't okay is how you addressed the situation. Bisexual people face a huge issue with being hated and erased by other members of the LGBT+ community. It's a highly misunderstood sexuality, and they're always being told "you're confused" or "you're just greedy" or being accused of wanting to cheat on their partner with a member of the same gender. Not all bisexuals-in fact, I don't know a single bisexual that this applies to-expect constant threesomes or want to have numerous partners. That would generally be considered being polyamorous, and that is entirely separate from sexuality. You should have just told her that you wanted to maintain a friendship and that you didn't feel that way towards her. If you were a black man and asked me out and I said "No, sorry, I don't feel comfortable dating black people." How would you feel? It was just an unnecessary comment and you could have easily avoided any issue by not bringing up your preferences. That being said, I won't tell you that your preference is wrong, but I think it is probably rooted in insecurity whether you realize it or not. There is nothing about anyone's sexuality that dictates their loyalty or relationship compatibility. I could easily say that I would never date a straight man because they aren't trustworthy and are probably chatting up other girls while I'm dating them. I could say I wouldn't date a lesbian because she's probably going to find a hotter woman than me and leave me for her. Straight people are not inherently more loyal to their partner, straight people can be just as interested as threesomes and have just as many kinks as a bisexual or gay individual. Still, it's your preference. Just consider the fact that you're widely limiting the population of women that you would give a chance to, and if someone was your absolute dream girl and then you found out that she was bisexual so you cut contact, that would be your loss and not hers.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It depends on the reason. I mean it'd be pretty hard to tell if she was cheating or flirting cause she could cheat on you with anybody. Knowing so many people are judging you because your bi it really stressful. Most of bi people are a little over emotional about things like that. It might be best to explain you just don't feel comfortable with it. by the way i'm not bi but one of my close friends is.

TechnoGirl · Accepted Answer

Uhm.. i can understand both situations. You didn't need to mention 'only dating straight girls' that it kinda offending even from my point of view.
But your not wrong to tell her that either, maybe you should've turned her down nicely. And im the same, i only date straight men.

LesterJester · Accepted Answer

We'll first it isn't discrimination... You have every right to pick and choose who you are interested in regardless of reason. You're not a store refusing service to a customer ffs.

What is she going to do, complain to the police about discrimination and force you to date her?

She was upset and wasn't expecting that kind of response, I get that, but she went overboard calling discrimination. You like what you like and you don't what you don't in a partner.

If you don't like that she also likes girls, that's your business.

Bandit74 · Accepted Answer

Your only mistake was being honest and telling her that the reason you rejected her was because she was bisexual. You should have just made up a different reason for rejecting her like saying she's like a sister to you or that you wouldn't want to risk losing her as a friend.

Same thing goes for sexual history. If you think a girl has slept around and you dont want to date her because of that you should make up a different reason.

cavmanier · Answer

Would you be an asshole for not dating a man children or senior citizens? Preference is okay. I can also understand you would rather have a girl attracted to you and not a genders form that you don't resemble. That's totally logical I m o.

KindaAsocial123 · Answer

Nope you are not wrong. It's OK to have a preference. I am also straight guy and I only prefer completely straight woman. I don't prefer bisexual woman. Just because I don't prefer bisexual women doesn't mean that I am taking away their rights. There is nothing wrong to be bisexual. It's they who they are. Bisexuals should have respect on our preferences instead of getting upset. I don't understand why do some bisexual women assume that all straight guys are OK with their sexuality? Just because minority of perverted guys fetishize their sexuality doesn't mean majority will date them.

Listening5 · Answer

Its not wrong.
You are free to date whoever you want.
Its not discriminating, everyone has their preference, what they like and dont like. I wouldn't date a bisexual woman either, its not what Im into.
I prefer straight women.

SkeletonStardust · Answer

I don't see anything wrong with your preference. I wouldn't date a bisexual guy either. I don't know why some bisexual girls think that any straight guy would be ok with their sexuality.

Tanairy328 · Answer

No, your preferences is no one else's business. People need to understand that just because you won't date them doesn't mean you hate them or are trying to somehow take their rights away.

Anonymous · Answer

No of course not. That is what you prefer and are attracted to. There is nothing wrong with that and it should be respected. It's not like you are discriminating against bi people. I'm bisexual myself and yeah ya can't blame a guy for that.

rgb008 · Answer

No. You can turn down someone for what ever reason you see fit.

Rissyanne · Answer

I dont blame you... I wouldn't go out with a bisexual.

Kroakies_krickees · Answer

No. There's absolutely nothing wrong with preferring straight girls.

Anonymous · Answer

It's your preference dude. I wouldn't date a bisexual either since sooner or later, she's gonna want to go with girl. The majority of guys who love bi girls are either pervs, freaks, beta male cucks, and fuckboys that want to have a three way. Besides, the majority of bisexuals prefer women, so there's gonna be a good chance she'll be sexually unsatisfied. She's gonna have to deal with it since not everybody is gonna want to date a bisexual.

Anonymous · Answer

You are not alone. I hate bi girls

WhiteMason98 · Answer

No, it's not wrong. I wouldn't date a bi-girl either.

RationalMale · Answer

See, she confused "asshole" with "man who has common sense."

TWinchester · Answer

No, I think you are totally justified. Just like I wouldn't want to date a bisexual guy. It's just your preference, and you've got a right to it; it's not discriminating.

Anon1256 · Answer

I wouldn't, I'd tell her to get lost and find someone who's more open minded than me.

Anonymous · Answer

I exclusively date lesbians. That way I won't risk getting any STDs. :) :P

Anonymous · Answer

you need to ask her if she prefers women or men, and if you'd be her second option.. basically, if she'd be settling for you, or not

Chickengirl2001 · Answer

No, of course not. You can't help what your into

Kitten967 · Answer

No, it's fine to have a preference

Anonymous · Answer

honestly I think bisexual girls are gross for me to date so your not alone

ADFSDF1996 · Answer

Nope, it's just your preferences.

jacquesvol · Answer

You're missing a number of girls that way.

cadans · Answer

U dont know what can a bi girl give u

redlif3 · Answer

wait what?

karlc · Answer

nope

Anonymous · Answer

insecure much buddy?

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